HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS SIGNS OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS RESPECT

HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

SIGNS OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS • RESPECT • TRUST • HONESTY • COMMUNICATION

SIGNS OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP • PARTNERSHIP • FRIENDSHIP • ENJOYMENT

RED FLAGS • EXTREME JEALOUSY • POSSESSIVENESS &CONTROLLING • EMOTIONAL ABUSE • EXPLOSIVE ANGER • MOOD SWINGS • SADNESS

DATING VIOLENCE • USE OF PHYSICAL, SEXUAL, EMOTIONAL, VERBAL, AND FINANCIAL ABUSE FOR THE PURPOSE OF GAINING AND MAINTAINING CONTROL AND POWER OVER ANOTHER IN AN INTIMATE OR ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP.

• IN YOUR GROUPS…DISCUSS WHETHER EACH SCENARIO IS DATING VIOLENCE

EMOTIONAL ABUSE • BEING SUBJECTED TO CRITICISMS, POSSESSIVENESS, JEALOUSLY AND HUMILIATION

PHYSICAL ABUSE •

SEXUAL ABUSE •

WHY DO PEOPLE STAY IN RELATIONSHIPS?

• LOVE • CARING FOR THE ABUSER AND HOLDING ON TO THE GOOD THINGS ABOUT THIS PERSON AND THE GOOD • TIMES IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP. • HOPE • HANGING ONTO THE PROMISES AND APOLOGIES GIVEN, AND TRYING TO GIVE THE BENEFIT OF THE • DOUBT THAT THINGS WILL IMPROVE. • FEAR • LISTENING AND BELIEVING THE THREATS GIVEN BY THE ABUSER TOWARDS YOU OR OTHERS OR EVEN • BELIEVING THE INSULTS OR CRITICISM THAT THE ABUSER GIVES YOUI. T IS IMPORTANT TO TAKE THREATS • SERIOUSLY, AS ABUSERS OFTEN ACT ON THEIR THREATS CAUSING HARM OR EVEN DEATH TO THE VICTIM. • THEREFORE, SEEKING SAFETY AND ASSISTANCE IS STRONGLY RECOMMENDED

• LEAVING THE RELATIONSHIP MIGHT NOT END THE ABUSE… • MOST ABUSED PARTNERS REPORT INCREASED HARASSMENT OR EVENVIOLENCE AFTER THEY BREAK OFF THE RELATIONSHIP. • 75% OF WOMEN WHO DIE DUE TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ARE KILLED AFTER LEAVING THE RELATIONSHIP.

DATING TIPS • WATCH OUT FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE AGGRESSIVE AND VIOLENT IN EVERYDAY LIFE. • GET TO KNOW THE PERSON BEFORE YOU GO OUT BY YOURSELF, GO WITH A GROUP OF FRIENDS. • TELL SOMEONE RESPONSIBLE WHERE YOU ARE GOING AND WHO YOU WILL BE WITH. • DO NOT TRUST PEOPLE WHO APOLOGIZE FOR THEIR ACTIONS YET REPEAT THEIR VIOLENT BEHAVIOR AGAIN • IF SOMETHING FEELS WRONG TO YOU, IT PROBABLY IS.

WHAT CAN YOU DO TO HELP SOMEONE? • •

what if someone you know is acting abusively? Don’t turn the other cheek Address their behavior Accountability Discuss abuse Connect to resources Don’t ignore abusive behavior. Your silence helps the abuser pretend there is nothing wrong with their behavior. Focus on their abusive actions, not their whole person. Be firm: Tell the abuser that he or she is the only person responsible for their behavior, and that they CAN control their actions. Help the abuser identify and understand what abuse is. Focus on the serious harm to the victim and the possible consequences for the abuser. Encourage the abuser to seek professional help. Help the abuser locate a certified batterers program. Stay in touch This isn’t a one time conversation, and an abuser will not change over night. Keep supporting non violent behavior by staying in touch, offering encouragement, and keeping the topic alive. Speak out Set an example of compassion and non violence. Speak out against abuse.

• CREATING A CULTURE WHERE ABUSE IS NOT ACCEPTED • HTTPS: //WWW. YOUTUBE. COM/WATCH? V=MI XLKHGZ 08 U • HTTPS: //WWW. YOUTUBE. COM/WATCH? V=7 W L 26 MURSG 0 • HTTPS: //WWW. YOUTUBE. COM/WATCH? V= T-DE 5 P 7 JX-U • HTTPS: //WWW. YOUTUBE. COM/WATCH? V= EDFTB 73 E 65 W •