The Surprising Rule of 1090 What does this

The Surprising Rule of 10/90

What does this rule say? 10% of life comprise the events that happen to us. … and 90% of it is about the way we encounter them! 8 Behesht. Group. co

What does it mean? This is suggesting that we don’t have any control over 10% of occurrences. 8 Behesht. Group. co

Of course we can do nothing about a car which is just falling into a valley, or the airplane which arrives with delay and hence makes our whole plans go wrong; or about when we get stuck in traffic jam just for the mistake of a careless driver. 8 Behesht. Group. co

These are examples of the 10 percent of occurrences we may have no control on. But the remaining cases are different in that it is you who determines. How? Through your reactions. Here is an example: 8 Behesht. Group. co

Imagine you are at the breakfast table. Your daughter knocks over the cup of coffee and gets all its contents spilled on your suit. Obviously you have had no control over the incidence, but what follows would totally be dependent on your reaction: 8 Behesht. Group. co

Imagine you shout at your daughter with anger for the accident, blaming her for it. She bursts into tears; and then you proceed to blame your wife for misplacing the cup on the edge of the table and this is followed by a row. Then you rush upstairs and change your clothes, and when you come back, you see your daughter still weeping as she is trying to finish her breakfast to go to school, but she doesn’t catch up with the school bus. 8 Behesht. Group. co

Your wife is being so heartbroken and thus you don’t dare to ask her to take the girl to school. Therefore, you jump into the car to pick her up to school as quickly as possible. You take off for school and you over-speed. The police pull you over for over-speeding asking you for your driver’s license. You fish for your wallet but you don’t find it, only to remember that you’ve left it at home due to the hurry. 8 Behesht. Group. co

In the end, having been fined $60 and with 15 minutes delay, you get to school. Your daughter gets off and walks into the school without a goodbye. You proceed to work and arrive there with 20 minutes delay. You are supposed to attend a meeting where you must present some documents but they are in your bag and you’ve left it back home. Then you say to yourself “such a bad start off! Reckon things will still go from bad to worse!” Anyway you wait to get home. 8 Behesht. Group. co

Anyway, after a bad day you get back home from work, knowing that no one is going to greet you at the door. Why? Because of your reaction. Now why have you had such a bad day? 8 Behesht. Group. co

Was it coffee? Your daughter? The police? Or was it you? Definitely the last choice is the correct one! 8 Behesht. Group. co

What is for sure, you had no control over the knock-over of the cup, but your reaction which took place in less than 5 seconds was the root cause of the entire mishaps of that day. . But what if your reaction would have been in a different way: 8 Behesht. Group. co

your daughter spills the coffee on your suit and gets severely embarrassed. You see this and say to her: “That’s fine honey. Just be more careful, ok? ” and proceed upstairs, change, pick up your bag and come back down. Then you see your daughter get on the school bus. She waves at you as the bus pulls away. You set off to work and get there 5 minutes earlier giving a vivacious hello to your colleagues. So great a difference it is! 8 Behesht. Group. co

Two entirely different scenarios With same beginnings, diametrically opposite endings. why is that? It is Because of the difference in the kind of reaction in each case. You exerted your seemingly negligible 10% control and the rest was a question of how you reacted. 8 Behesht. Group. co

Here a few techniques which would enable you to apply the rule 10/90: When somebody was storming against you with criticism, don’t try to stop them, but let him go so far as he slows down. Never allow negative opinions to influence you. Take the best action to save your day. An improper reaction may end in losing a friend, getting sacked, or a nervous breakdown. 8 Behesht. Group. co

What would you do if a car nipped in and blocked your path while driving? Would you lose your temper? Or would you hit hard on the steering wheel? (a friend of mine did this and got the steering wheel of his car dented!!) Would you swear? Who cares if you arrive at work 10 seconds late? Why would you allow other cars to spoil your ride? 8 Behesht. Group. co

In such cases remember the rule 10/90 and don’t worry at all! Have they just told you that you are going to get sacked? Why agitated and sleepless? This will be solved. Just use the energy you are wasting for worrying for the purpose of finding a new job. 8 Behesht. Group. co

If the plane has delay and this seems to be going to congest your timing even tighter, why take it all out on the flight crew? They may not have control over what is happening. So use your time for studying or getting to know other passengers, why get angry as this will only worsen things! 8 Behesht. Group. co

Now you know the rule 10/90. Apply it and get stunned at its miraculous results. A trial wouldn’t hurt. This is a fantastic rule. Only few people know this rule and apply it. And the result? You’ll see it for yourself. 8 Behesht. Group. co

Stephen Covey Discover rule 10/90. This will change your life (or at least will change your reaction to various problems ). 8 Behesht. Group. co