University of Iowa College of Engineering Hanson Center
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University of Iowa College of Engineering Hanson Center for Technical Communication
Soft Skills for a Hard World October 2013 Copyright 2013 Denise M. Blommel, PLLC
Donald R. Doerres, II Master Engineer University of Iowa BSEE 1973 don@azlaborlaw. com
Denise Blommel Denise M. Blommel, PLLC Attorney/Mediator 7272 E. Indian School Road, Suite 206 Scottsdale, AZ 85251 480 -425 -7272 denise@azlaborlaw. com www. azlaborlaw. com
Technology and the 24/7 Lifestyle
Limited Social Interaction
Work/Life Imbalance
Diversity Differences in Race, Color, National Origin, Religion, Gender, Sexual Orientation, Disability, Age, Veteran Status, Personality and the Way One Thinks.
Key Words • Dialogue • Discussion • Conversation
COMMUNICATE • • • Face To Face Telephone Text Email Social Media
LEVELS OF COMMUNICATION 1. Humor/courtesy 2. Facts/information 3. Expression of opinions, feelings and insights 4. Sharing of deep feelings and personal secrets Meis and Markey-Meis WHEN FAMILIES MARRY
PRINCIPLES OF COMMUNICATION 1. What We Say May Not Be What Is Heard.
Types of Communication • Visual • Aural • Kinesthetic
Peter Senge on Questions • 40% are statements in disguise • 40% are judgments in disguise • 20% are true questions
Venting and Repetition
PRINCIPLES OF COMMUNICATION 2. Messages Contain Thoughts And Emotions.
Why vs. Help Me Understand
PRINCIPLES OF COMMUNICATION 3. How We Physically Respond Is A Better Indicator Than What We Say.
Tone of Voice Body Language Diction
How Many Sentences? I never said that to him.
Sentence Two I really didn’t mean it.
PRINCIPLES OF COMMUNICATION 4. There is an appropriate time and an appropriate place.
DIFFERENCES IN COMMUNICATION • Gender differences • Age differences • Cultural differences • Language barriers • Others?
SOME BARRIERS TO COMMUNICATION • • Negotiation Style Perceptions of Fairness Personal Needs Outside Distractions
There is no one right answer for everything…
LISTENING The Chinese Characters for Listening: 1. Ear 2. Eye 3. Heart 4. King Gather Perceive Sense Respect Copyright Covisioning 2001
LISTENING Ear King Eye Heart Copyright Covisioning 2001
Guides to Good Listening • • • BE INTERESTED. WEIGH CONTENT. BE PATIENT. FOCUS ON CENTRAL IDEAS. BE FLEXIBLE. PRACTICE LISTENING. RESIST DISTRACTIONS. EXERCISE THE MIND. KEEP THE MIND OPEN.
There is a difference between understanding another’s position and condoning it.
CONFLICT RESOLUTION
CONFLICT • Conflict is a part of life. • Conflict does not mean failure. • Conflict leads to change and growth
People do not need to agree on beliefs or values but only as to arrangements for the future.
The Iceberg of Conflict Issues _______ Personalities Emotions Interests Needs Desires Self-Perceptions Self-Esteem Hidden Expectations Unresolved Issues from Past Cloke & Goldsmith
Costs of Unresolved Conflict • • • Wasted time Bad decisions Unnecessary restructuring Health costs Formal costs e. g. litigation Job dissatisfaction Dr. Daniel Dana CONFLICT RESOLUTION
Options for Resolving Conflict • Avoidance • Collaboration – Negotiate – Mediate • Higher Authority – Chain of command – Litigate • Unilateral Power Play Slaiku, WHEN PUSH COMES TO SHOVE
Problem Resolution Set • Absolution: Ignore a problem and hope it goes away. • Solution: Do something to produce a positive outcome. • Resolution: Do something to produce the best possible outcome. • Dissolution: Eliminate the cause of the problem. From WHEN FAMILIES MARRY by Finian Meis and Tara Markey-Meis
Seven Steps to Solution
SEVEN STEPS TO SOLUTION 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. Find the time and place to talk Decide upon ground rules Listen to each other Ascertain issue and core value involved Identify common goals Explore options Make a plan for the future
SEVEN STEPS TO SOLUTION 1. Find the time and place to talk
The Meeting • • • Invitation to meet Securing a location Eliminate distractions Environmental factors Ensure timing is right
SEVEN STEPS TO SOLUTION 2. Decide upon ground rules
Sample Ground Rules • • • Be respectful of one another No personal attacks Do not interrupt Try to understand the other’s point of view Confidentiality No reloading
SEVEN STEPS TO SOLUTION 3. Listen to each other
LISTENING BEHAVIORS • Listen for the Facts • Understand the Speaker (Empathic Listening) • Active Listening • Paraphrase/Summarize to understand
Helpful Phrases • “Help Me Understand” • • “It sounds like…” “It seems like…. ” “We cannot change the past” “One option for resolution is…” “What do you suggest? ” “I really need to understand more…” “What’s it going to take? ” “It is common to react this way when…”
SEVEN STEPS TO SOLUTION 4. Ascertain issue and core value involved
Focus on Interests • • Interests = Needs + Core Values Wants vs. Needs The story of the orange Reframing – Change the game by changing the frame – Change perception to see new possibilities
SEVEN STEPS TO SOLUTION 5. Identify common goals
What do we need to accomplish?
SEVEN STEPS TO SOLUTION 6. Explore options
17 Camels • Elderly tribal chief passes away & leaves his camel herd to his 3 sons • Stipulates the following in his will: – Eldest son to receive 1/2 of herd – Second eldest to receive 1/3 of herd – Youngest to receive 1/9 of herd
17 Camels 3 Sons Visit the Village Elder • • Sons unable to agree on division of camels Each brother presents his issue Each wants fair share of herd Elder tells them she will lend them one camel to resolve the dispute • Only asks that camel be returned when no longer needed
17 Camels Resolution • 1/2 of 18 = 9 • 1/3 of 18 = 6 • 1/9 of 18 = 2 17 • 18 th camel no longer needed • YOUR ROLE -- help find the 18 th camel!
SEVEN STEPS TO SOLUTION 7. Make a plan for the future
PRINCIPLES OF AGREEMENTS • The Past Can’t be Changed - Focus on Future • Any Settlement is a Gamble - for All Parties.
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