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Parenting Skills Building Strong Families
Parenting Skills � Parenting skills do not always come naturally or easily. � Parenting is a learning process that occurs each day. � Parents have to work at it. � Parents must understand meet children’s needs
Children’s Needs � Physical- food, clothing, shelter, health and safety. � Emotional and Social › feeling safe, loved, cared for › learn how to make friends and work with others � Intellectual- stimulation, opportunity to learn, and become educated
Deprivation �A lack of the critical needs and encouraging environment that are essential for physical, emotional, and intellectual well-being. � Children may fall behind other children their own age in their overall development.
Parenting Styles � How parents and other caregivers care for and discipline children. � No one parenting style is right or wrong � You pick the style that works with your personality and for your child
Parenting Styles � Authoritarian › The parent believes the child should obey them without question. › The parent tells a child what to do and it’s the child’s responsibility to do it. › When rules are broken, the parent responds quickly and firmly.
Parenting Styles � Assertive-Democratic › Children have more input into the rules and limits of the home. › Learning to take responsibility is importantchildren are given a certain amount of freedom and independence within the rules. › When rules are broken- learn best from accepting the results of their actions �Work together to find an acceptable punishment.
Parenting Style � Permissive › Parents give children a wide range of freedom. › Children may set their own rules › Parents ignore rule breaking
Guide Children’s Behavior Guidance- using firmness and understanding to help children learn how to behave � Outcome of Effective Guidance � › To learn self-discipline (ability to control one’s own behavior. ) › Get along with others & how to deal with their feelings in acceptable ways. › Promotes security and positive self-esteem › The difference between right and wrong › Develop a conscience
Encourage Appropriate Behavior � Be a Role Model � Give Effective Direction � Set Limits
Be A Role Model � Children learn best by being shown what to do, rather than just being told what to do. � Parents need to demonstrate at all times the behavior they would like to see in their own children.
Give Effective Direction Be sure you have the child’s attention. � Be polite. � Use positive statements. � Use specific words that the child can understand. � Begin with an action verb � Give a limited number of directions at a time � Be clear. � Give praise and love �
Set Limits � Children need limits to grow into responsible adults. � Limits should keep children from hurting themselves, other people, or property. � Children will respect and follow guidelines if they are reasonable. � Parents need to be consistent in enforcing limits
Determining Limits � Ask Yourself: › Does the limit allow the child to learn, explore, and grow? › Is the limit fair and appropriate for the child’s age? › Does the limit benefit the child, or is it just for the adult’s convenience?
PARENTING REVIEW: What is deprivation? � A lack of the critical needs and encouraging environment that are essential for physical, emotional, and intellectual well-being. How does deprivation affect children? � Children may fall behind other children their own age in their overall development.
PARENTING REVIEW: What are the 3 types of Parenting Styles? � Authoritarian � Assertive-Democratic � Permissive
PARENTING REVIEW: What are the 3 ways you can encourage appropriate behavior? � Be a Role Model � Give Effective Directions � Set Limits
Set Limits Review � Limits must be › stated simply, briefly, and in a calm, direct tone. › Be clear. › Firmly and consistently enforced � Limits may often need to be repeated or explained in another way. � Redirection is important. It suggests that the child does something else
Responding to Misbehavior � Is the expected behavior appropriate, given the child’s age and development? � Does the child understand that the behavior was wrong? � Did the child do the behavior knowingly and deliberately, or was it beyond the child’s control?
Effective Punishment � Correct behavior is important and there are consequences for poor choices. THE MESSAGE: � Parents should clearly show they disapprove of the behavior but they still love the child. � Warnings are okay.
Positive Reinforcement �A response that encourages a particular behavior. � When children learn that an action wins attention and approval from adults, they are likely to repeat that actions.
Positive Reinforcement � Be specific � Comment on the behavior as soon as possible. � Recognize small steps. � Help children take pride in their actions. � Tailor the encouragement to the needs of the child. � Use positive reinforcement wisely
Negative Reinforcement �A response aimed at strengthening desired behavior by removing an unpleasant trigger.
Negative Reinforcement � Natural Consequences › Children suffer from the actual result of their action. › Parents do not lecture � Logical Consequences › Connected to the misbehavior › Parents need to follow through
Negative Reinforcement � Loss of Privileges › Take away a privilege › Appropriate for 5 or older � Time Out › A short period in which a child sits away from other people and the center of activity. › Not their room
Poor Disciplinary Measures � Bribing � Making Children to Behave � Shouting or Yelling � Shaming or belittling � Threatening to Withhold Love � Exaggerating Consequences
Consistency in Guidance � Being consistent, or continually the same, is key to guiding children’s behavior. � Helps children know what is expected of them and the expected discipline. � Children lose trust and confidence in the caregiver who constantly change rules or fail to enforce rules in a consistent way.
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