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Leader “ship” Small Helms…Large Ships

Five experiences… • My college roommate on GMA • Watchcare

Red Brick Store • …to assist the Brethren in looking to the wants of the poor – searching after objects of charity, and in administering to their wants

Something Extraordinary • Church History Museum

• Sarah Cleveland – Nauvoo Female Relief Society • Discussions about the word “relief” • John Taylor – “Benevolent”

Neither one liked the word “benevolent” • Current popularity – didn’t want to be called after other Societies of the day • Eliza wondered if “relief” might convey “that we intend appropriating on some extraordinary occasions instead of meeting the common occurrences”

• Emma Smith, told the women, "We are going to do something extraordinary-when a boat is stuck on the rapids, with a multitude. . . on board, we shall consider that a loud call for relief -we expect extraordinary occasions and pressing calls. " (Minutes of the Female Relief Society of Nauvoo, 17 Mar. 1842. )

Jacob 2 How did Jacob feel about his calling? • Weighed down But, • More desire and notwithstanding the anxiety for the welfare greatness of the task, of souls than ever Ibefore must do according to the strict commands of • Grieveth my soul God…under the glance • of Causeth me to shrink the piercing eye of • Burdeneth my soul the Almighty God.

Moses Exodus 3 • Who am I that I should go to Pharaoh? • What shall I say? • They will not believe me • I am not eloquent • I am slow of speech • Send whom thou wilt send (someone else)

Bottled message #1 D&C 123: 16 -17 • You know, brethren, that a very large ship is benefited very much by a very small helm in the time of a storm, by being kept workways with the wind and the waves. • Therefore, dearly beloved (sisters), let us cheerfully do all things that lie in our power; and then may we stand still, with the utmost assurance, to see the salvation of God, and for his arm to be revealed.

What do we learn about weathering the storms in our callings?

What do we learn about weathering storms in leadership and in our lives? Do something extraordinary We must have a vision of the work Small helms By small and simple are great works brought to pass Storms are a part of life Keep workways We need to stay in a working position in the midst of difficulties Do cheerfully How do we remain cheerful? What do we do to cope?

All that lies in Know the things that we can and can’t do our power Stand still Be at peace, seek times of quiet contemplation Utmost assurance Act in faith, not fear His arm is revealed This is the foundational principle of the gospel on both a temporal and spiritual level. His atonement accomplishes what we can not

“Small Helms” How to be women of influence? • And it is only too true that many persons drift so carelessly and aimlessly through the world as to allow their surroundings to rule them, instead of impressing the character of a determined human will and noble purpose upon every thing that comes in their way. • -Brigham Young, Contributor, vol 10, Sept 1889, 422 -234

“Small Helms” How to be women of influence? • It is not for you to be led by the women of the world; it is for you to…lead…the women of the world, in everything that is praiseworthy, everything that is God-like, everything that is uplifting and…purifying to the children of men. • -Joseph F Smith, RS Gen Board Minutes, 17 March 1914

Leadership For Saints, Ed Pinegar, Roger Dean Duncan, 9 -10 Transactional Transformational Leader Initiating change in those he serves Routine Influence people to improve, stretch Meetings run on time Mighty change of heart Making sure the train is on the right Administrative details track, that it is headed in the right properly handled direction, and that everyone who Making sure the train runs wants to make the trip has a ticket on time

• It is my meditation all the day, and more than my meat and drink, to know how I shall make the Saints of God comprehend the visions that roll like an overflowing surge before my mind. Oh! How I would delight to bring before you things which you never thought of! But poverty and the cares of the world prevent…

• There has been a great difficulty in getting anything into the heads of this generation. It has been like splitting hemlock knots with a corn-dodger (a piece of corn bread) for a wedge, and a pumpkin for a beetle (a Wooden mallet). Even the Saints are slow to understand. • -Joseph Smith

Profound, Persistent and Resistant Problems • By small and simple things are great things brought to pass Vital Behaviors Use Six Sources of Influences Results Jogging, internet

All change is based on two factors: • Am I motivated? • Can I do it? Three things influence those two factors: 1) Personal 2) Social 3) Structural

Motivation Ability 1)Make the 2) Surpass your limits Personal undesirable Values Social 3) Harness peer Support pressure Skills 4) Find strength in Teamwork numbers 5) Design rewards and 6) Change the environment Structural accountability Incentive Environment

Change the way you change minds Direct Experience Field trip Vicarious Experience Storytelling Verbal Persuasion

Motivation Ability 1)Make the 2) Surpass your limits Personal undesirable Values Social 3) Harness peer Support pressure Skills 4) Find strength in Teamwork numbers 5) Design rewards and 6) Change the environment Structural accountability Incentive Environment

Motivation Ability 1)Make the 2) Surpass your limits Provide a “baptism of Give Joseph Smith 10 fire” to help people lose years mentoring between Personal undesirable Soci al the desire to do evil the First Vision and founding the Church Help Ammon convert 3) Harness peer Lamoni to influence pressure other converts 4) Find strength in Send Abinadi to teach Alma before Alma numbers founds a church Create a famine in Egypt 5) Design rewards and 6) Change the Encourage Nephites to to influence Israelite keep the Structural demand accountability environment commandments by promising they will “prosper in the land” migration

Ma Naoheakamalu Manuhii 1832 -1919 In 1854, President Joseph F Smith came to Hawaii as an orphaned fifteen year old missionary. He became desperately ill, and for three months was tenderly cared for by a dear sister, M Naoheakamalu Manuhii and her husband Many years later, returning now as president of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, this tender incident was recorded: “In the midst of all the celebrating, a poor blind woman was led to the prophet. She was calling, “Iosepa, Iosepa. ” Instantly, he ran to her and clasped her in his arms, hugging and kissing her – saying, “Mama, my dear old mama. ”

“The women of this church have been doing ordinary things with extraordinary results”

“Small Helms” How to be women of influence? • Leaders prepare other leaders

Keep workways Do Cheerfully • Personal Balance: Your being vs doing • Coping with feelings of failure or depression • Leadership positions don’t protect us from temptation ie King David

Do all in your power

A ship is safe in the harbor, but that’s not what ships are made for. William Shedd

• I have enjoyed these words of Jenkins Lloyd Jones, which I clipped from the newspaper some years ago. Said he: • (The fact is) most putts don’t drop. Most beef is tough. Most children grow up to be just people. Most successful marriages require a high degree of mutual toleration. Most jobs are more often dull than otherwise…

• Life is like an old-time rail journey with delays, sidetracks, smoke, dust, cinders and jolts, interspersed only occasionally by beautiful vistas and thrilling bursts of speed. The trick is to thank the Lord for letting you have the ride. • Gordon B Hinckley, Ensign, March 1997, 60

The End

• A vision without a task is but a dream. • A task without a vision is drudgery. • A vision with a task is the hope of the world.

• The winter of 1838 -39 • One of the most trying times in the history of the Church

Let us cheerfully do all things… • But the lessons of the winter of 1838 -39 teach us that every experience can become a redemptive experience if we remain bonded to our Father in Heaven through it. These difficult lessons teach us that man’s extremity is God’s opportunity, and if we will be humble and faithful, if we will be believing and not curse God for our problems, He can turn the unfair and inhumane and debilitating prisons of our lives into temples – or at least into a circumstance that can bring comfort and revelation, divine companionship and peace. • Jeffrey R Holland, Ensign, Sept 2009

• A well-developed sense of humor is the pole that adds balance to your steps as you walk the tightrope of life. • William Arthur Ward

Influence requires optimism and realism • A balance of faith and facts is essential • A leader believes those she leads can do hard things • Anything worth doing takes longer, costs more, is harder than expected • Difficult isn’t bad, it’s just difficult • A leader believes things will ultimately work out – a crisis is too good an opportunity to waste • Es pres Bensen “we can do it, I know we can” • Pres Monson – those struggling in faith “I would say don’t ever give up” • Pres Hinckley – “things will work out” Korean mission president had experienced flood – response London temple bailing water, Noah had a worse time • Churchill paradox – terrible time – but we will fight

What do we learn about weathering storms in leadership and in our lives? Do something extraordinary We must have a vision of the work Small helms By small and simple are great works brought to pass Storms are a part of life, its how we weather them that changes us Keep workways We need to stay in a working position in the midst of difficulties Do cheerfully How do we remain cheerful? What do we do to cope?

All that lies in Know the things that we can and can’t do our power Stand still Be at peace, seek times of quiet contemplation Utmost assurance Act in faith, not fear His arm is revealed This is the foundational principle of the gospel on both a temporal and spiritual level. His atonement accomplishes what we can not

• Leadership is much less a function of position than it is of influence. And while it is true that some “leadership traits” come as gifts or inherited attributes, it is also true that effective leadership can be learned.

• • • Leadership in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is not just about conducting meetings or “sitting on the stand. ” At every level, leadership in the Church is about learning how to become an instrument in the Lord’s hands to minister to His children. Leadership in the Church is about vision and imagination and stretching for greater heights. It’s about affirmation and encouragement. It’s about teaching and correcting. It’s about good listening and good coaching. It’s about planning with a purpose and turning good plans into good results. It’s about changing lives for the better. When you become a more effective leader—at home, at church, in the community and elsewhere—your life changes for the better, too. In the weeks to come, we will share principles and practices that will boost your confidence as well as your competence.

Small Helms…Large Ships

“Keep Workways with the Wind and Waves” D&C 123: 16 -17 General Relief Society Broadcast Sat Sept 29 th 6 -10 pm It’s a night out with the women. Join us for an Enriching Evening on the Seven Cs Consuming: Dinner 6: 30 Communicate: in the Family Chocolate: Dessert! 7: 00 Connect: recording family stories Create: Photography Demo Culture: Book Discussion Counsel: RS Broadcast 8: 00

Jacob 1 How did Jacob magnify his calling? • • Obtained mine errand from the Lord Had been consecrated teachers Taking upon us the responsibility Teach them the word of God with all diligence • Labor with our might