EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE WHAT DOES THAT ACTUALLY MEAN Recreation

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE WHAT DOES THAT ACTUALLY MEAN? Recreation Leader Workshop 2019 Brooke Walsh

Emotional Intelligence The capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically. Found by Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer in 1990 “a form of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them, and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and action”

MORE RESEARCH Daniel Goleman, a science writer for the New York Times, started working on EI research in the 1990 s. His argument was cognitive intelligence did not guarantee business success. Emotionally intelligent people have four characteristics: They are good at understanding their own emotions. They are good at managing their emotions. They are empathetic to the emotional drives of other people. They are good at handling other people’s emotions.

IQ “the ability to acquire and apply knowledge and skills. ” Ability is the key word. Also includes your collection of knowledge. Does not change from when you are born. Which is king? IQ or EI?

WHY WOULD THIS HELP YOU Humans are made to feel. Motivation is fueled by emotion. The average human experiences 27 emotions hour. We are usually awake for 17 hours a day. That is 457 emotions every day! Possessing the ability to harness the power of those emotions is crucial.

THE HUMAN BRAIN

EI and how it fits together

SELF AWARENESS The ability to recognize and understand your moods, emotions, drives, as well as their effect on others You are who you are! Let’s Play a Game!

SELF MANAGEMENT The ability to control or redirect disruptive impulses and moods, the propensity to suspend judgement, to think before acting Breathe!

Aggressive Crazy Hateful Nice Terrible Angry Curious Hot Overjoyed Thankful Anticipation Awe Bad Dejected Disgust Down Hysterical Important Impressed Poor Proud Boiling Energy Bold Enthusiastic Brave Excited Kind Remorse Calm Fine Lazy Sad Careful Flattered Love Safe Clumsy Fury Mad Shy Comfortable Glad Mean Silly Content Cowardly Happy Helpful Itchy Optimistic Joyful Miserable Puzzled Rage Strong Nauseated Surprised Tired Unhappy Unprotected Warm Weak Weird Well

SOCIAL AWARENESS The ability to understand respond to the needs of others. The ability to understand the emotional makeup of other people, skill in treating people according to their emotional reactions (empathy) Listen. In order to listen you must stop talking. Body Language, tone, volume, speed of movement. Ask clarifying questions. Think back the emotions from Self Management.

RELATIONSHIP AWARENESS SOCIAL SKILLS Proficiency in managing relationships and building networks, an ability to find common ground and build rapport. Importance of understanding your own emotions Empathizing how their emotions effect the same situation If you are too direct about confronting their emotions, it could lead to defensiveness

TEAM EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE Fostering Productivity How everyone reacts individually and as a whole Internal and External Relationships

PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT

DEVELOPMENT Ask Questions. Work on one section at a time. They will blend together! Gets stronger with age and world experience. Start now! Management Levels as they relate to emotional intelligence Grow Connections between your feelings and your reason

Thank you! Go forth and be awesome!