Effective Communication and Dealing with Interpersonal Conflicts Opposite
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Effective Communication and Dealing with Interpersonal Conflicts Opposite sex Tutor: Yipsir www. yipsir. com. hk
WRITTEN ASSIGNMENTS Reflection Report (40%) 1. Writing a review to explore your own development with reference to theme taught in the classes. 2. A zero mark will be given to late submission if no convincing explanation is given. 3. Plagiarism will be penalised and may affect the award of the Pre-Associate Degree.
Criteria for assessment of assignment 1. The comprehensiveness and accuracy of the content 2. The appropriate application of knowledge 3. Clarity in presentation
1. around 800 words. 2. MUST be written in English. 3. Date of submission: 27 April 2007 (Friday), week 13. 4. No marks will be given to late submission. A spare copy of the paper should be kept by the student as a back up against any loss or damage to the original one.
Sample of A, B, C and F grades papers
Participation and round up (Case presentation) (30%) 1. 2. 3. 4. Punctuality and regular attendance Participate actively in all activities and discussions and prepare themselves well by reading the prescribed readings. to share opinions or argue their points and make the discussions an interesting and fruitful learning experience. In week 14 and 15, students will form groups of three. The presentation can be made in English or Cantonese. Each group has to select and decide a real case presentation and hand it to the responsible tutor before week 14.
Contents Close Relationships and Interpersonal Attraction 2. Conflict 1.
Activity 1 Your value on love
The following are for your reference: A: love relationship, B: sexual relationship, Fisherman: money, career and materialistic life, C: conventional moral standard and social norms, and D: family life and responsibility
Close Relationships and Interpersonal Attraction
Activity 2 Are you falling in love with someone?
Love is not to find the right person ; but to be the right one.
What Defines a Close Relationship? 1. Different types q friends q parents q children q siblings q romantic partners q married couples
What Defines a Close Relationship? 1. Different types q friends q parents q children q siblings q romantic partners q married couples
What Defines a Close Relationship? 2. Behavioral interdependence q the actions of two people have mutual impact on each other
What Defines a Close Relationship? 3. Need fulfillment q the relationship must meet some basic needs n n n emotional intimacy social integration (need for affiliation) assistance to be nurturing reassurance of our self-worth
What Defines a Close Relationship? 4. Emotional attachment q must be mutual feelings of love, affection, and/or admiration
What Defines a Close Relationship? 5. Dimensions of variance q intensity q commitment q emotion q sexuality q gender
How Do People Become Attracted? 1. Exposure q the more exposure we have to a stimulus, the more positively we evaluate it q mere exposure effect n repeated exposure to a stimulus produces familiarity, and familiarity breeds liking and attraction
How Do People Become Attracted? 2. Proximity q simple physical proximity can lead to liking q proximity was best predictor of friendship q if interactions are negative, then proximity will breed disliking
How Do People Become Attracted? 3. Attitude similarity q more attracted to people who hold similar attitudes to our own than dissimilar others q We like friends of our friends and our enemy’s enemy.
How Do People Become Attracted? 4. Physical attractiveness q a simple aesthetic appeal q in an experiment, students’ rated partner’s physical attractiveness and desire to see their date again q only physical attractiveness predicted the desire to date again (intelligence, sincerity, sensitivity) q men are more willing to admit it is important (Hatfield et al. , 1966)
How Do People Become Attracted? 4. Physical attractiveness Is beauty in the “eye of the beholder”? q matching hypothesis n people tend to chose partners who are similar to them in physical attractiveness (i. e. , a “good match”) n same-sex friendships, dating couples, cohabitants, married couples n people who don’t match on physical attractiveness may be trading other
How Do People Become Attracted? 5. Reciprocity p p People like positive feedback (Coleman, Jussim, & Abraham, 1987). Even obvious attempts at flattery increase liking (Drachman et. al. 1978).
How Do People Become Attracted? 6. Conditioning q q q Association with positive or negative stimulus influences attractiveness ratings. Negative mood leads to lower attractiveness ratings (Byrne & Clore, 1970). Unpleasant background music when meeting a person leads to subsequent lower attractiveness ratings (May & Hamilton, 1980)
Types of Love 1. Companionate love (友伴的愛) q feelings of mutual respect and trust q less emotionally volatile 易發作的, 易變 的 q often found in good friendships
Types of Love 2. Passionate love (激情的愛) q intense longing for the person q physiological arousal q much more emotionally volatile
Types of Love 1. Sternberg’s Tripartite Theory of Love q passion 激情: motivational component q intimacy 親密: emotional component q commitment 承諾: cognitive component
Sternberg’s Tripartite Theory of Love intimacy 親密 passion 激情 commitment 承諾 Non-love 無愛
Sternberg’s Tripartite Theory of Love intimacy 親密 passion 激情 commitment 承諾 liking 喜歡
Sternberg’s Tripartite Theory of Love intimacy 親密 passion 激情 commitment 承諾 Infatuation 迷戀
Sternberg’s Tripartite Theory of Love intimacy 親密 passion 激情 Empty love commitment 承諾 空洞的愛
Sternberg’s Tripartite Theory of Love intimacy 親密 passion 激情 commitment 承諾 Romantic love 浪漫的愛
Sternberg’s Tripartite Theory of Love intimacy 親密 passion 激情 commitment 承諾 Companionate love 友伴的愛
Sternberg’s Tripartite Theory of Love intimacy 親密 passion 激情 Fatuous love commitment 承諾 迷糊的愛
Sternberg’s Tripartite Theory of Love intimacy 親密 passion 激情 commitment 承諾 Consummate love 圓滿的愛
Progressing from casual dating to steady dating
As a couple moves through casual to steady dating there are various changes in the nature of the relationship. These include:
1. Spending more time in each other’s company
2. An increase in positive feelings towards each other; there is more liking, loving and trust 3. An increase in the expression of feelings, * both positive and negative; * potential for the growth of both intimacy and conflict.
4. Mutual disclosure of more intimate aspects of the self, * including attitudes and values about the other partner * relationship commitment.
5. An increased concern with the other’s welfare * joy is caused by their joy, * pain by their pain. 6. Sense of unity and commitment; * both partners increasingly view themselves as a unit, * Associated with this sense of shared identity, * reduce in uncertainty about the future of the relationship.
Long Term Relationship
Long Term Relationships 1. Stage theory (SVR) q stimulus: physical attractiveness q value: similarity of values and beliefs q role: fulfillment of roles and commitment
Long Term Relationships 2. investment model of relationships q investments -- things expended on the relationships that cannot be recouped q the more investment, the more stable
Long Term Relationships 2. investment model of relationships Rewards Costs Satisfaction CL Investments CLalt Stability Commitment to the Willingness to relationship accommodate Willingness to sacrifice (adapted from Rusbult, 1983)
Long Term Relationships 2. investment model of relationships q investments were as important as satisfaction in predicting relationship commitment
Successful Relationships Unsuccessful Relationships
Successful Relationships Items on which happy couples were more similar: 1) Avoiding arguments (‘yes dear’) 2) Contributing to charity 3) Reaction to illness 4) Being alone vs. being with friends during stressful times.
Successful Relationships Attitudes about others on which happy couples were more similar: 1) Energetic People 2) Conservatives and Liberals 3) Life Insurance
Successful Relationships Over the long haul, things that happier marriages tend to have: 1) The woman maintains passionate love (Alexander & Higgins, 1993). 2) More joint activities and projects 3) Laughing together 4) Satisfaction with children (if there are kids)
Unsuccessful Relationships Over the long haul, things that lead to divorce: 1) Infidelity/Jealousy 2) Failure to compromise 3) Failure to express emotions/communicate 4) Dissimilarity emerging over time (or being discovered over time). 5 ) Sexual dissatisfaction
Conclusion Many types of close relationships that vary along many dimensions 2. Interpersonal attraction is multifaceted, but physical attractiveness plays an important role 3. Love can vary in type and among different relationships 4. Relationship satisfaction and investment are critical to relationships stability 1.
Conflicts Management in Opposite Sex Relationship
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Functions of conflict 1. Reflects the different views and feelings of the couple. 2. If conflict could be coped, it promoted better mutual understanding. 3. If not, it paves future conflict in the relationship.
Conflict in dating Functions of conflict: Learn how to handle conflict (prepare for later conflict in marriage) 2. Promote better understanding 1. Hence, learning how to manage conflict in dating is absolutely important in premarital preparation.
Conflict management in dating A. The need to understand the differences between men and women in: - expectation towards being loved - expressing needs - emotions
Sexual differences towards conflict Male Female p Please the lover so as q Wants to be to win the loving pleased by the relationship. lover to make her (Achievement-oriented) feeling important. After marriage, will not q Wants solution at please her anymore. once. q Pushes for an p Needs ‘space’ to take a answer. break, to settle and to think of solution.
Sexual differences towards conflict Male q Not expressive on emotions and needs. q q Not sensitive enough to aware of his emotions and needs Not initiative enough to face conflict Female q More expressive on emotions and needs. q q More sensitive to aware of her emotions and needs More aggressive to push for an answer or solution.
Compromises in conflict 1. Fair compromises : - each of them gives in 1. Unfair compromise q Only one party gives in (It hurts one’s self-worth and self-image) (It builds an unhealthy relationship)
5 Major Components of Love 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Care Responsibility Respect Knowledge Commitment
Handling break-up of love 1. Need to bring out the discomfort and differences, discontentment etc 2. Talk about the above differences to see if they can be solved or not 3. Need to tell the partner the reasons for breaking-up. (Breaking-up suddenly without good reasons hurts the dignity and self-esteem of the partner. )
Handling break-up of love 1. To break up in an assertive manner so as not to create confusion or unclear message. 2. Don’t be afraid of facing the hurtful feelings of the partner. Tell him or her directly. 3. Both of you need time to adjust after the breaking-up.
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