Working within Your Sphere of Control Presented by: Maribeth C Bohley or Deirdre Anderson
AGENDA v. Defining Sphere of Control and Circles of Influence v. Defining Control, Influence, and Concern v. Leveraging Your Sphere of Control v. Expanding your “Circles of Influence”
Activity Make a list of your most pressing worries, concerns and complaints - At least five from work and five from personal life
Sphere of Control
Aspects of Sphere of Control v What do you control or have power over? v What can you influence? v What is a concern outside of your control or influence? C I O
Sphere of Control Circles of Influence Direct Influence – Money you earn & what you eat Minimal Influence – Recycling, Voting or Changing others
Things Outside my control Other’s Actions Other’s Feelings Other’s Mistakes Other’s Ideas Things I can Control: My Attitude My Actions My Words My Efforts My Mistakes My Clothes What Else? Other’s Schedules Other’s Words
One Big Take Away! Your Circle of Concern contains worries that you can do nothing about. Mark Twain famously said… “I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened. ”
Another Big Take Away! Control
Growing your sphere of influence.
Use your energy where it counts.
Why Focus on Circles of Control & Influence: Facing Problems, Challenges, & Opportunities Proactive people focus on Circle of Control: v Health v Children v Problems at work Reactive people get stuck in Circle of Concern: v Terrorism v The weather v Comet that’s headed for earth
Differences Between Proactive & Reactive
Reactive vs Proactive People
Be Proactive. This is Number 1 from Habits of Highly Effective People. v Proactive people are “response-able” -- able to choose their response – what you say and do. v “The essential distinction between being proactive vs. reactive is the difference between responding and reacting. ” v Remember Reinhold Niebuhr‘s famous serenity prayer: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. ”
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