Welcome to Proper Comm What is Proper Comm

Welcome to Proper. Comm®

What is Proper. Comm® is a web-based email and text message editing company. We edit text messages and emails between co-parents who are required to communicate but are unable to do so appropriately.

EXAMPLE Mother’s message: Billy has a doctor appointment tomorrow, can you pleases drop off the insurance card and half of the co-pay? Father’s response: Your boyfriend can pay now that you are sleeping with him. Since you got that ridiculous order of protection granted, I can’t go to the doctor so I’m not dropping off the card or the money. You chose to exclude me from your life-deal with it (you’re probably sleeping with the judge). With Proper. Comm®: Father’s reply: I won’t be dropping off the card or the money.

What does Proper. Comm do? Proper. Comm® intercepts emails and text messages between co-parents and edits them to be free from hostile, angry, abusive and inappropriate communication. Proper. Comm® then forwards the appropriate message to both the intended receiver and the original sender.

EXAMPLE Before Proper. Comm® Michael, Beth’s next doctor appointment is Oct. 9 at 9 am. I scheduled it on my day as usual and I intend to take her as I always have. If you’re not too busy with your skank girlfriend or traveling with all the money you tell the court you don’t have feel free to show up since you told your lawyer you always to. You are such a liar. After Proper. Comm® Beth’s next doctor appointment is Oct. 9 at 9 am. I intend to take her. Please feel free to show up.

How Does Proper. Comm® Help Co-Parents 1. Proper. Comm® teaches the parents to communicate more appropriately and effectively. 2. Proper. Comm® reduces abuse and conflict between co-parents. 3. Proper. Comm® reduces litigation thereby saving co-parents money.

EXAMPLE Father’s email to Mother before Proper. Comm® Stephanie – get over your anorexic self and move on. If you really didn’t want me you wouldn’t be saying those things. Felicia is not a skank whore – she is very sweet and caring. You should be thankful that she cares so much for Beth even calls her mommy. Maybe if you weren’t such a bitch you would try to see what is best for Bethy and not you. I will be at the appointment. After Proper. Comm® Thank you. I will be at the appointment

How Proper. Comm® Teaches Parents By Example – Proper. Comm® sends the edited version along with a communication tip to the original sender;

EXAMPLE Before Proper. Comm® You are a bitch! After Proper. Comm® Your message is not editable and was not forwarded TIP: Make sure to keep it about the kids.

How Proper. Comm® Teaches Parents By Positive Reinforcement – After 20 consecutive appropriate emails over at least a 90 day period or 40 consecutive appropriate text messages over a 90 day period or a combination of 40 consecutive appropriate emails and text messages over a 90 day period, the client receives a certificate acknowledging his/her ability to communicate appropriately, which can be provided to the Court;

EXAMPLE OF APPROPRIATE MESSAGE Before Proper. Comm® I will be able to pick up Johnny at 5 pm. Please let me know if that works. After Proper. Comm® Good message – no edits !

How Proper. Comm® Teaches Parents By Negative Reinforcement – Emails cost $5 for the first 70 words – text messages cost $1 for the first 70 characters. The parties must decide if the next word is worth another $5 or $1. This teaches the parties to be brief, direct and to the point. It also provides for a negative consequence for long rants.

Before Proper. Comm® EXAMPLE I am taking Dustin hunting. Please dress him appropriately, in case you do not know, he needs to wear his camouflage outfit. I am not sure when we will be back. On a separate note, Kandi will take care of Ava while I am gone with Dustin. Please don't make a big deal of it. Your constant bitching just aggravates the situation. As far as paying you the amount owed per the decree, you only bring that shit up when there is an issue with the kids. Take me back to fucking court, because I am done with you bitching about it. (102 words = $10) After Proper. Comm® I am taking Dustin Hunting. Please have him wear his camouflage outfit. I’m not sure when we will be back. Kandi will be taking care of Ava while I’m gone. As far as paying the amount from the decree take me back to court. (47 words = $5 and an appropriate message towards certificate)

Proper. Comm® reduces abuse and conflict It is often necessary for victims to continue to communicate with their abusers and they can become anxious and afraid to open emails and/or text messages. Proper. Comm® eliminates that fear because the abusive language never finds its way to the victim unless there is a threat. All threats will be sent through without editing.

EXAMPLE Before Proper. Comm® Debbie – You are a bitch, you have always been a bitch and no man is ever going to want to get near you. You ruined this relationship, not me. Your constant whining about shit is what caused me to go elsewhere. That and your fat ass! I want nothing to do with you! I don’t even want to see you. I will get Billy from daycare today. After Proper. Comm® I will get Billy from daycare today.

Example of Threat Before Proper. Comm® Lori – I love you. . . I have always loved you. Please do not do this to me. I cannot take this anymore. If I can’t have you no one will. I cannot live knowing you are with someone else. You are putting nails in both our coffins. After Proper. Comm® Message to Sender – Your email was forwarded to the intended recipient as a threat and without editing. The intended recipient would receive the entire unedited version.

Reducing Co-Parent’s Expenses When the parties are constantly sending hostile messages to each other they are more likely to end up back in litigation with many email exhibits showing the other parties’ abusive behavior. Costs incurred in litigation include but are not limited to attorney fees, filing fees and often times mental health professional fees.

Reducing costs Attorneys are often required to revise clients emails at their regular hourly rate. For example, an attorney charging $300 per hour with a minimum billing of. 2 would charge the client $60 minimum to revise an email. That same email could be edited by Proper. Comm® for as little as $5 (for the first 70 words)

Reducing costs cont. . . Parenting Coordinators often review emails between co-parents and send tips and/or suggestions on better communication. However, the intended recipient may still receive the inappropriate email. If the parenting coordinator charges $200 per hour with a minimum billing of. 1 the cost would be $20 for an unedited email. Proper. Comm® would edit the same email for as little as $5 (for the first 70 words) and the recipient would not be subjected to abusive language.

How Proper. Comm® Help Judges are often bombarded with hundreds of emails and text messages provided by litigants as exhibits, reducing the amount of time available to handle more emergent situations. Proper. Comm® actually eliminates the emails. They no longer exist. This allows the parties to continue co-parenting without court intervention because the harassment is eliminated.

AVERAGE COST COMPARISON $ 6 000, 00 $ 5 000, 00 $ 4 000, 00 Proper. Comm® Costs $ 3 000, 00 Lawyer Costs $ 2 000, 00 Parenting Coordinator Costs $ 1 000, 00 $Reviewing 50 emails in Reviewing 100 text a year (70 words or messages in a year (70 less) characters or less)

AVERAGE COST COMPARISON $ 1 400, 00 $ 1 200, 00 $ 1 000, 00 $ 800, 00 Proper. Comm Costs $ 600, 00 Attorney Costs $ 400, 00 Parenting Coordinator costs $ 200, 00 $- Reviewing 5 emails a Reviewing 20 text month (70 words or messages a month (70 less) characters or less)

There is more than one right answer The emails and text messages do not need to be perfect and there is more than one right answer. The message need only be appropriate. The parties need not say please and thank you; however they can not be hostile or abusive either.

About our Auditors Our auditors are trained to take the hostility, anger and passive aggression out of emails. The auditors are tested on hundreds of sample emails and text messages before they edit a real email The auditors are regularly tested and their edits are reviewed randomly.