UNIT 2 Achieving Mental Emotional Health Chapter 3

UNIT 2 - Achieving Mental & Emotional Health Chapter 3 Everyone has setbacks and disappointments How do you handle it? Are your coping strategies healthful and positive? What could you have done differently?

What is M-E-N-T-A-L Health? M –mind, messenger, manage E- emotions, express, energy N- neurotic, nervous, normal/not normal T- thinking, telepathic, thoughts A- attitude, adjusted, anxious L- level-headed, life *Mental(6)…①of or related to the mind; ②carried out or taken place in the mind brainy, cerebral, clairvoyant, deep, heavy, ideological, imaginative, immaterial, inner, intellective, intellectual, mysterious, phrenic, psychic, psychical, psychological, rational, reasoning, spiritual, subconscious, subjective, subliminal, telepathic, thinking, thoughtful, unreal

Lesson 1: Developing Your Self. Esteem Good Mental & Emotional Health helps you function effectively each day Mental/emotional health(5)-the ability to accept yourself and others, express and manage your emotions, and deal with the demands and challenges you meet in life

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What is Mental & Emotional Health Importance You function better; happier, enjoy life Increases confidence Comfortable spending time alone or with others More flexible…not so ridged Increases social and physical health Characteristics Sense of belonging Sense of purpose Positive Outlook Self –sufficiency Healthy Self-Esteem

Benefits from a Healthy Mental State: Ch. 3 -Lesson 1 Vocab • Competence(1)-having enough skills to do something • Resilient(2)- they have the ability to adapt effectively and recover from disappointment, difficulty, or crisis • Self actualization(3)- striving to be the best you can be • Self-Esteem (4)-how much you value, respect, and feel confident about yourself…take healthful risks(try new things and succeed) …self esteem affects attitude which in turn affects confidence, being willing to take more challenges…therefore increasing

Self-esteem develops from feeling valued, loved, and accepted by others When does this development begin? Who influences it? Benefits of a Healthy Self-Esteem • Feel good about yourself…no matter what • Take pride in your accomplishments, skills, and abilities Steps to improve Self-Esteem Choose friends that value/respect you Try new things/discover new talents Focus on Positives Write down goals Don’t use negative self-talk Exercise, eat, sleep right-ENERGY Work toward accomplishments, not perfection Volunteer your time to help others Mistakes are learning opportunities Accept what you can’t change, focus on what you can

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs-(7) A ranked list of those needs essential to human growth and development Psychologist Abraham Maslow (1943, 1954) stated that human You should satisfy motivation is based on people seeking fulfillment and change your needs from through personal growth the bottom of the pyramid to the top 1. Biological and Physiological needs - air, food, drink, shelter, warmth, sex, sleep, etc. 2. Safety needs - protection from elements, security, order, law, limits, stability, etc. 3. Belongingness and Love needs - work group, family, affection, relationships, etc. 4. Esteem needs - self-esteem, achievement, mastery, independence, status, dominance, prestige, managerial responsibility, etc. 5. Self-Actualization needs realizing personal potential, self-fulfillment, seeking personal growth and peak experiences. Maslow and Up

Maslow (1968): Some of the characteristics of selfactualized people • Characteristics of self-actualizers. : 1. They perceive reality efficiently and can tolerate uncertainty; 2. Accept themselves and others for what they are; 3. Spontaneous in thought and action; 4. Problem-centered (not self-centered); 5. Unusual sense of humor; 6. Able to look at life objectively; 7. Highly creative; 8. Resistant to enculturation, but not purposely unconventional; 9. Concerned for the welfare of humanity; 10. Capable of deep appreciation of basic life-experience; 11. Establish deep satisfying interpersonal relationships with a few people; 12. Peak experiences; 13. Need for privacy; 14. Democratic attitudes; 15. Strong moral/ethical standards. • Behavior leading to self-actualization : (a) Experiencing life like a child, with full absorption and concentration; (b) Trying new things instead of sticking to safe paths; (c) Listening to your own feelings in evaluating experiences instead of the voice of tradition, authority or the majority; (d) Avoiding pretense ('game playing') and being honest; (e) Being prepared to be unpopular if your views do not coincide with those of the majority; (f) Taking responsibility and working hard; (g) Trying to identify your defenses and having the courage to give them up. http: //www. youtube. com/watch? feature=player_em bedded&v=y. M 8 Sw. Zkv. CIY#t=0 s

Self Esteem Activity ~applying knowledge~ HS 6 -Students apply knowledge of language structure, language conventions, media techniques, figurative language, and genre to create, critique, and discuss print and non-print text. Read the journal entry written by a teen. On a sheet of paper, identify the statements that reflect poor mental and emotional health and rewrite the statements so they reflect good mental emotional health. a. Write the complete negative statement b. Under it, rewrite the statement to be more positive

Lesson 2: Developing Personal Identity and Character Healthy Identity is based on being a person of good Character What is Character? • Personal Identity-describes who you are and your sense of yourself as a unique individual It is one of the most important tasks you will accomplish during your teen years

How Identity Forms Influences on Personal Identity Likes and Dislikes Relationships (Friends/Family) Experiences Opinions Values (*ideals and beliefs) Interests Occupational Goals

Other influences on identity are Role Models–someone whose success or behavior serves as an example for you Parts of Your Identity Personality- a complex set of characteristics that makes you unique *It sets you apart from others and determines how you will react in certain situations Group Affiliations(other relationships)- family, friends, ethnic group also define who you are

Importance of Good Character- the distinctive qualities that describe how a person thinks, feels, and behaves • An outward expression of your inner values • Important part of your healthy identity Core Ethical Values/Traits Trustworthiness Respect Responsibility Fairness Citizenship Caring

WHAT IS CHARACTER? • Our Character Is Who and What We Really Are Abraham Lincoln said, “Reputation is the shadow. Character is the tree. ” • Our CHARACTER is not just what we try to display for others to see, • It is who we are even when no one is watching. • Good character is doing the right thing because it is right to do what is right.

Six Pillars of Character *Universal/Core…because they are held in high regard across all cultures and ages • Trustworthiness – honest, loyal, reliable • Respect – considerate of others; accept differences • Responsibility- self control; think before acting; consider consequences; accountable • Fairness- play by rules; share; open minded; listen to others • Caring – kind; compassionate; express gratitude; forgiving • Citizenship – obey rules; laws; advocate for a safe & healthy environment

By demonstrating the Six Pillars/Traits of Good Character consistently in your actions and behaviors, you show you have integrity-a firm observance of core ethical values ~You control who you become and a positive identity~ q Recognize your strengths and weaknesses-stop making life a contest; there will always be people more or less able than you in areas of life q Demonstrate Positive Values q Develop a Purpose in Your Lifeq Form Meaningful Relationships & accept- Constructive Criticism-non hostile comments that point out problems and encourage improvement q Avoid Unhealthy High-Risk Behaviors q Contribute to the Community-help someone else

Our Character Is What Determines Our Responses to Life Situations Summary~ CHARACTER is the foundation for all true success • A person may have money, position, or power, but unless he has “good” character he or she is not considered to be truly successful. Live a Life that Matters! • In the craziness of everyday living, it’s hard to keep perspective. Money, position, pride, and power seem so important – until they’re not. • What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom, and for what. • What do you want to be remember for? ?

Lesson 3: Expressing Emotions in a Healthy Way Emotions- signals that tells your mind and body how to react to certain situations Changes and growth during puberty are caused by hormones. Chemicals produced by glands that regulate the activities of different body cells; causing your emotions to swing from one extreme to another

Emotions can…guide you to succeed or prevent you from reaching your goals • Emotions contribute significantly to your intelligence and your ability to navigate through your life. • (1) Understanding your emotions is essential, considering the information they can provide • (2) Regconize the ways in which they affect the decisions you make • how much they determine the ways in which you might respond to situations, • the motivation they make available that can enable you to reach your goals.

Common Emotions Fear Anger Happiness Common Emotions Sadness Jealousy Guilt

Fear • Fear is the feeling of danger • Body’s physiological response to fear: Fight or Flight – – Heart beats faster which supplies more blood to muscles Muscles become tense and senses become more alert These reactions prepare your body to deal with the danger Your body will return to normal once you have dealt with the situation that caused the fear • It is important to work through fears so that the body doesn’t stay in this state of alarm for an extended time • 2 Effective management techniques -environmental planning -self talk

Top Ten Common Phobias Phobia is a very intense and deep fear of some entities such as people, things, circumstances, events etc. The chief symptom of phobia has always been found to be the inane necessity to avoid the object creating the fear. Phobias are considered to be a kind of anxiety disorder.

Arithmophobia- Fear of numbers Arachibutyrophobia- Fear of peanut butter sticking to the roof of the mouth.

Anger • Anger is a strong feeling of irritation-Hostility/intentional use of unfriendly offensive behavior • Anger is accompanied by physiological responses – – Increased heart rate High blood pressure Headaches Nausea • Find a release for your anger, don’t keep it penned up inside • Managing Anger -Take a time out -Think before you speak – Find a positive release/do something to relax – Do something physical to release your anger – Practice Relaxation skill – Talk with someone you trust

Guilt and How To Manage It • Guilt is the feeling that you have done something wrong or are responsible for something bad happening • Guilt can be your cue to resolve a problem. Guilt can also drive you to do the right thing in a situation • Managing Guilt: -Recognize it Think about the source of your guilt(what made you feel guilty) Try not to be critical of yourself & dwell on your actions If you’ve made a mistake, correct it and then move on (learn from your mistakes) – Tomorrow is another day! – Follow with a good dead-help someone – Talk to a trusted person – –

Happinessbeing happy and feeling satisfied How to achieve happiness… • 1 st-recognize that you have some control with your life • Establish close relationships with others • Have a positive attitude • Think about what makes you happy and make time for those activities • Take good care of your body • Be organized, but flexible, so you can adapt to changes as they occur in your life

Jealousy • Jealousy is the feeling of losing what a person has and insecurity within oneself/or towards others • Mixture of fear & insecurity • It can be very destructive if it is not controlled • Managing jealousy: – Discuss these feelings with the other person involved – Positive thinking/focus on what is good in your relationship NO WORRIES

Sadness Feeling sad is normal reaction to a difficult events. • Disappointment • Loss • Injury • Discouraged • Isolation • Lack of interest Prolonged periods of unresolved sadness can lead to depression and lack of energy Managing Sadness: -Share it/Talk -Embrace it/accept the circumstances -Express through other outlets; writing, paint, etc. . Give it a form -Go outdoors

Love Characteristics • A strong affection, Action of Caring • Deep concern • Respect, Commitment • Trust ~Loving someone means that you support the needs & growth of that person ~You respect their feelings and values WANTING THE BEST FOR THAT PERSON ~Sometimes young love is confused with infatuation Differences in Feelings Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. Love is always associated with connection between two souls that goes beyond the self. • Infatuation feels like being in love but it is not. The intensity of the emotion is strong but not pure enough like love. Infatuation may make the other person selfish if the opposite person's reaction isn't the same. Infatuation isn't pure like love and may be accompanied by lust. It goes about thinking about oneself and not the other person. • • Dangers-becoming possessive, jealous

Infatuation Love A decision to commit oneself to Infatuation is the state of being completely carried another and to work through Definition: away by unreasoning desire. conflicts instead of giving up. A deeper understanding or care. Associated Selfish uncontrollable desire with: Decision to devote yourself to another person for better or worse. Short lived physical desire, crush, or lust , hormonal Intimacy, commitment, security, Subactivity, addictive chemical reactions in the brain. may be scary at first, must Categories: Not revived with the same person without a deeper accept the feeling. Faithfulness, confidence. Willingness to make sacrifices urgency, intensity, sexual desire, anxiety, high risk for another. Working at settling Symptoms: choices, reckless abandonment of what was once differences. Able to compromise so that either both valued win or at least give the other person's opinion a chance. A deep affection; contentment, All consuming euphoria similar to recreational drug confidence. Partners use (addictive chemical reactions in the brain), communicate and negotiate Feels like:

Managing Your Emotions How does learning how to show your emotions in a positive way improve your social health *improves relationships with friends & family *Helps one learn empathy. The ability to imagine and understand how someone else feels *be more supportive to others

How can you respond to difficult emotions? o o o Ask question of yourself Most often the techniques help Why do I feel this way? Will the event matter later in life? ease/reduce-the intensity Why should I wait before ~deep breaths responding? What would help me feel better ~relaxing your muscles ~getting away until you without hurting others? calm down Who can I ask to help me? ~put in down in writing ~talking with someone you trust ~exercise; release tension in a positive outlet

Defense Mechanisms *Short term protection from strong emotions Repression (unaware/ Unconscious) Pushing unpleasant feelings out of your mind Suppression (on purpose/ conscious ) Pushing unpleasant feelings out of your mind Rationalization Making excuses Regression Acting like a child Denial Refusing to recognize the obvious Compensation Making up for weaknesses by focusing on strenghts Projection Attributing feelings or fault to another person • Are mental processes that protect individuals from strong or stressful emotions and situations. • Sometimes you use them unconsciously… • Helps for a short time; eventually you need to work through the problem.