Veterans and Intimate Partner Violence Dr Elena Klaw

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Veterans and Intimate Partner Violence Dr. Elena Klaw Psych 190: Warriors at Home

Veterans and Intimate Partner Violence Dr. Elena Klaw Psych 190: Warriors at Home

Understanding Partner Violence n n n Healthy vs. unhealthy relationships What is abuse? What

Understanding Partner Violence n n n Healthy vs. unhealthy relationships What is abuse? What are risk factors for vets? What is the cycle of violence? Why is it hard to leave an abusive relationship? What can you do if you know someone in an abusive relationship?

Film Clip: Domestic Violence in the Military n http: //www. youtube. com/watch? v=0 UQz.

Film Clip: Domestic Violence in the Military n http: //www. youtube. com/watch? v=0 UQz. K u. E 69 XE

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships n There is a difference…

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships n There is a difference…

Understanding Abuse n n n Healthy relationships are based on trust and mutual respect.

Understanding Abuse n n n Healthy relationships are based on trust and mutual respect. You grow more! Unhealthy & abusive relationships are based on power and control. You feel weak! What are the 3 kinds of abuse ?

3 Types of Abuse n n n Physical - ranges from slapping, pinching, pushing,

3 Types of Abuse n n n Physical - ranges from slapping, pinching, pushing, and pulling hair to breaking bones, assault with a weapon, strangulation, and murder Psychological/emotional – verbal abuse, putting someone down, isolation, control, keeping tabs on someone Sexual – ranges from insisting on engaging in a sexual activity to coercion, sexual battery and rape

Power & Control in Military Relationships n Military Power and Control Wheel: http: //www.

Power & Control in Military Relationships n Military Power and Control Wheel: http: //www. ncdsv. org/images/Militarycontrolwheel. NOSHA DING. pdf n n n Maintaining hypermasculine beliefs that women should serve and obey men at home and sexually Acting like a commander at home: expecting others to follow orders Threatening harm to partner, kids, pets, property Invoking fear through one’s body or weapons Further isolating partner who is non military/non English speaking/immigrant Threatening to take away all benefits owed to military spouses: e. g. health care

Risk Factors for Veterans n n n TBI/m. TBI PTSD, Depression, Anxiety Anger “Fight

Risk Factors for Veterans n n n TBI/m. TBI PTSD, Depression, Anxiety Anger “Fight or flight response” Substance abuse Hypermasculine culture that may degrade women Stress of being away, and struggle with new roles Unemployment & financial stress Used to hierarchical environment Lack of social support Feel that they are not getting respect they are due Trained to use violence: Able to intimidate & have access

Power & Control & The Battering Cycle Tension Building n Triggers n Violence n

Power & Control & The Battering Cycle Tension Building n Triggers n Violence n Honeymoon/De-escalation *also called “presents & promises” n & seduction stage

Why is It Hard to Leave An Abusive Relationship? n n n n n

Why is It Hard to Leave An Abusive Relationship? n n n n n Fear Financial dependence Feel children should have 2 parents Love, Loyalty, Belief in Marriage Religion Lowered self worth Denial Self blame Hope that partner will change Lack resources for safety or info on rights

What You Can Say To a Victim To a Perpetrator n It’s not your

What You Can Say To a Victim To a Perpetrator n It’s not your fault. n You are not going crazy. n You are reacting normally n I am concerned about to a crazy situation. you and your family. n I am concerned about n Let’s make a plan to keep your safety. you and your family safe. n Let’s make a safety plan. n Let’s brainstorm solutions. n My door is open. n You need help: Next Door, SNBW, Vet Center, n You need help: Next Door, Counseling Services, SNBW, Vet Center, VAHCS. Counseling Services.