When a child loses a parent Looking at

When a child loses a parent… Looking at how the death of a parent affects a child Tiffany Volkman

The Death of a parent… n The death of a parent takes away a core support person from a child. Depending on the age of the child and the relationship with the parent, it can have a devastating affect on the child. The surviving parent loses their partner, the child loses their parent, and the child also loses the person they were in that parent-child relationship. The impact will carry over in different areas of the child’s life such as school and friendships.

Statistics… n n n 5% - 6% of children will experience the death of a parent by the time they are 16 years old. (hawaii. edu) After losing a parent, 85% of children exhibit symptoms as difficulty sleeping, angry outbursts, worry, depression, bedwetting, and thumb-sucking. After a year, more regressive behaviors may fade, but other problems, such as lack of confidence and preoccupation with illness, are likely to continue. (griefspeaks. org) Children who had a parent that died suddenly have 3 X’s the risk of depression than those with living parents. (sciencedaily. com) 45% said they have more trouble concentrating on school work. (nationalallianceforgrievingchildren. org) The top two things children said the death of their family member has taught them is 1) How important my family is to me (78%) and 2) Life is not fair (72%) (nationalallianceforgrievingchildren. org)

The affect on classroom behavior… n Children who have experienced the loss of a parent typically experience intense grief and sadness, social withdrawal, attention seeking, declines in academic performance, rebellion, anger, guilt, and preoccupation with thoughts about their parent (hawaii. edu) q This can manifest in the classroom as: n n n Daydreaming Isolation Lack of effort-non caring attitude Behavioral outbursts Emotional outbursts

Strategies to support the student… n n Allow the student opportunities to talk about it Provide a consistent schedule to give the student a sense of security Attend the funeral if possible to show the student your support Allow the student to leave class as necessary to speak with the school counselor or just to take a short break

Resources to support students who have lost a parent… n Tips for teachers to help grieving students: http: //www. petersplaceonline. org/resources_27_272346 2710. pdf n A list of books for children that have lost a parent: http: //www. nasponline. org/resources/crisis_safety/Books _for_Children_Dealing_With_Loss_or_Trauma. pdf

Sources cited: n n n http: //www. hawaii. edu/hivandaids/Impact%20 of%20 Parental%20 Death%20 on%20 Children. pdf http: //www. griefspeaks. com/id 113. html http: //www. sciencedaily. com/releases/2008/05/0805 05162849. htm http: //www. nationalallianceforgrievingchildren. org/na tional-poll-bereaved-children-teenagers http: //www. petersplaceonline. org/resources_27_272 3462710. pdf http: //www. nasponline. org/resources/crisis_safety/B ooks_for_Children_Dealing_With_Loss_or_Trauma. pdf