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Welcome to Our Lady of Victory & Our Lady of the Snow: Safe Environment Family Event October 18, 2015

Troy Police Department Patrolman Aaron Collington 518 -270 -4689 aaron. collington@troyny. gov

In Our Schools

Objectives • Define BULLYING. • Understand characteristics of Bullies/ and Victims. • Define Cyber Bullying. • Identify steps we can take to stop Bullying.

What Is Bullying? • Physical or psychological intimidation that occurs repeatedly over time • Bullying can be overt (i. e. , teasing, hitting, or stealing); boys are most often overt bullies • Bullying can be covert (i. e. , spreading rumors or exclusion); girls are most often covert bullies

Who Are Bullies? • Children who bully typically demonstrate a strong sense of self-esteem • They like to feel powerful and in control

Who Are Bullies? (continued) • Caregivers of bullies are typically uninvolved and lack warmth • Children who bully are often defiant toward authority figures and are apt to break rules

Who Are The Victims of Bullying? • Children who are bullied are often insecure, socially isolated, anxious, and have low self-esteem • They are unlikely to defend themselves or retaliate • They tend to be weaker than their peers

Who Are The Victims of Bullying? Cont’d • Children who are bullied perceive parent or teacher intervention to be ineffective and are unlikely to report the problem

Typical Adult Responses To Bullying • Bullying is often perceived as a harmless rite of passage that all children will experience • Unless bullying is likely to lead to physical injury, many adults believe it is best left to be resolved by children and their peers

Things Bullies Do • • • Call you names • Take things away from you Push or shove you • Tell lies about you to Trip you get you into trouble Hit you Make you drop things • Steal your things

Signs Someone is Being Bullied Individual has: • • Damaged, missing belongings, clothes. Reports losing items, Electronics etc. Unexplained injuries. Trouble sleeping, bad dreams. Frequent headaches, general illness. Afraid of going to school. Feels helpless, that they are not good enough.

Long-Term Implications of Bullying • Children who are bullies are likely to experience legal or criminal problems as adults • Children carry bullying behaviors into adulthood and experience difficulty in forming and maintaining relationships

Long-Term Implications of Being Bullied • Children who are bullied often experience low self-esteem and depression even into adulthood • Children who are bullied perceive school as an unsafe place and are likely to miss more days of school than their peers, as a result their education is negatively affected

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New Legislation in MA. • Mass. Governor Signed Anti-Bullying Bill – May 3, 2010 • The legislation requires school employees to report all instances of bullying and require principals to investigate them.

New Legislation in MA. • The bill gained momentum after the deaths of a 15 -yearold and 11 -year-old Carl Joseph Walker. Hoover of Springfield, who allegedly committed suicide after being bullied.

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New York State Education Law “Dignity for all Students Act” • § 10. Legislative intent. The legislature finds that students' ability to learn and to meet high academic standards, and a school's ability to educate its students, are compromised by incidents of discrimination or harassment including bullying, taunting or intimidation. It is hereby declared to be the policy of the state to afford all students in public schools an environment free of discrimination and harassment. The purpose of this article is to foster civility in public schools and to prevent and prohibit conduct which is inconsistent with a school's educational mission • . The Dignity Act was signed into law on September 13, 2010 and took effect on July 1, 2012.

Cyber-bullying & Cyber-stalking “Use of electronic communication or technological devices to include…” • • • Email messages Instant messaging Text messaging Internet chat rooms Internet postings Cellular phone communication Digital pictures / images Internet blogs Social websites

Cyber-information • Message Content – Used for Family Court action – Used for Criminal Court action – Information cannot be deleted, software and computer forensics experts can restore.

The New Bullies

Vital Stats More than 1/3 of teachers surveyed said social networking Web sites have disrupted their school’s learning environment. • 69% Posting of R -rated content • 62% Too much personal information online TMI, Dude • 42% Cyberbullying • 42% They’re wasting time! • 26% Creation of fake sites for principals/teachers Survey by a recent National School Boards Assn. survey

Example of cyberbullying on i. Chat (Apple’s instant messaging) Divagirl: Hey, loser, watch your back. tmt 323: What r u talking about? Divagirl: Why don't you kill yourself while u r ahead? tmt 323: Why can't you just leave me alone? Divagirl: Ugly girls like u need to be put in their place.

How common is cyberbullying? • 90% of middle school students have had their feelings hurt online. • 75% have visited a Web site bashing another student. • 40% have had their password(s) stolen and changed by a bully. • Only 15% of parents polled knew what cyberbullying was. Source: wiredsafety. org

Statistics • 1. Nearly 43% of kids have been bullied online. 1 in 4 has had it happen more than once. • 2. 70% of students report seeing frequent bullying online. Filling up your friends' Facebook feeds with positive posts instead of negative ones can boost school-wide morale. Start a Facebook page for students to submit positive acts they see in school to promote a culture of positivity on and offline. • 3. Over 80% of teens use a cell phone regularly, making it the most common medium for cyber bullying. • 4. 68% of teens agree that cyber bullying is a serious problem. • 5. 81% of young people think bullying online is easier to get away with than bullying in person.

: //www. dosomething. org/facts/11 -facts-about-cyber-bullying 11/2014 • 6. 90% of teens who have seen social-media bullying say they have ignored it. 84% have seen others tell cyber bullies to stop. • 7. Only 1 in 10 victims will inform a parent or trusted adult of their abuse. • 8. Girls are about twice as likely as boys to be victims and perpetrators of cyber bullying. • 9. About 58% of kids admit someone has said mean or hurtful things to them online. More than 4 out 10 say it has happened more than once. • 10. Bullying victims are 2 to 9 times more likely to consider committing suicide. • 11. About 75% of students admit they have visited a website bashing another student

8 Forms of Cyberbullying • Flaming: Using inflammatory or vulgar words to provoke an online fight • Harassment: Continually sending vicious, mean, or disturbing e-mails to an individual • Denigration: Spreading rumors, lies or gossip to hurt a person’s reputation • Outing: Posting or sharing confidential or compromising information or images • Trickery: Fooling someone into sharing personal information which you then post online

Forms of Cyberbullying, cont. • Exclusion: Purposefully excluding someone from an online group • Cyberstalking: Ongoing harassment and denigration that causes a person considerable fear for his/her safety • Happy-Slapping – recording someone being harassed or bullied in a way that usually involves physical abuse, then posting the video online for public viewing

Forms of Cyberbullying, cont. • Identity Theft/Impersonation – stealing someone’s password and/or hijacking their online accounts to send or post incriminating or humiliating pictures, videos, or information • Photoshopping – doctoring digital images so that the main subject is placed in a compromising or embarrassing situation • Physical Threats – sending messages that involve threats to a person’s physical safety • Rumor Spreading – spreading gossip through e-mail, text messaging, or social networking sites

Social Media

Bullying: What Can Children Do • Don’t BULLY, be an example • Don’t be a follower, say something – Hold your friends accountable – People will naturally look to you as a leader and use you as an example for what is right.

Bullying What Can You Do • Look for signs that your children are being bullied. – – Report the incident to school Report the incident to the Police Be supportive and reassure those who are bullied. Bullying is not OK! – YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE!

Cyber Bullying: What Parents Can Do • Keep your home computer is a busy area of your house. • Set up email and chat accounts with your children. Make sure that you know their screen names and passwords and that they don't include any personal information in their online profiles.

Cyber Bullying what Parents Can Do Cont. • Regularly review their friends on social media. Ask who each person is and how your children know him or her. • Print a list of commonly used acronyms from google search and post it by your computer.

Cyber Bullying what Parents Can Do Cont. • Discuss cyber bullying with your children and ask if they have ever experienced it or seen it happen to someone. • Tell your children that you won't blame them if they are cyber bullied. Emphasize that you won't take away their computer privileges - this is the main reason kids don't tell adults when they are cyberbullied.

Chat Acronyms • • ASL - Age, sex, location POS - Parent over shoulder GNOC - Get naked on cam LMIRL - Lets meet in real life P 911 - Parent alert GYPO - Get your pants off NIFOC - Nude in front of computer

The fastest growing types of cyberbullying • Stealing an individual’s name and password to a social networking site, then using their profile to post rumors, gossip or other damaging information. • Altering photographs using Photo. Shop or other photo editing software in order to humiliate the individual.

Growing Cyber Bullying Recording conversations without the individual’s knowledge or consent, then posting the call online. Creating confrontational and meanspirited online polls about the individual and posting them on different web sites.

Growing Cyber Bullying Using social media, web sites and blogs to post hurtful, embarrassing information about another individual.

Thank You For This Opportunity to Meet with you today.

Questions or Comments?

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Thank You! Officer Collington & Our Families. Wreath Sale for Joseph House Gr. 6 -11 youth please see your catechist to take a form for your family. Have a safe and wonderful week!

The Nicene Creed I believe in one God, the Father almighty, maker of heaven and earth, of all things visible and invisible.

I believe in one Lord Jesus Christ, the Only Begotten Son of God, born of the Father before all ages. God from God, Light from Light, true God from true God, begotten, not made, consubstantial with the Father; through him all things were made. 47

For us men and for our salvation he came down from heaven, (Bow) and by the Holy Spirit was incarnate of the Virgin Mary, and became man. . 48

For our sake he was crucified under Pontius Pilate, he suffered death and was buried, and rose again on the third day in accordance with the Scriptures He ascended into heaven and is seated at the right hand of the Father. He will come again in glory to judge the living and the dead and his kingdom will have no end. 49

I believe in the Holy Spirit, the Lord, the giver of life, who proceeds from the Father and the Son, who with the Father and the Son is adored and glorified, who has spoken through the prophets. I believe in one, holy, catholic and apostolic Church. I confess one Baptism for the forgiveness of sins and I look forward to the resurrection of the dead and the life of the world to come. 50