Women Mentoring Women By Linda Mei Koh General
Women Mentoring Women By Linda Mei Koh General Conference Women’s Ministries Leadership Level 4
Proverbs 9: 9 “Give instruction to the wise, and they will become wiser still; teach the righteous, and they will gain in learning. ”
Definition of Mentoring • A Trusted Counselor or Guide • A Brain to pick, a shoulder to cry on, a push in the right direction • A Dynamic Relationship of Trust in which one person enables another to maximize the grace of God in his/her life and service
What is MENTORING? • Mentoring is a cooperative and nurturing relationship between a more experienced person and a less experienced one. The mentor provides support, encouragement, and advice to another, based on his/her knowledge, life and experiences. • This two-way learning experience for both mentor and mentee encourages deep satisfaction and numerous benefits in many personal, career, organizational, and spiritual areas.
Mentoring in the BIBLE • Jesus mentored 12 disciples • Paul mentored Timothy • Naomi mentored Ruth
Research in MENTORING • Galbraith & Cohen found that mentoring provides individuals with opportunities to enhance cultural awareness, aesthetic appreciation, potential to lead meaningful lives, and spiritual growth. • Feiman-Nemser found that mentoring can help teachers develop tools for continuous improvement and reform.
The National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health found that having a mentor for teens was associated with: • A greater likelihood of completing high school, attending college, and working at least 10 hours per week. • A decreased likelihood of being in a gang and having physically hurt someone in a fight in the past year.
The National Longitudinal Study of of The Adolescent Health (cont…) Adolescent • Higher levels of self-esteem and life satisfaction. • A higher degree of physical activity, as well as regular use of birth control.
Why do Women Need MENTORING? • Women benefit greatly by having someone with experience and expertise to teach them. • Women face barriers that prevent them from learning the skills of leadership.
Types of MENTORING 1. 2. 3. 4. Formal Mentoring Informal Mentoring Small Group Mentoring Professional Mentoring
Purposes of MENTORING 1. Mentors Help with Skill and Career Advancement 2. Mentors Assist with Spiritual & Psychosocial Development 3. Mentors Assist in Maintaining And Enhancing Mentees’ of Quality of Life
Finding a MENTOR 1. Ask Yourself What it is You Want from a Mentoring Relationship 2. Reflect on a Mentor from Your Past 3. Be Assertive 4. Seek God’ Help
Characteristics of a Good MENTOR 1. Desires to Help/Inspire 2. Believe in the Value of a Person 3. Good Reputation for Developing Others 4. Devotes Time/Energy 5. Has Up-to-Date Knowledge 6. Has Positive Learning Attitude 7. Demonstrates Effective Mentoring Skills
Characteristics of a Good MENTOR 8. Models a Healthy Life & Ministry 9. Has Gifts of Listening, Affirmation, Affection, Cheerfulness, Prayer
The MENTORING Process The Plan – Agree on time for meetings and activities – Mentee to list down expectations The Goals Establish clear goals as to what you want to accomplish as mentor and mentee
The MENTORING Process The Check Up • Regular evaluation of how the relationship is going should be done • Ask questions of mentee to see if the experience is positive
Obstacles in a MENTORING RELATIONSHIP 1. Obstacles Confronting a Mentee: • A mentoring style that does not meet mentee’s needs • Insufficient time • A hidden agenda • An inappropriate attitude
Obstacles in a MENTORING RELATIONSHIP II. Obstacles Confronting a. Mentor: 1. Being accused of “holding on to the coat tails of another. ” 2. One party overstepping professional boundaries, especially in cross-gender mentoring relationship. 3. Falling from favor with others who disapprove.
“How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and strong. Because someday in your life you will have been all of these. ” – George Washington Carver
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