Radical Acceptance The term radical acceptance was coined

Radical Acceptance The term radical acceptance was coined by the psychologist Marsha Linehan. “Radical acceptance” means completely and totally accepting something from the depths of your soul, with your heart and your mind. You stop fighting reality. Without discrimination. When you stop fighting, you suffer less.

“Set aside everything I think I know about myself and race. ” ACCEPT that it is exactly what black people say it is. ACCEPT that you have been the beneficiary of systemic racism in this country. Pass NO judgement on either, just accept that it is true.

Educate Yourself Racism is the foundation of the society we are in. And to simply carry on with absolutely no active interruption of that system is to be complicit with it. And in that way, we can say that nice, white people who really aren't doing anything other than being nice people are racist. We are complicit with that system. There is no neutral place. From the book White Fragility, Robin De. Angelo

• Do not ask black people to explain it (though you should read their books about it) • Talk to your white friends about it (Courageous conversations) Become aware of: • How racism is systemic, and has been part of many foundational aspects of society throughout history, and can be manifested in both individual attitudes and behaviors as well as formal (and "unspoken") policies and practices within institutions; • How white people participate, often unknowingly, in racism

Racism is not a ‘Black’ problem When you change your understanding of what it means to be racist, you will no longer be defensive. . Who among your listeners right now would ever say they're consciously, intentionally mean across race? I think that definition [of racism as individual, conscious, malintent across race] is the root of most of the defensiveness. When you change your definition, it's actually liberating. . It's transformative. You know, you can stop defending, deflecting, denying, explaining away, giving all the evidence for why you are different and couldn't possibly have been impacted by the society you live in. From the book White Fragility, Robin De. Angelo

Most white people live segregated lives. Most don't really even know black people. Most go cradle to grave with few, if any, authentic, sustained cross-racial relationships and no real sense of loss about that. And yet, we have these opinions that we feel are equal to people who have, you know, studied and struggled and worked on these issues for decades. And so it's a little bit like saying, well, I've been to the Epcot Center, therefore I'm qualified to wade in on a debate with Neil de. Grasse Tyson on whether Pluto is a planet. From the book White Fragility, Robin De. Angelo