MYTH VS REALITY Healthy Relationships Lesson Plan Students

MYTH VS REALITY Healthy Relationships Lesson Plan

Students will understand the key components of a healthy relationship online. Students will recognise the signs of an unhealthy relationship online. Students will explore misconceptions about what is ‘normal’ behaviour in healthy relationships online. Students will know where to go for help and advice on healthy Relationships.

Starter discussion Watch the talking heads Discussion questions -------------------Activity A: Healthy or unhealthy? Activity B: Spot the signs Activity C: Myth vs reality Plenary: #Reality. Check

Discuss and establish ground rules for the session We listen and respect everyone when they are speaking and when we are responding. We know that we don’t have to participate in any activities or questions which make us feel uncomfortable. We know that we are not expected to share our own personal experiences but are free to do so without judgement if we want to. We speak about a ‘friend’ or ‘someone we know’ instead of using real names if we share experiences or stories. Refer to page 16 of the guidance for full details

What are the traits of a healthy or unhealthy relationship? Who do you communicate most with online? Task: Generate a list of healthy and unhealthy relationship traits. 5 minutes Refer to page 38 of the guidance for full details

Talking heads starter questions What makes a healthy relationship? What is consent? How is consent given online and offline?

Watch the talking heads Ryan “It’s what I expect. ” Beth “Is this what I should do? ” Sadie “What’s the right thing to do? ”

Ryan “It’s what I expect. ” Ryan states that he broke up with someone because they didn’t reply to his message within 10 minutes. Do you think this is fair? What do you think is an acceptable amount of time to reply to a message? are pictures h s to y a k o Is it ever omeone s f o n o ti a m or infor nsent or o c ir e th t u online witho knowledge? e What do you think about th n he says comment Ryan makes whe shares or that it’s up to him what he tionship? posts online when in a rela What should happen to posts and messages shared during a relationship once it comes to an end?

Beth “Is this what I should do? ” Do you think you find out more about what’s going on in people’s relationships from what you read online or what you see in real life? Why? She comments that her friend posted too much information about her relationship online. How much is too much? rules n e t it r w n u any other hat are w , o Are there s if d ships an of relation they? Beth thinks that it would be okay to share her password. Is this a wise move and what could be the repercussions of doing this? What would happen if someone didn’t follow these unwritten rules?

Sadie “What’s the right thing to do? ” Sadie says that it makes her feel a bit down when she sees other people’s relationship posts. Why might it make someone feel this way and what advice would you give them? o if she was d ie d a S ld u o What c her friends f o e n o t u o b concerned a again? What makes a healthy relationship? nd who in a ie fr r e h t u o b a Sadie tells us hip. Which s n o ti la re g in ll contro sider to be n o c u o y o d behaviours relationship? a in g in ll o tr n co What d o rights a you consider nd resp to be y o onsibili are in a ties wh ur relation en you ship?

Activity A Healthy or unhealthy? Task: Sort the behaviours on worksheet 2. 2 onto a traffic light of behaviours from healthy to unhealthy. 10 minutes Refer to page 42 of the guidance for full details

Share your passwords/ PINS to your online accounts/ devices Feel angry if the other person reads a message but takes a long time to reply Feel you have to respond to messages instantly so you don’t upset the other person Let the other person deal with online problems by themselves Message or call the other person more than they do Message or call the other person less than they do Update your online status to prove you are in a relationship Tag each other in silly photos or memes because it’s just a joke ‘Like’ all of each other’s posts/photos Take screenshots of each other’s messages Set your profile picture as a photo of you and the other person Check the other person’s messages/phone without asking

Activity B Spot the Signs Task: Discuss the messages within the scenarios and write a response to the message as if you were receiving it 10 minutes Refer to page 42 of the guidance for full details

What type of relationship is this? Does it seem unhealthy or healthy? Why? Are there examples or both types of behaviour in this message? What does it tell you about the relationship? How would you reply?

What type of relationship is this? Does it seem unhealthy or healthy? Why? Are there examples or both types of behaviour in this message? What does it tell you about the relationship? How would you reply?

What type of relationship is this? Does it seem unhealthy or healthy? Why? Are there examples or both types of behaviour in this message? What does it tell you about the relationship? How would you reply?

What type of relationship is this? Does it seem unhealthy or healthy? Why? Are there examples or both types of behaviour in this message? What does it tell you about the relationship? How would you reply?

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Activity C Myth vs Reality Task: Match the online myths to the offline reality. 10 minutes Refer to page 43 of the guidance for full details

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How do you maintain positive relationships online? Write 3 ways you could keep or make relationships healthy online

Helplines for young people Services for young people to talk to someone anonymously without judgement via chat, or via phone, on whatever issue they would like. Where can I go for advice, help and support? 0800 11 11 - A service for under 18 s 0808 4994 – A service for 13 -25 s 0808 802 4040 – A confidential service for anyone concerned about violence or abuse in a relationship Website for advice and reporting If someone has asked you to do things online that you don’t feel comfortable with or to meet up offline, Thinkuknow offers a reporting tool and advice about staying safe online www. thinkuknow. co. uk. Advice Support

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