Week 2 Marriage Solomons Weakness 1 Kings 11

Week 2 Marriage

Solomon’s Weakness 1 Kings 11: 1 -4 - Solomon was not a good example of following God’s plan for marriage. - Solomon desire for women (wives and concubines) caused him to stray from God. - Solomon’s wisdom & Knowledge did not stop him from making bad decisions and being controlled by his desires.

Solomon’s Perspective on Marriage - I Kings 3 – Story of the Two prostitutes and the baby. - Solomon must have had to judge many issues regarding marriage in his time as King over Israel. - Just because Solomon had his problems with women and marriage doesn’t mean he didn’t know what is right.

Wives and Husbands in Proverbs Wives or Wife Mentioned in 15 scriptures • Positive Light – 4 • Context of Adultery – 5 • Context of Interpersonal Conflict – 5 • Context of the Role of the Wife - 1

A Wife is Good! Proverbs 18: 22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.

A Wife is Good! Proverbs 18: 22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.

A Wife is Good! Proverbs 18: 22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.

A Wife is Good! Proverbs 18: 22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord. Our Takeaway? Men should strive to be worthy of a Godly wife and women should strive to truly be a blessing to their husbands.

A Good Wife is a Gift from God Proverbs 19: 14 House and wealth are an inheritance from fathers, But a prudent wife is from the Lord.

Comparison: Good vs. Bad Wife Proverbs 12: 4 An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him is like rottenness to his bones. Our Takeaway? A wife can either make or break a man.

Wives and Husbands in Proverbs Husband mentioned in 9 scriptures • Jealously Over His Wife – 2 • Wife’s Impact on Him – 4 • To Avoid Adultery – 3 (Entire Chapter of Proverbs 5 is dedicated to warnings a son about the danger of falling into adultery)

Adultery = Destruction Proverbs 6: 32 But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. • Adultery’s destructive nature goes far beyond just your mate and your family.

Adultery Destroys a Christian Man - His Honor - His Integrity - His Trustworthiness - His Testimony - His Self Esteem - His Self Respect Our Takeaway? - Adultery destroys not only our mates and our families but ourselves. Protect ourselves from it at all cost.

Jealousy of a Husband Proverbs 6: 34 For jealousy arouses a husband’s fury, and he will show no mercy when he takes revenge. Our Takeaway? - As men we must be careful to realize we have this proclivity and to use self control. For others remember this jealousy lies in even the most mild mannered husbands.

Interpersonal Conflict Proverbs 19: 13 b And the contentions of a wife are a constant dripping Proverbs 21: 9 It is better to live in a corner of a roof , Than in a house shared with a contentious woman.

Interpersonal Conflict Principles Solomon is Teaching: - The end does not justify the means. - Most people will try to avoid conflict. - Our Takeaway? - Find productive ways to discuss issues and handle conflict in your marriage. - Running away from a conflict won’t solve it.

Summary of Solomon on Marriage - Be worthy of the mate God gives you - Be a blessing from God to your mate - Adultery isn’t worth it – protect your marriage from its destructive force. - Look for productive means to solve conflict in your marriage instead of arguing and avoiding.