Parenting A Guide to Parenting Skills for Life

Parenting A Guide to Parenting Skills for Life Parenting 1

Parenting Questions 1. What do you think are the most important jobs of a parent? 2. At what point in life do you think it’s a good time to become a parent? What accomplishments do you think are needed before becoming a parent? 3. What qualities do you admire about someone you think is a good parent? – share who it is if you like. 4. Do you think it’s important for the parenting role to be shared by two people? Why/Why not? 5. Which of the following stages in a child’s life do you think would be the most difficult to parent? Which would be the easiest? Why? – Infant (birth to 1 year) – Toddler (1 – 3) – Pre-schooler (4 -5) Parenting – Child (6 -9) – Adolescent (10 -12) – Teenager (13 -19) 2

Course Schedule 1 Introduction to Parenting 2 Care and Needs of an Infant – Introducing Baby 3 Safety, Health, and Care – part 1 4 Safety, Health, and Care – part 2 5 Attachment/Autonomy: Trust and Brain Development 6 Nurturing 7 Education and Literacy development 8 Recreation and Play 9 Parenting Styles 10 The Simulation Experience 11 Financial Support 12 Child Care/Day Care Options and Community Resources Course Summary and Post-test Parenting 3

Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development Infant Trust vs Mistrust Toddler Autonomy vs Shame and Doubt Preschooler Initiative vs Guilt School-Age Child Industry vs Inferiority Adolescent Identity vs Role Confusion Young Adult Intimacy vs Isolation Middle-Age Adult Generativity vs Stagnation Older Adult Integrity vs Despair Parenting 4

Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development Characteristics Infant Trust vs Mistrust Needs maximum comfort with minimal uncertainty to trust himself/herself, others, and the environment Toddler Autonomy vs Shame and Doubt Works to master physical environment while maintaining self-esteem Preschooler Initiative vs Guilt Begins to initiate, not imitate, activities; develops conscience and sexual identity School-Age Child Tries to develop a sense of self-worth by refining skills Parenting Industry vs Inferiority 5

Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development Characteristics Adolescent Identity vs Role Confusion Tries integrating many roles (child, sibling, student, athlete, worker) into a selfimage under role model and peer pressure Young Adult Learns to make personal commitment to another as spouse, parent or partner Intimacy vs Isolation Middle-Age Generativity Adult vs Stagnation Seeks satisfaction through productivity in career, family, and civic interests Older Adult Integrity vs Despair Reviews life accomplishments, deals with loss and preparation for death Parenting 6

Nurturing Parent Skills Model and teach empathy and kindness Foster your child’s self- respect and respect for others Express affection and warmth to your child through touch, voice and nonverbal endearments Acknowledge and attend to the full range of your child’s feelings Parenting 7

Nurturing Parent Skills - Answers Model and teach empathy and kindness Foster your child’s self- respect and respect for others Scenario 3 Scenario 4 Express affection and warmth to your child through touch, voice and nonverbal endearments Acknowledge and attend to the full range of your child’s feelings Scenario 1 Scenario 2 Parenting 8

5 Things Parents can do to Significantly Improve Language Development 1. ECHOING: When your child says a word, correctly repeat the word back to him or her. 2. RECASTING: Restate what your child says in a different way. For instance, if your child uses the word "cookie" and points to the cookie jar, add the word into a complete sentence like, "You would like to eat a cookie. " 3. EXPANDING: Use other descriptive words to add to the words your child uses. If your child says, "My doll, " then you should say, "Your doll has pretty brown eyes and long dark hair. " Parenting 9

5 Things Parents can do to Significantly Improve Language Development 4. LABELING: This technique is used from early on with most children. When your child is exposed to new things, say their names out loud several times. • Spend a lot of time communicating with your child from birth: talk, sing, encourage imitation of sounds and gestures through praise. Don’t wait until your child is able to respond in order to communicate. You’re laying the foundation for verbal skills by talking to them, even though they are yet too young to understand. – Look at your child when speaking so he/she can see how your lips, jaw and tongue move. – Teach correct names, e. g, instead of saying “piggies” say “toes” Parenting 10

5 Things Parents can do to Significantly Improve Language Development 5. READING: It has been proven time and again that children who are read to have an easier time speaking, reading and writing when they become school aged. Try letting your child "read" to you. Give them the book, let them turn the pages and tell you what it says. This is a good imagination builder also. Reading improves vocabulary, which will help your child in scoring well on standardizing testing throughout grade school and beyond. Parenting 11

5 Things Parents can do to Significantly Improve Language Development • Read to your child every day starting as early as 6 months • You don’t have to read the whole book or even read the words. Point out pictures and talk about what’s happening in the picture. As your child begins to develop language, have them read to you. • Good books for babies have the following qualities: – – • • Parenting Rhythmic appeal Colorful pictures Repetition Age-appropriate soft or board books A good example is Brown Bear – What Do You See? What other books can you think of that would meet the above criteria? 12

Child Play • A child should move from parent-guided to child-guided play over time gradually through play opportunities. • Parents should watch for clues from the child about whether they’re becoming bored, overstimulated, or restless. • The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends NO television before age 2. This includes programs made for babies. Parenting 13

Child Play Parent Guided Child Guided Sit on floor and model how to stack blocks Child takes a broom and pretends it’s a horse Show child how car goes on wheels Child picks up a car and pretends it is a fire truck driving to a burning building Draw a picture of cat Child asks for crayons to draw a picture Parenting 14

Parenting Styles Self Quiz – Results Add up your A’s, B’s, C’s and D’s Mostly A’s? PERMISSIVE parenting style Parents… • High in responsiveness • Few demands Children… • Treated as adults • Allowed to make own decisions • Have no imposed rules • Have few restrictions in their daily lives • Might have future problems dealing with rules • Often make decisions with consequences they’re not prepared to accept Parenting 15

Parenting Styles Self Quiz – Results Add up your A’s, B’s C’s and D’s Mostly B’s? AUTHORITARIAN parenting style Parents… • Demanding and may not give much in return • Very rigid and controlling • Low in responsiveness Children… • Might grow up feeling lost & without guidance • Could lack self-confidence in making decisions Parenting 16

Parenting Styles Self Quiz – Results Add up your A’s, B’s, C’s and D’s Mostly C’s? AUTHORITATIVE parenting style Parents… • Demanding, but give in return • Open to discussion & negotiating • Give children firmness & self-control • Parent-child relationship based on respect & routine • High in responsiveness Children… • Learn social skills • Have a positive self-image Parenting 17

Parenting Styles Self Quiz – Results Add up your A’s, B’s, C’s and D’s Mostly D’s? UNINVOLVED parenting style • Few Demands • Low in responsiveness • May be neglectful or both rejecting & neglectful • Children & adolescents whose parents are uninvolved perform most poorly in all domains (social, instrumental, etc. ) Parenting 18

Parenting Styles Axis Parenting 19

Natural vs. Logical Consequences For each situation think of a NATURAL and LOGICAL consequence. 1. Jenny leaves her scooter in the driveway. 2. Jake checks out a library book and loses it. 3. Traci stays out past her agreed upon curfew. 4. Sean throws his clothes on the floor, not in the hamper. 5. John forgets to feed his goldfish for 3 weeks. 6. Joni eats cookies right before lunch without permission. 7. Denise’s teacher sends home a note because she isn’t turning in schoolwork. Parenting 20

Childcare Options – Debate Rules • 2 minute position presentation – Pro day care • 2 minute position presentation – Con day care (parent stay home) • 2 minute work period for rebuttals • 2 minute rebuttal - Pro • 2 minute rebuttal - Con • 2 minute work period for responses • 2 minute response - Pro • 2 minute response - Con • 1 minute work period for summaries • 2 minute Position Summary - Pro or Con • 3 minute tallying of scores/announcement of winner Parenting 21