Unconventional Sexual Behaviors 2011 John B Pryor Illinois

paraphilias Abnormal?

Criteria of abnormality: �Statistically rare �Deviates from cultural norms �Causes discomfort �Causes inefficiency �“Bizarre” �Causes harm to self or others

Paraphilia (DSM-IV-tr definition) � Mental disorder � Recurrent intense sexual urges, sexually arousing fantasies, or behaviors � Lasting at least 6 months � Involving a)nonhuman objects, b) suffering or humiliation of oneself or one’s partner c)children or other nonconsenting people � Person has acted upon the urges or is markedly distressed by them � It causes clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational or other important areas of life.

THEORETICAL PERSPECTIVES ON PARAPHILIAS BIOLOGICAL VIEWS • example-higher testosterone among exhibitionists LEARNING VIEWS • example-experimental evidence that fetishes can be conditioned • example-clinical histories

THEORETICAL PERSPECTIVES ON PARAPHILIAS SOCIOLOGICAL VIEWS • example-S & M subculture MONEY’S LOVEMAP ANALYSIS

John Money (1986) - some ideas on paraphilia “Lovemaps” - cognitive templates of idealized lover and idealized erotic relationship – similar to schemas Lovemaps are influenced by culture, family experiences, & other childhood experiences (e. g. rehearsal play).

John Money (1986) - some ideas on paraphilia Paraphilias develop when children are indoctrinated to distinguish the pure from the profane. � WORLD OF LOVE = PURE, SAINTLY, & UNDEFILED � WORLD OF LUST=SINFUL, DIRTY, & DEGRADING �

John Money (1986) - some ideas on paraphilia � Lovemaps are defaced by such experiences as punishment for sex play. Paraphilia represents a rescue of lust.

Some Unconventional Sexual Behaviors � Fetishism � Transvestism � Sadism & Masochism � Voyerism � Exhibitism � Necrophilia � Beastiality � Asphyxiophilia

Fetishism � Fetishes may be conceived as a continuum . . MILD PREFERENCE STRONG PREFERENCE NECESSITY SUBSTITUTE FOR HUMAN Considered “Abnormal”

Shoe Fetishes - example of form fetish

Leather Fetish - example of media fetish

Rubber Fetish another example of a media fetish A popular event in London, England is the annual Rubber Ball

Sometimes people want to do unusual things with the fetish object Example: Anal Insertion

Surgery Magazine Case 1. A 39 -year-old married white male lawyer presented (1986) with a self- inserted perfume bottle in his rectum that he was unable to remove using various objects, including a back scratcher. He had inserted this bottle on previous occasions. Edema of the rectum and sigmoid colon precluded the successful manual removal of the object in the emergency room. The 3 by 17 cm object, "Impulse Body Spray, " was removed manually after a spinal anesthetic.

Survey from Surgery Magazine (1986) Previously reported recovered rectal foreign bodies Object Number Recovered Glass or ceramic Bottle or jar 31 Bottle with attached rope 1 Glass or cup 12 Light bulb 7 Tube 6

Foods Apple Banana Carrot Cucumber Onion Parsnip Plantain (with condom) Potato Salami Turnip Zucchini 1 2 4 3 2 1 1 1 2

Wooden Ax handle Stick or broom handle Miscellaneous or unspecified Sexual Device Vibrator Dildo 1 10 3 23* 15

Kitchen devices Dull knife Ice pick Knife sharpener Mortar pestle Spatula (plastic) Spoon Tin cup 1 1 1 2 1 1 1

Miscellaneous tools Candle Flashlight Iron rod Pen Rubber tube Screwdriver Toothbrush Wire spring 1 2 1 1

Inflated devices Balloon 1 Balloon attached to cylinder 1 Condom 1 Balls Baseball 2 Tennis ball 1 Miscellaneous containers Baby powder can 1 Candle box 1 Snuff box 1

Miscellaneous Bottle cap ** 1 Cattle horn 3 Frozen pig's tail 1 "Kangaroo tumor" # 1 Plastic rod 1 Stone 2 Toothbrush holder 1 Toothbrush package 1 Whip handle 2*

Collections (one case of each) 2 Glass tubes 72 1/2 Jeweler's saw Oil can with potato stopper Piece of wood, peanut Umbrella handle and enema tubing 2 Glasses Phosphorus match ends (homicide) 402 Stones Toolbox ## 2 Bars soap Beer glass and preserving pot Lemon and cold cream jar 2 Apples Spectacles, suitcase key, tobacco pouch, and magazine total of 14 collections, with approximately 500 objects

Infantilism: Example of how fetishes are often incorporated into elaborate rituals � A fetish involving objects associated with infants. � Infantilists are typically heterosexual males. � The fetish usually includes using one, or all of the following: Diapers, Plastic or Rubber Pants, Baby Bottles, Pacifiers, Bibs, etc.

Infantilism (from a survey by Speaker, 1987) � 50 % - Were Bedwetters as children � 22 % - Remember wearing daytime diapers beyond the third year. � 63 % - Remember wearing night diapers beyond the third year. � 100 % - Resumed wearing diapers between the age of 4 and 29. � 96 % - Resumed wearing diapers by personal choice.

Infantilism � 55 % - Resumed wearing diapers between the age of 12 and 20. � 81 % - Have erotic feelings while wearing diapers. � 65 % - Wore diapers with no one's knowledge. � 96 % - Have/Had sexual intercourse without wearing diapers. � 74 % - Have/Had sexual intercourse while wearing diapers.

Infantilism � 77 % - Non Drug users. � 88 % - Prefer and enjoy being an Adult Baby. � 100 % - Sexually excited while wearing diapers. � 100 % - Masturbate while wearing diapers. � 77 % - Are currently involved in a sexual relationship. � 66 % - Are involved with a female partner. � 66 % - Think of Infantilism as a lifestyle.

Transvestism � Cross-dressing Tyler Perry as Madea

Some macho actors? Wesley Snipes John Leguizamo Patrick Swayze

Cross-dressing in the movies Wesley Snipes Patrick Swayze John Leguizamo To Wong Foo Thanks for Everything, Julie Newmar (1995)

More Movie Stereotypes Tim Curry as Frankenfurter in The Rocky Horror Picture Show

Some famous politicians are rumored to be cross-dressers in their private lives…probably just a rumor

In one survey, 70% of transvestites were found to be heterosexual. Many are happily married.

Survey by BULLOUGH, SMITH (2002)

The web is full of product sources and how-to books for cross-dressing

Sadism & Masochism � Marquis de Sade � Leopold von Sacher-Masoch � “A Guide to Erotic Flogging” manuscript available from the Society for Human Sexuality, University of Washington � Baumeister’s theory of escape from self

“The dominatrix (female dominator) commands me to clean a toilet, then ‘rewards’ me by allowing me to chew on one of her dirty socks. ” The Notorious Betty Page SM Film Star of 1950 s

Amsterdam’s Red Light District has prostitutes who openly advertise SM specialties

Bondage Website from Japan SM seems to be common in many cultures

Preferred D & S activities from a survey of gay S & M men � Spanking � Master-slave relationships (servilism) � Oral sex � Masturbation � Bondage � Humiliation � Erotic Lingerie � Restraint � Anal Sex

Weinberg, Williams, & Moser (1984) study of “Nonclinical” D & S � Consensual � Sexual scenes are acted out � The amount of pain, if any, is controlled by the submissive partner � Often, participants switch roles

SM as a continuum � What are some behaviors that contain elements of sadism & masochism or domination & submission, but are relatively “normal”? � At what point does it become abnormal or a problem or a fetish?

BITING DURING SEXUAL PLAY OR INTERCOURSE AMONG ISU STUDENTS

BITING DATA FROM SPRING 2011 34 Male Bitee 66 44 Male Biter 56 no yes 25 Female Bittee 75 37 Female Biter 63 0 10 20 30 40 % 50 60 70 80

Voyeurism � Arousal from watching others nude or performing sex acts - "looking without consent. " frames from a hidden camera in a women’s restroom taken by a high tech voyeur the absence of consent is often more important than the nature of the visual image stolen

Exhibitionism

Necrophilia � Sex with dead people � Usually thought to be a symptom of a pervasively disturbed personality � Psychosis Jeffrey Dahmer

Leda & the swan Beastiality � Sex with animals (not human) � For example, dogs, cats, sheep, cows, chickens, pigs, etc. What was the real relationship between Scooby & Shaggy?

Asphyxiophilia � Enhancement of sexual experience by cutting off the blood flow to the brain through strangling � Usually performed during masturbation � Danger of cardiac arrest � The American Psychiatric Association estimates a death rate of one person per year per million of population -- thus about 250 deaths last year in the U. S. Law enforcement estimates go as much as four times higher.

Actor David Carradine found dead --June 4, 2009 � � American actor David Carradine was found dead, hanging by a nylon rope in a hotel room closet in Bangkok, Thailand, according to a Thai police official. Carradine became famous in the 1970 s when he starred in the television series "Kung Fu. ” The rope was believed taken from the hotel room curtains, Bangkok Police Lt. Colonel Pirom Chanpirom said. Investigators found no sign of a forced entry into Carradine's room, Chanpirom said.