HAVE A SONG YOU WANT TO HEAR COME

HAVE A SONG YOU WANT TO HEAR? COME UP & PLAY ONE!

Real Beal Girl Talk

Who Are We? Amanda Topping PROVINCIAL YOUTH OUTREACH WORKER

What can YOWs do? • • Basic Need Support (food & transport) Resumes/Finding jobs Volunteer Opportunities Training Expense Listening support Advocacy Much more. . .

Who Are We? Jennifer Hill PROJECT MANAGER

Crazy About Mental Health? • Research Project to decrease stigma of mental health • Locally in London • Using our communities voices to empower • Right by You Campaign- youth focus • Community events

Why we’re here? üTalk about relationships üDiscuss social media and bullying üWay to resolve conflict üShare stories, music, videos üHave a good time!

Before we discuss relationships with others…. …. let’s talk about our relationship with OURSELVES! Ø Make sure we are healthy before expecting healthy relationships with others Ø Awareness of our feelings, habits, routines, etc

Mental Health Scale

Mental Health & Youth Mental health affects us all, how much does it affect Canadian youth? v 10 -20% of Canadian youth affected by mental illness v 3. 2 million youth age 12 -19 years risk of depression v. Suicide accounts for leading cause of accidental death in youth 13 -24 years v 1/5 youth who need mental health services receives them

‘GET WRAPPED’ üGet into teams üPick 2 people to be wrapped üStand back to back üAnswer the question yes, wrap once around the body ***DO NOT WRAP ABOVE THE SHOULDERS***

Your Thoughts? How was it being wrapped? How did it feel after wrap was cut off?

What do you do to relax?

Self Care It is important to make time and take care of our body and minds. • • Healthy Eating Physical activity Reduce stress Mindfulness Set goals, make a plan Say ‘no’ when needed Be good to yourself!!

Legend of the Dream Catcher Hang a dream catcher above you while you sleep. Native philosophy believes that negative energy gets caught in the web of the dream catcher. This leaves the sleeping person below with positive dreams. The negative energy burns away with the morning’s sun.

Who Can You Go To For Help? ü ü Parent School Nurse Guidance Counsellor Trusted adult – aunt/uncle, older sibling, sports coach ü Emergency Response Team (911, Distress Centre Mobile Unit) ü Hospital Emergency Who Else?

Community Mental Health Resources

Now that we have ourselves figured out. . . we can have healthy relationships with others.

Relationships f o s d in k t a h o W d s p i h s n o i t rela r u o n i e v a h e w lives? How are th differ ey ent?

What are things that can put stress on a friendship? Your thoughts?

Relationship Strains ü Distance - moves, school ü Time spent – too much, or not enough ü No common interests ü Personal Issues - family, relationship, identity ü School environment ü Others?

What makes a healthy relationship?

Healthy Relationships… t r o p Sup Negotia tion Resp ect t s u Tr Hone sty Equality What Else Do You Value?

What makes a unhealthy relationship?

Unhealthy Relationships… Control y t i l i t s Ho , l a c i s y h P : e Abus l D a u e x p e e S n , l d a n e o nce i t o m E Intimidation What are some other signs?

There are no perfect ingredients. .

Friendship Give & Take

Conflict happens

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Conflict types Verbal vs. physical Loud vs. quiet Personal vs. relational In person vs. online Others?

Social Media and Relationships • Types of relationships • Cyber Bullying • Privacy + Staying Safe

Case Study • Amanda Todd, 15 • From B. C. , Canada • Victim of online stalking and bullying • Social Media main tool for offences • Family advocates to criminalize cyberbullying

How to Manage conflict üThink before you act üBreath, talk a walk üBrain storm-think of solutions üListen & contribute üSelf-care üBoundaries & privacy- secrets üDon't believe everything you hear, check the source üThink of consequences of your actions üUltimately, slow down, think about it, before acting with emotion

Questions?