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Common Myths They were asking for it. They got what they deserved. We don’t have bullying at our school. If I tell someone, I will be labeled a snitch. It was just a bit of fun. No harm done. You have to learn to stand up for yourself in life. Being bullied is character forming. Keith Sullivan, The Anti-Bullying Handbook

“A whack to the back, And you’ll fall to your knees, With a shed of a tear, And a heart full of fear. Feet and fists fly, Fly through the air. As you are lying there. The bully walked as if it was nothing, While you’re crying, huffing & puffing… Anti-Bullying Campaign -- Devon Middle School

“…The bully beat up a loser, So now he’s a star. But you shouldn’t be bullied, It doesn’t matter who you are. From what I’ve said, You still may not care, But being bullied just isn’t fair. ” - Norman H, 7 th grader Anti-Bullying Campaign -- Devon Middle School

Bullying Facts 3 30% of 6 th-10 th graders report moderate to frequent involvement in bullying: • 13% a bully • 11% a target • 6% both 1) Nansel, Overpeck, Pilla, Ruan, Simons-Morton, Scheidt (2001); 2) Hoover, Oliver & Hazler (1992)

Bullying Facts 3 75% of school-age children report being bullied at least once during the school year 1) Nansel, Overpeck, Pilla, Ruan, Simons-Morton, Scheidt (2001); 2) Hoover, Oliver & Hazler (1992)

Bullying Facts 3 Repeated bullying leads to 10% of all dropouts 3 Bullies are 4 times more likely to be convicted of a crime by age 24 1) Fried & Fried (1996); 2) Weinhold & Weinhold (1998); 3) Olweus (1993)

What is Bullying? Bullying is the use of one’s strength or status for the purpose of intimidating, injuring, or humiliating another person of lesser status. Virginia Youth Violence Project

Key Ingredient of Bullying: Power Imbalance • Physical size • Intelligence, ability, talent • Power, popularity • Role, job description

Forms of Bullying • Physical • Verbal • Social • Sexual harassment Virginia Youth Violence Project

Bullying Occurs in Unsupervised Areas • Back of Bus • Restroom • Hallways • Cafeteria • PE • To/from school • In class, during non-instructional time Education Week on the Web, August/September 1997

The Participants • The Victims & Targets • The Bullies • The Bystanders Journal of Safe Management of Disruptive & Assaultive Behavior, Spring/Summer 2003

Victim 1 – Passive Targets • Physically weaker • Poor self-esteem • Cautious/anxious/insecure • Ineffective in play & sports • Relates best with adults • Quiet/withdrawn/passive Journal of Safe Management of Disruptive & Assaultive Behavior, Spring/Summer 2003

Victim 2 - Provocative Targets • Hot tempered, ineffective fighters • Hyperactive/clumsy • Irritating habits • May bully weaker peers Journal of Safe Management of Disruptive & Assaultive Behavior, Spring/Summer 2003

Bully Profile • Physically stronger peers than • Better than average selfesteem • Dominate through aggression and threats Journal of Safe Management of Disruptive & Assaultive Behavior, Spring/Summer 2003

Bully Profile • Lack of empathy for their victims • Talk their way out of trouble, brag • Easily frustrated, impulsive, hot-tempered Journal of Safe Management of Disruptive & Assaultive Behavior, Spring/Summer 2003

Bystanders: The Audience • Provide power/status to bully • Reinforce bully’s behavior • Often lack strategies to intervene/report/support the victim • Fear they will lose status if they intervene Journal of Safe Management of Disruptive & Assaultive Behavior, Spring/Summer 2003

The Majority 90% of students find bullying disturbing to watch Journal of Safe Management of Disruptive & Assaultive Behavior, Spring/Summer 2003

Know Your Personal Space Activity: 2 Volunteers Face one another standing 10 feet apart Begin to walk to one another When one feels like the other is too close, stop Why did the student stop? Did you feel uncomfortable?

Safe Zone If a student is bullying you and they are in your personal space you should do the following: • Open Fist & put Hands Up • Step back in your SAFE ZONE In the Safe Zone you should be be out of reach to be hit, kicked or pushed Being in the DANGER ZONE can cause you unwanted harm.

Script of Use a SCRIPT OF SAFETY • Say, “STOP YELLING AT ME!” or “DON’T TAKE MY “STOP HITTING ME!” If someone is trying to bully you, you should use a words to attract attention STUFF!” and LEVEL 4 VOICE LEVEL and use • If the bullying doesn’t stop, WALK AWAY CALMLY and REPORT it to a teacher!!! Activity: sound like Student model what this should look Teacher model the non-example and

One Liners to Use on Bullies Here we go again…Tell me when you’re done. Okay… Ha ha…That’s funny – enough already! Whatever! Finished? YOUR SCRIPT OF SAFETY AND YOUR LEVEL 4 VOICE VOLUME WILL GET A TEACHERS ATTENTION! www. bullystoppers. com

Victims Should Report When Bullies: • Threaten • Take belongings • Spread rumors • Isolate • Continually shove/push • Sexually harass www. bullystoppers. com

Report Bullying • When you have been bullied you should REPORT it to someone in your NETWORK OF SAFETY • Your NETWORK OF SAFETY includes: - parents, counselors, principals, SRO, National Guard SWAT, FBI, & If the first person doesn’t help, tell the next person in your NETWORK SAFETY OF

Reporting vs. Tattling Reporting Tattling Harmful dangerous physically or psychologically Harmless Need help from an adult to solve Can handle by self without becoming physical Goal is to keep you or someone else safe Goal is to get someone else into trouble Behavior that occurred was purposeful Behavior that occurred was accidental Activity: Give examples of what type of behaviors should be reported. Discuss some nonexamples.

Teacher’s Response If you report an act of bullying to a teacher they will say, “I am glad you came to tell me!” They will ask, 1. Did you say “STOP” and did you use a “SCRIPT OF SAFETY”? 2. Did you “walk away” calmly? 3. They may ask who, what, when and where 4. They will ENSURE YOUR SAFETY!!!!

BYSTANDERS • Bystanders are the most important person in STOPPING bullying. • When you stand still you give the bully an AUDIENCE. • If you see bullying Be RESPONSIBLE and help someone stay SAFE • • Tell the bully to STOP Help the target (victim) step out of the Report the bullying to teacher Feel good about yourself!!! danger zone ACTIVITY: Demonstrate what this looks like.

BULLY’s If you are bullying: • The victim may tell you to stop while using a Script of Safety You should: STOP immediately & walk away If you CHOOSE not to stop expect to: • Speak to a principal & • Accept consequences for your behavior

Consequences for Bullying First Occurrence • • Depending on the nature of the offense, consequences may range from warning, detention, in-school suspension (ISS) or out-of-school suspension (OSS) Parent notification Second Occurrence • Depending on the nature of the offense, consequences may range from 3 – 5 days inschool suspension (ISS) or out-of-school suspension (OSS) suspension and/or guidance counselor intervention and team conference Repeated Occurrence • • Depending upon the nature of the offense, consequences may range from 5 -10 days of out-of-school (OSS) suspension and/or a discipline hearing with the possibility of suspension for up to 180 days or EXPULSION Guidance counselor intervention and/or possible psychological assessment

Let’s Review HWMS Anti-Bullying Policy If you are being bullied: • Open fist & put hands up • Step back into the Safe Zone • Tell the person to “STOP!” • Use a Script of Safety (Level 4 Voice Volume) • Walk away calmly • Report the bullying to someone in your Network of Safety!

Anti-Bullying Policy • Bullying will not be tolerated at Hazelwood West Middle School • Teachers will be active in supervising and intervening when bullying occurs

Hazelwood West Middle School Bully-Free Pledge At our school staff and students will: • Not bully others • Help those who are bullied • Include all students, especially those who are being bullied

Changing the Status Quo “We must strive to change the climate in our schools which has often permitted bullying to thrive. We must be willing to take an unpopular stand which openly opposes bullying and the code of silence that supports it. ” Virginia Youth Violence Project