Chapter 6 Communication Healthy Relationships Effective Communication Communication

Chapter 6 Communication Healthy Relationships

Effective Communication �Communication is the process of sharing information, thoughts, or feelings. � 4 skills: “I” Messages: An “I” message is a statement that expresses your feelings, but does not blame or judge the other person. �Ex: you can say to a friend, “I am upset that we didn’t talk last night. ”

Communication Skills Cont. �Active Listening: is focusing your full attention on what the other person is saying and letting that person know you understand care. �Ex: Show your interest by looking at the person. Then, encourage the speaker to begin speaking.

Assertiveness. �When you are assertive, you are able to stand up for yourself.

Body Language �Definition: includes posture, gestures, facial expressions, and body movements. �Ex: Most Americans expect you to make eye contact, or meet their gaze, when you talk with them. �But in some cultures, making eye contact in some situations is a sign of disrespect.

3 THINGS THAT PEOPLE LOOK FOR IN FRIENDS… �honest reactions �encouragement during bad times �understanding when they make mistakes

QUALITIES �LOYALITY: “BEING TRUE AT ALL TIMES. . ” �Ex: If we’re loyal, we won’t tear a friend down behind her back or share her personal story without her permission. It’s easy to gossip or pass judgment; it’s much harder to keep silent “True friendship cannot be built on false images. We must be true to �HONESTY: “TRUTHFUL, NO MATTER THE ourselves” COST. ” �EMPATHY: is the capacity to recognize emotions that are being experienced by another sentient or fictional being. �RELIABILITY: Able to be trusted, predictable and dependable

Problems � 1. Envy � 2. Jealous � 3. Cruelty � 4. Manipulation

Support �Be Available �Listen to them �Don’t Judge �Stay in touch

Things you can learn while Dating � 1. His or Her Personality � 2. Interests and hobbies � 3. Skills and abilities � 4. Values and Beliefs

Dating Violence �Define: It is a pattern of emotional, physical, or sexual abuse that occurs in a dating relationship. One partner tries to gain control over the other… �Cycle Of Violence: (Repeats over) �a tension-building stage �a violent episode �a calm or “honeymoon” stage �Complete activity( Groups of two)

Examples of Stages

Warning Signs �Your date is jealous when you talk to others. �You date makes all the decisions. �Your date has a history of bad relationships �You feel isolated from your friends and family. . �You feel less self-confident

Definitions �Emotional Intimacy: The openness, sharing, affection, and trust that can develop in a close relationship. �Two Skills: 1. Communication (I messages) 2. Same Interests �Abstinence: The act of refraining from, or not having, sex. 1. Setting clear limits • 2. Communicating your limits • 3. Avoiding high-pressure situations �Skills Include:

Violence �Is the threat of or actual force against oneself or another person. Violence often results in injury or death. �Hazing: Is requiring a person to do degrading , risky, or illegal acts in order to join a group.

Stopping the Violence!! Hazing Bullying �Prevention can be �Don’t make jokes at established with strict school policies and enforcement from school teachers and Administrators. others expense or single out a person for exclusion. �Don’t reward a bully with laughter or other positive attention. �Speak up. Silence is seen as approval. �Don’t believe rumors and don’t spread rumors.

6 rules for mediating a conflict � 1. Stay calm � 2. Choose the time and place carefully for the confrontation. � 3. Don’t use put downs. � 4. Allow each person to state his or her view of the problem. � 5. Identify solutions � 6. Conclude with a resolution