What kind of behavior is it Rude v

What kind of behavior is it? Rude v Mean v Bully v Kind

Rude Behaviors • Defined as – Unintentionally saying or doing something that hurts someone else. • Examples: • Jumping ahead in line • Bragging • Good intentions that hurt • The main difference between being RUDE and being MEAN is Intent

Mean Behaviors • Defined as – Purposefully saying or doing something to hurt some (once or maybe twice) • Examples: • Criticizing clothing/ appearance/ intelligence • Saying something in anger towards someone

Bully Behaviors • Defined as – Intentionally aggressive behavior repeated over time that involves an imbalance of power. • Examples: • Physical – hitting, kicking, tripping • Verbal – Threats • Social – Exclusion, rumors • Cyber – Use of technology to carry out the above • The main difference between being MEAN and BULLYING is INTENT, REPETITION & IMBALANCE OF POWER • While some may not think their behaviors fall in this category, it’s the perception of the student we take into consideration!

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Kind Behaviors • Defined as –friendly, generous, or warmhearted nature • Examples: • Say "please" and "thank you"—and really mean it. • Help someone pick things up if they dropped something • Hold the door for someone

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How To Help • Model EVERYTHING – words, actions, thoughts and reactions • Be verbally explicit – explain from a point of fact, not a point of emotion • Be human – explain why a behavior is upsetting (simple cause and effect) • Make connections – duh • Praise loudly, condemn quietly – we set the tone for others

• Open the floor to discuss tough issues • Build them up honestly – kids know when you mean what you say…your words and actions must be transparent and true.