Think about the Hartman Personality test was it

� Think about the Hartman Personality test, was it accurate? � What did you learn about yourself?

Responding Appropriately to others

� Maintain eye contact � Don’t be doing something else while they talk � Nod your head � Say things that, “yes, right, ok, etc” to let them know you are hearing them. � Face them while they talk � BAD Example of Active listening: � https: //www. youtube. com/watch? v=Qg 8 PIK 74 KO 4

� If there are other things on your mind, push them aside while you are listening to them. � Don’t be trying to come up with what YOU want to say while the other person talks. � https: //www. youtube. com/watch? v=WER 63 A Y 8 z. B 8

� Don’t interrupt � Wait to share your side or opinion

� Pause after the speaker is finished to collect your thoughts. � Think about what you want to say before you say it. � As yourself if what you want to say will get you the results you are looking for.

� Try not to linger over meaningless details.

� Clarify the other person’s thoughts by asking questions. �So you mean _______ �I heard you say that _______ �Am a right in thinking _______

� Nodding � Tell them what you think � Summarize what they said � Ask questions

� “I” messages let you say what you think and how you feel without putting down or attacking the other person. When you are hurt, upset, or angry � An “I” message can help you talk things through without getting into an escalating confrontation. � Here is an example of the difference between a “you” message and an “I” message: � “You” message: “You selfish jerk! You think the TV belongs to you. Well, it’s my turn now. ” � “I” message: “I feel annoyed when you switch the channel without asking. I want to be able to watch my show all the way through. ”

� 1) � 2) � 3) � 4) � 5) Name __________ When you ___(specific behavior) I feel __(name a feeling not “that you”) Because __(why you feel the way you do) And I want __(ask for what you need)

� Write and I message to respond to the following: �Your significant other calls you a name in an argument. �Your teacher gives you a bad grade on an assignment you spent a lot of time on. �Your friend has been talking about you behind your back.

� Change the following “you” statement in to an “I” statement. �“You’re so inconsiderate! Why don’t you clean up this place? !” � “You never listen to me! Its so frustrating!”

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