UNIT 4 TODDLER Guiding Behavior Chart Guiding Behavior

UNIT 4 TODDLER Guiding Behavior

Chart - Guiding Behavior by AGE The goal of guidance (teaching)is self-discipline 18 months – respond best to: v distraction v physical removal from harmful situation 2 Years – respond best to: v distraction v spoken directions 2 ½ Years – respond best to: v spoken directions v simple explanation 3 Years – respond best to: v reasonable & loving guidance

Sharing & Taking Turns v. Engage children in activities that require sharing & limit materials (shared play technique) v. Use the terms “sharing” and “taking turns” v. Praise children when they do it right

Aggressive Behavior & Temper Tantrums vis common in toddlers v. Caregivers should look for the cause of the behavior vinappropriate behavior usually means that a child is upset or a need is not being met v. Time-outs – most effective way to change aggressive behavior at this age

Setting Limits vstate limits clearly vacknowledge child’s feelings vgive alternatives – provide child an opportunity to continue activity in an acceptable way venforce limits – children will take them seriously

Encouraging Independence vchildren this age want independence vparents should: vprovide opportunities for children to practice skills (feed & dress selves) vhave realistic expectations vallow children to actively participate in daily activities

Scenario #1 v. My twins are two and a half years old and they never want to share or take turns. What can I do to change this behavior? v. Shared play technique – board games, do same activities together (coloring, playing with blocks) v. Sibling rivalry – need to learn to share mom’s attention v. Set timer while spend time with individual children v. Time-out if become aggressive

Scenario #2 v My three-and-a-half-year-old daughter misbehaves when I am trying to cook supper. She has temper tantrums as well as tries to open cabinets or touch things that she’s not allowed to play with. Is there something I can do to change or stop her behavior? v. Temper tantrums – time-out v. Involvement technique – let her help with preparing meal vstate expectations and give praise when she follows directions

Scenario #3 v My son, who is 3 ½ years old, has always seemed happy, but recently he started sucking his thumb again. He even wet his pants a few times over the past few weeks, something that hasn’t happened for almost a year. What could be causing this behavior with my toddler? What should I do about it? I am busy taking care of my newborn baby. v. Reverting – wants attention v. Jealousy – sibling rivalry v. Let him help with the baby v. Spend one-on-one time with him

Scenario #4 v. My nephew, who is 2 ½ years old, talks about somebody named Justin. There isn’t anyone in the family or at his daycare with this name. His mom thinks it might be an imaginary friend. Is it okay for him to have a made-up friend? v. Imaginary friends – normal and common for toddlers due to increased imagination v. Help them work through negative emotions and stress in life v. Will outgrow them as become school age and make “real” friends

Scenario #5 v. I am having difficulty getting my 2 year old daughter to stay in bed at night. She gets out of bed several times after being tucked in. I have tried leaving on lots of lights and letting her bring some of her favorite toys in bed with her. What else should I do? v. Bedtime routine needed – decrease lights & noise & allow time to settle down before bed v. NO toys in bed – distraction v. Guide her back to bed each time she gets up without talking to her or interacting with her

Review: Bellwork #9 Explain the difference between cooperative & parallel play. vparallel play (18 months) – when children play near, but not actually with, other children vcooperative play (3 years old) – when children interact and play WITH each other

List Bellwork #10 the most important things you’ve learned about toddler emotional and social development.