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What a Wonderful World (Louie Armstrong) • I see trees of green, red roses too I see them bloom for me and you And I think to myself what a wonderful world. I see skies of blue and clouds of white The bright blessed day, the dark sacred night And I think to myself what a wonderful world. The colors of the rainbow so pretty in the sky Are also on the faces of people going by I see friends shaking hands saying how do you do They're really saying I love you. I hear babies crying, I watch them grow They'll learn much more than I'll never know And I think to myself what a wonderful world Yes I think to myself what a wonderful world. © Mark Williams

The Secret or Mindfulness Meditation or Science: Definitions of Happiness 幸福的定义以及可以使你幸福的方法 Dr Mark Williams Ph. D. Professor of Applied Positive Psychology Shenzhen University (International) email: markw. positive@gmail. com web: www. aappi. net © Mark Williams

Stories with the Secret © Mark Williams

Denyse from Telford: Single mom, 3 Beautiful children. • Two years ago I was homeless, my children lived apart from me, I • • was sleeping on a friends sofa, I had no money and my work had petered out to virtually nothing. Every day some negative thing seemed to happen to me. I could see no way out. I had The Secret book for a while and had read it but didn't practice it - I thought by just reading it the things I 'needed' would just appear. When I actually started to apply The Secret things started to happen. My work came back quickly, I was standing in line and over-heard someone talking about a letting agency with cheap property. I moved into a property within 2 days! Two years on, I have a brand new car, a lovely 4 bedroom home, my children are living with me and I only have work 2 days a week to finance this. Everything on my vision board has come true - I am struggling to find other things to put on it! I am living my dream - thanks to The Secret © Mark Williams

Mindfulness Meditation - with Jay Uhdinger www. jayuhdinger. com ` • When I started to meditate mindfully a 10 minutes each day I • • • truly realized what matters in life and I’m happier than ever before – now I meditate about 15 minutes each day. I overcame a cancer phobia I had for 10 years (after my father died from cancer). I gained the ability to remove myself from situations and just observe what’s going on inside of me. I gained a hell of a lot of emotional freedom which matters way more than anything else. I became calmer, more balanced and simply a nicer person. I got comfortable with the concept of death (not suicidal yo!). It brought the kid in me back to life. Remember when it was amazing to simply run around trees? It starts to get amazing again!. . . Cool huh? © Mark Williams

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Using Science: Life Happiness Measure 7 = Strongly agree非常同意 6 = Agree同意 5 = Slightly agree略同意 4 = Neither agree nor disagree既不同意也不反对 3 = Slightly disagree稍有不同意 2 = Disagree不同意 1 = Strongly disagree强烈不同意 1. In general, my positive emotions (happiness, pleasure, 2. 3. 4. 5. optimism, etc) give me an extremely happy life. In general, my negative emotions (sadness, concern, doubt, etc) are very well balanced and necessary. Overall, I feel extremely satisfied with my life. Overall, I wholeheartedly say “yes” to what I have done and what has happened in my life. Overall, I think I am and look very attractive in my own way. Add scores to give a total out of 35 © Mark Williams

Ed Diener’s Satisfaction with Life Scale (SWLS) 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 7 = Strongly agree非常同意 6 = Agree同意 5 = Slightly agree略同意 4 = Neither agree nor disagree既不同意也不反对 3 = Slightly disagree稍有不同意 2 = Disagree不同意 1 = Strongly disagree强烈不同意 In most ways my life is close to ideal. _____ The conditions of my life are excellent. _____ I am satisfied with my life. _____ So far I have gotten the important things I want in my life. _____ If I could have my life over again, I would change almost nothing. _____ © Mark Williams

Oxford Happiness Questionnaire 1 = strongly disagree. 2 = moderately disagree. 3 = slightly disagree. 4 = slightly agree. 5 = moderately. agree 6 = strongly agree. • "I feel fully mentally alert. ” • "I don’t feel particularly pleased with the • • • way I am. " "I do not have particularly happy memories of the past. " "I feel that life is very rewarding. "I am well satisfied about everything in my life. "I don't think that I look attractive. " "I find beauty in some things. "I can fit in everything I want to. 1 2 3 4 5 6 1 2 3 4 5 6 © Mark Williams

Revision: Individual Organisational Behaviour Strengths 谈判，协调能力 1. Perfectionist reformer 主动性，决策能力 8. Boss, challenger 老板，挑战者 多任务，获得新能力 7. Enthusiast, fun-lover, adventurer 同乐爱好者, 探险家 6. Loyalist, questionner 合作，执行 调解人，协调者 主次分明，时间管理 1. Perfectionist reformer 完美主义者 交流，人际关系技艺 2. Giver, helper 付出者，帮手 沟通，营销 3. Achiever, winner 忠诚者, 思考者 研究，开发 5. Investigator researcher 调查员图书爱好者 成就者 创意，设计 4. Romantic individualist 浪漫主义, 个人主义者 © Mark Williams

E. g. My Ennea 4 strengths (see www. enneagraminstitute. com ) • At my Best: With steady, practical and diligent effort, • • • able to create original and useful achievements expressing the personal and universal Can renew myself to become steady and successful Can transform all experiences into something positive Sensitive & intuitive both to self and others gentle, tactful, highly personal, compassionate, individualistic, true to self, self-revealing, emotionally honest, humane, ironic view of self & life both vulnerable & emotionally strong, and serious & funny at the same time. © Mark Williams

Extra Email week 6 • This week send me at extra email, 50 -80 words, listing your Enneagram type at it’s best and – • Your 5 major personality strengths as you experience them or could imagine experiencing them in the future in your life as you are the strongest and happiest person you could imagine yourself being and acting! • I can see no reason why your can’t act like this. • There is no power or principality, no height, depth, or breadth that can stop you being and acting as the strongest and happiest person you ever imagined yourself to be or could imagine yourself to be right now! © Mark Williams

Sadness is Inevitable • We are all going to encounter some difficulties in life such as: [ Death or loss of a relative or partner [ Loss of a job or a home by accident or disaster [ Difficult time at work or school. [ Emotional challenges - major depression, psychological disorders like anxiety 如焦虑 [ Political oppression [ Poverty © Mark Williams

What is Resilience? 什么是复原力？ • Psychological resilience is the ability to recover quickly from illness, change, misfortune, or negative emotions such as sadness (The Free Dictionary). 心理复原力是一 种能够从疾病，变数，不幸，或消极的情绪，如悲 伤中迅速恢复的能力. • We can learn to be resilient so we can be better able to respond, bounce back, or overcome life challenges such as failure or loss. • We can learn resilience through Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) – see the website at www. jayuhdinger. com [psychology] for a video © Mark Williams

What does happiness feel like? • When you are happy your face is smooth, relaxed, smiling, laughing, wide eyes accepting everyone. • You relax and move easily with flowing, open, inclusive gestures 有较多肢体动作. • You feel light and clear in your body, head and chest, body language is relaxed, open, welcoming and at ease 让人感觉安心. © Mark Williams

Feeling Happy! 感受快乐 Happy Day! © Mark Williams

Sadness 哀 • When you are sad your body sags and moves slowly, with a sinking dark feeling in your chest your limbs feel heavy 四肢沉重. • You can’t stop thinking sad thoughts and you feel like crying 感觉想哭. • Your face looks down, sags, frowns and your eyes look dull and lifeless 死气沉沉 • It is hard to force yourself look up 这样的话, think happy thoughts, or smile 或微笑. © Mark Williams

Feeling Sad 感到伤心 © Mark Williams

What do we do when feeling sad? 感到悲伤时，我们该怎么办？ • Sometimes it’s natural and right to feel sad. • If something sad happens we go through the natural grieving process and return to normal happiness. • Actually, Eckman (2005) states that humans think more rationally when a little sad 脑子更灵光. © Mark Williams

Morphing Sadness into Opportunity for Resilience 开端的抗逆能力 • You begin by breathing deeply: look up, lift your head, look confident and say: • “Acknowledge I am feeling sad, but it will not kill me. I can overcome and learn from it. How sad am I - from 1 to 10? • “Bad Beliefs and thinking patterns? Exaggeration? Catastrophising? Anxiety? Can not change? Thinking too much? Blakc and white thinking? etc • “Challenge and Change bad beliefs and thinking patterns: I refuse to exaggerate my sadness! Things are not all bad or all good! I can change! I can act strong! ” © Mark Williams

What is Optimism? 什么是乐观？ • Optimism is thinking, seeing and feeling positive and happy about the future. • Some people have been trained to do this or naturally do it. • Some people need to learn the skills and ways to become optimistic. © Mark Williams

How does Optimism Feel? 如何乐观感觉？ • Optimism makes you feel light and happy in your whole body, especially your chest, head and arms. • You feel glad to be alive, light hearted, cheerful, and confident 愉悦和自信. • You want to smile or dance. • You look forward living life, to a bright future 走向光 明的未来. © Mark Williams

Pessimism 悲观主义 • The opposite of optimism. • You feel negative and bad about the future, thinking there will be trouble and things will get worse • Often you feel worried and fearful. • You frown with a worried look on you face. © Mark Williams

Becoming more Confident with Cognitive Therapy: More Resilience 克服悲观认知疗法: 更多回弹 • You begin by breathing deeply: look up, lift your head, look confident and say: • “Acknowledge I am feeling pessimistic, but it will not kill me. I can overcome and learn from it. How sad am I - from 1 to 10? • “Bad Beliefs and thinking patterns? Exaggeration? Catastrophising? Anxiety? Can not change? Thinking too much? Blakc and white thinking? etc • “Challenge and Change bad beliefs and thinking patterns: I refuse to exaggerate my sadness! Things are not all bad or all good! I can change! I can act strong! ” © Mark Williams

Prof. Dr. Paul Wong, Tyndale University College • Radical positive psychology states that we must teach and practice happiness, optimism, appreciation-gratitude, resilience, courage and strength in this age of catastrophic climate change, pandemics and widespread depression § 激进的积极心理学指出，在这个灾难性气候变化、流行病 横行和普遍情绪沮丧的时期，我们必须教授和实践能幸福、 乐观、感恩、恢复能力、有勇气和力量的方法 © Mark Williams

Optimistic, positive, strong no matter what! 无论发生什么事，都要乐观！积极！坚强！ © Mark Williams

Optimistic, positive, strong no matter what! 无论发生什么事， 都要乐观！积极！坚强！ © Mark Williams

Be strong! 坚强 © Mark Williams

Yue Minjin 岳敏君 (1962 - ) • Contemporary Chinese artist based in Beijing, China. 当代中国��家在 北京，中国. • Best known for oil paintings depicting himself in various settings, frozen in laughter. 以在各种不同情 景的画里都能将笑凝固于 画中而出名. © Mark Williams

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What we can do? 我们能做些什么？ • We can be strong & optimistic and lead others to be strong & optimistic. 我们可以坚强和乐观，并带动其他 人坚强和乐观. • We can deeply happy & healthy no matter what happens to us or others. 无论在我们和他人身上发生了 什么，我们都可以深深地感到幸福和健康. • We can learn and do things that increase our happiness, optimism, appreciation, courage, & strengths so we can better lead others. 我们可以学习 和做一些可以增加我们幸福、乐观、感激、勇气和力量的 事情，然后我们能够更好地带领他人. © Mark Williams

Don Cupitt, Philosopher, Former Dean Cambridge University • “Let go and let life“ as "a new and ardent love of and commitment to life". • Paraphrased from his "Great Questions" book, Don recently quoted the vivid and brutal new phrase from the late 1980 s "Get a Life!" as our modern equivalent for the old religious demand that one must begin a new and converted life. • The Danish audience said: "Oh, we've already taken that English phrase, without translating it, straight into colloquial Danish. " (I have noted this is true also in China. ) • This change in everyday speech idioms reveal a change in religious values away from old religious thinking about God and heaven to a new widespread spirit-of-life commitment to this life, here and now. © Mark Williams

“Make a friend of the Void … 与“空”交朋友 • Practice by meditation. 通过冥想来实践。 • And above all, do not be led astray by your own desire for ‘meaning’ … it always seems to involve a nostalgic harking back to just the kind of religion that we can’t have anymore … we can very easily fall victim to it. 但首要的是，不要迷失在自己对意义 的过分渴望. . . 它似乎包含了一种对不能再拥有的的信仰的留 恋. . . 我们有时候会很容易掉入这样一种留恋。 • The best protection is. . a determination not to locate [philosophical] meaning and value anywhere else but in this world, in this life, and in the here and now. ” 最好的保护自己的 方法是形成一种决心，决心不要在除了这个世界、这个人生、 这里和现在的其它地方和时间去定义或定位意义和价值。 Don Cupitt: Emptiness and Brightness © Mark Williams

References • Ben-Shahar, Tal. (2007). Happier: Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting • • • Fulfilment. Mc. Graw-Hill: New York Cognitive behavioral therapy. (2010, April 6). In Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia. Retrieved 12: 23, April 8, 2010, from http: //en. wikipedia. org/w/index. php? title=Cognitive_behavioral_therapy&o ldid=354287980 Diener, E. , & Biswas-Diener, R. (2008). Happiness: Unlocking the mysteries of psychological wealth. Malden, MA: Blackwell Publishing. Fredrickson, B. L. (1998). What good are positive emotions? Review of General Psychology, 2(3), 300 - 319. Mindfulness (psychology). (2010, April 5). In Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia. Retrieved 12: 28, April 8, 2010, from http: //en. wikipedia. org/w/index. php? title=Mindfulness_(psychology)&oldid =354018552 Seligman, M. Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life. New York: Pocket Books © Mark Williams