TUESDAYS WITH MORRIE By Adriana Carus o Shelby

TUESDAYS WITH MORRIE By: Adriana Carus o, Shelby Ferriere, Sara Gio vine, and Marissa Mahoney

THE FIRST TUESDAY: THE WORLD Dying brought him to appreciate the world more. He cries all the time now because of the world. Love is the only rational act, it wont make us soft “the most important thing in life is to give out love and let it come in. ”

THE SECOND TUESDAY: FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF Our society has a shortage of compassion. Concentrate on all the good things in your life. It would be useful to put a daily limit on self-pity.

THE THIRD TUESDAY: REGRETS Our culture doesn’t encourage us to think about regrets until were about to die. Were constantly busy so we never get a chance to take a step back and look at our lives and see if there's more to it.

THE FOURTH TUESDAY: DEATH “everyone knows they're going to die, but nobody believes it. ” § if we believed we were going to die what would we do differently? If you prepare for death you can be more involved in your life while living. Is today the day? We all walk around sleepwalking not fully experiencing the world. “once you learn how to die, you learn how to live. ”

THE FIFTH TUESDAY: FAMILY “The fact is, there is no foundation, no secure ground, upon which people may stand today if it isn't the family. ” Love is supremely important. You don’t have much at all if you don’t have the love and support of a family. Family isn't just about love its letting others know there's someone who is watching out for them. There's no experience like having children.

THE SIXTH TUESDAY: EMOTIONS Learn to detach yourself. § Don’t cling on to things, because everything is impermanent. By detaching you let the experience penetrate you fully. Wash yourself with emotion, so you don’t let it control you.

THE SEVENTH TUESDAY: FEAR OF AGING Forget what our culture says, don’t let it dictate your life. Embrace aging. § As you grow you learn more. § Aging is growth. § It helps you understand that you are going to die. If you're always battling against getting older, you're always going to be unhappy. “accept who you are and revel in that. ” (120) Age is not a competitive issue.

THE EIGHT TUESDAY: MONEY We put our values in the wrong things, which lead to disillusioned lives. We are led to believe that more is good, so we have no perspective on what's really important anymore. You cant substitute material things for love or gentleness. There's a big confusion over what we want and what we need.

THE NINTH TUESDAY: HOW LOVE GOES ON Love is how you stay alive, even after you’re gone. Be fully present with people. Everyone's in such a hurry, they haven't found the meaning to their life yet.

THE TENTH TUESDAY: MARRIAGE People tend to struggle with commitment. Some rules to be true about love and marriage: § § § Respect the other person Compromise Talk openly Have a common set of values Belief in the importance of your marriage “I think marriage is a very important thing to do, and you're missing a hell of a lot if you don’t try it. ” (149)

THE ELEVENTH TUESDAY: CULTURE “Invest in the human family. Invest in people. Build a little community of those you love and who love you. ” (157) People are only mean when they are threatened. Our culture makes it so if we feel threatened we start looking out for only ourselves. Build your own subculture: § Chose how you think and what you value. Every society has its own problems. The biggest defect in human beings is our shortsightedness.

THE TWELFTH TUESDAY: FORGIVENESS There's no point in keeping vengeance or stubbornness. Don’t get stuck on regrets. Make peace with yourself and everyone around you. “Forgive yourself before you die. Then forgive others. ” (164)

THE THIRTEENTH TUESDAY: THE PERFECT DAY Were all looking for a certain peace with the idea of dying. “death ends a life, not a relationship. ” Perfection in an average day.

THE FOURTEENTH TUESDAY: WE SAY GOOD-BYE Throughout the book we learned that its important to tell those you love how you feel before its too late.