Discipleship 101 3 ENNEAGRAM 1 THE ENNEAGRAM 2

Discipleship 101. 3 ENNEAGRAM 1

THE ENNEAGRAM 2

EXPERIENCE � Ennea = Greek for the number 9 � Gram = Greek for points, a graph � Says that our personality is based on a least Controlled Emotion that is also our Primary Sin � HOMEWORK: Internet: www. similarminds. com � 1 st page choose Enneagram Tests � 2 nd page choose Enneagram Tests (third group down left side) � Advanced Test (131 questions) � Print out results and bring to class 3

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9 DIFFERENT PERSONALITIES � � � � � #1 Perfectionists #2 Helpers #3 Achievers #4 Romantics #5 Observers #6 Questioners #7 Adventurers #8 Asserters #9 Peacemakers � Life could be better � Sense the other’s needs � Need to be successful � Strong sense of the tragic � Silent, thinkers � Authority = security � Party planners � Life is a struggle � Avoid conflict 6

DISCUSSION & REFLECTION: Shadow Reality False Hope Traps Redeemed Virtues Color Stress Security 1 Anger Outer Hard working Perfection Growth Serenity Silver 4 7 2 Pride Inner Helpful Service Grace Humility Red 8 4 3 Deceit Balanced Successful Efficiency God's will Truthfulness Yellow 9 6 4 Envy Outer Unique Authenticity with God Equality Purple 2 1 5 Stinginess Inner Knowing Knowledge Providence Detachment Blue 7 8 6 Fear Balanced Loyal Security Trust in God Courage Brown 3 9 7 Over Indulge Outer Nice Idealism Celebration of God Sobriety Green 1 5 8 Arrogance Inner Powerful Justice Compassion Simplicity Black/White 5 2 9 Laziness Balanced OK Self-denial Unconditional love Diligence Gold 6 3 7

WHO ARE YOU? � Check, underline or highlight each statement that is usually true of you. � � � � � I am a 1 if…. I put too much effort into correcting my faults I’m often bothered because things aren’t the way the should be. I hate to waste time I often blame myself for not doing better Often the least flaw can ruin the whole thing for me I have trouble relaxing and being playful Voices critical of me and others frequently chatter in my head I seem to worry more than other people I feel most compelled to be honest Being right is important for me I frequently feel time is running out and there is still so much to do I need to be accountable for most of my time I identify with crusaders against evil If something isn’t fair it really bothers me I need to keep getting better at what I do Others won’t love me if I keep making mistakes � � � � I am a 2 if… Many people depend on my help I take more pride in my service of others than in anything else I need to feel important in other people’s lives Many people feel close to me I regularly compliment other people I like to rescue people when I see they’re in trouble Whether I really feel like it or not I must help others People often come to me for comfort and advice Sometimes the needs of others over burdens me I really don’t have many needs myself Sometimes people don’t appreciate all I’ve done for them I like to feel close to people Sometimes I think others are just using me To love and be loved is the point of life 8

WHO ARE YOU? � Check, underline or highlight each statement that is usually true of you. � � � � I am a 3 if… I like to keep myself on the go I like to work on a team and be a good team member Being organized and accomplishing things comes natural to me “Success” is a word that mean a lot to me I like to have clear goals and know where I stand accomplishing those goals I like charts, grades and other indications of how I am doing I’m envied by others for how much I can get done Projecting a successful image is very important Making decisions is not hard for me Sometimes you have to compromise standards I tend to remember what I did well better than what I’ve done poorly I hate to be told I’m doing something the wrong way Sometimes I can get too wrapped up in a project � � � � I am a 4 if… I like theater very much and fantasize myself being on stage Manners and good taste are important to me I don’t like to think of myself as being ordinary I can over focus on suffering, loss and death I’m sometimes afraid my normal feelings aren’t enough I can tune into a group’s feeling so much that I forget my own I have a harder time than others recovering from a broken relationship Sometimes I feel like a “tragic clown, ” smiling through the gloom I have been accused of being aloof I find myself swinging between highs and lows, and not often in the middle People have accused me of being overly dramatic, but they don’t understand, really. The arts and artistic expression are very important for me to express my emotions 9

WHO ARE YOU? � Check, underline or highlight each statement that is usually true of you. � � � � I am a 5 if… I tend to keep feelings to myself I hold on to what I have and gather items I might need one day I don’t know how to engage in small talk Intellectually I like to put different ideas together I go blank when I’m embarrassed, or when someone asks me how I feel I need much private time and space I tend to let others take the initiative I often sit back and observe other people rather than get involved I tend to be a loner I seem to be more silent than most, so people have to ask me what I’m thinking I like to put things in perspective I tend to be stingy with my time, money and self I usually have a soft voice and people ask me to speak up which irritates me I tend to be more of a taker than a giver � � � � I am a 6 if… I am basically a middle of the road person Loyalty to a group is very important for me I find it very difficult to go against what authority says Before making a decision, I get additional information to make sure I’m prepared I take a long time to make up my mind because I need to explore the options fully I often wonder if I am brave enough to do what must be done I’m often plagued by doubt I like to be very sure before acting Without strict laws it’s hard to tell people might do I often tend to operate out of a sense of duty I like having limits in which to work I seem to sense danger more than others I tend to take sides and be concerned about whose side people are on I seem to be sensitive to contradictions I prefer to have things scheduled rather than open ended 10

WHO ARE YOU? � Check, underline or highlight each statement that is usually true of you. � � � � � I am a 7 if… I seem less suspicious of people and their motives than other people are There are very few things in life which I can’t enjoy Things always work out for the best I wish other people were more light-hearted I like other people to see me as happy I usually look at the bright side of things and don’t look at the negative side of life I like almost everyone I meet I like to tell stories I like to think of myself as a childlike, playful person People say I’m often the life of the party I like to consider the cosmic implication of events If some is good, more is better I don’t think it’s good to be sad too long I like to make things nice I like to enjoy life I tend to be very enthusiastic about the future � � � � � I am an 8 if… I am very good at standing up and fighting for what I want I sense others’ weak points quickly and will push them if provoked I find it easy to express my unhappiness I’m not afraid to confront other people I enjoy the exercise of power I have a sense of where power resides in a group I know how to get things done I have trouble accepting the softer, more gentle side of me I get bored easily and like to keep moving Justice/injustice are key issues for me I protect people who are under my authority I think of myself as an “earthy” person I usually don’t think too much about myself I am probably a non-conformist I don’t like to be cornered I don’t like to be told to adjust myself I think others create their own problems 11

WHO ARE YOU? � Check, underline or highlight each statement that is usually true of you. � � � � I am a 9 if… Most people get too worked up over things Most things in life aren’t worth being upset about I’m almost always peaceful and calm I like time to just do nothing I can’t remember the last time I had trouble sleeping While are there are some difference, most people are pretty much the same Usually, I don’t get too excited about things “Put off today what you can do tomorrow” is my motto I need to be stimulated to get me going “What, me worry? ” I can be a good person to get different sides to come together in agreement and work together I generally follow the path of least resistance I don’t think I’m important at all Why stand when you can sit and why sit when you lie down 12

STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES � Looking at the Enneagram map… � Follow the arrow from your base Number to find your Weakness � Go against the arrow to fine your Strength � Example: If you are a 9, under stress you act like a 6. And when you feel safe and secure, you act like a 3. 6 & 3 are learned behaviors. 13

WINGS � We are never a pure number 1 -9. � We tilt to one side or the other of our number. � So if we are, say a 1, we really are either a 9 ish 1, meaning we tilt to the 9 and express some of those behaviors, � or we are a 2 ish 1, meaning we tilt toward the 2 and express some of those behaviors. 14

ANOTHER VIEW 15

HOW TO GET ALONG WITH… � � � Ones – Be loyal and trustworthy. Appreciate their concern for doing things right. Be aware that Ones are very sensitive to criticisms, real and implied. Twos – Thank them, thank them and thank them again! Tell them how special they are to you. Be careful not to suffocate a Two Threes – Praise them when they succeed. Appreciate how hard they’re working to make you relationship a success. Be aware they can easily feel judged by you. Fours – Appreciate their uniqueness. Show your affection frequently. Don’t expect Fours to be spontaneous. Fives – Fives know a lot! Let them know that you know they know a lot. Respond when a Five does something nice without being asked. Remember Fives need privacy, especially when working. 16

HOW TO GET ALONG WITH… � Sixes – Be open and honest. Appreciate the Six’s helpfulness. Don’t flatter or avoid answering. � Sevens – Appreciate the Seven’s spontaneity. Remember they follow their own drummer. Treat with tender, loving care. � Eights – Play their games their way. Be honest and straight forward. Don’t back down!!! � Nines – Compliment Nines for expressions of affections. Be Patient!!! Help keep them relaxed and peaceful. 17

PERSONALITY AND PRAYER � Your personality affects your love life. � Your love life includes your relationship with God. � Therefore your personality affects your love of God. � Prayer is a loving conversation with God 18

� Personality numbers 2, 3 and 4 need to get their prayer outside of themselves…dance, draw, sing, journal, etc. when praying. � Personality numbers 5, 6 and 7 need to keep their eyes open when praying – to quiet the mind. � Personality numbers 8, 9 and 1 need to keep silence when praying. 19