THE MANY FACES OF COURAGE Courage doesnt mean

Physical Courage This is the courage most people think of first: bravery at the

Physical Courage Looks Like: � � � � getting up after falling out of

Does not look like � � � � � holding back or Hiding giving

Physical Courage Sounds like: � � � � "I'll try it!" "I'm okay!" "I

Physical Courage Does not Sound like: � � � � "I might get hurt!“

Social Courage Social courage is standing up tall, being able to greet the world

Social Courage looks like: allowing others to shine, succeed, win, and even be right!

Social Courage does not look like: � � � � � chasing fashion trends

Social Courage SOUNDS LIKE � � � � “Hello, my name is __. ”

Intellectual Courage being willing to grapple with difficult or confusing concepts and ask questions;

Intellectual Courage Looks Like: � � � asking questions listening to questions working on

� � � � � Intellectual Courage Does not Look Like: not asking questions

Intellectual Courage SOUNDS LIKE � � � � "Can you explain that to me

Emotional Courage being open to feeling the full spectrum of feelings and emotional experiences,

Emotional Courage Looks Like � � � helping friends grieve a loss confronting a

Emotional Courage does not look like � � � looking away, avoiding eye contact

Emotional Courage SOUNDS LIKE � � � � "I can do it!" "I can't

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THE MANY FACES OF COURAGE Courage doesn’t mean you don’t get afraid. Courage means that you don’t let fear stop you. ~Bethany Hamilton

We recognize courage in our heroes But…

How is this courage?

Physical Courage This is the courage most people think of first: bravery at the risk of bodily harm or death. It involves developing physical strength, resiliency, and awareness.

Physical Courage Looks Like: � � � � getting up after falling out of a tree, and trying again entering a dark room or sleeping in the dark training for a marathon resisting the temptation to eat junk food and reaching for healthy food instead getting regular medical and dental exams enjoying the outdoors, no matter the weather, and exploring the world climbing a mountain facing an enemy on the battlefield

Does not look like � � � � � holding back or Hiding giving up after one failed attempt clinging to unhealthy habits being a couch potato avoiding physical challenges ignoring the doctor's advice to change some of your lifestyle habits allowing a prior injury or frightening experience to scare you out of trying a new sport or activity shrinking back from a doctor or dentist shying away from new foods, activities, games

Physical Courage Sounds like: � � � � "I'll try it!" "I'm okay!" "I can do it!" "Look at me!" "Let's go outside. " "I love my hair!" "Watch what I can do!" "No thanks, I'm full. "

Physical Courage Does not Sound like: � � � � "I might get hurt!“ “I can’t” “I’m too scared” "It's too hot/cold/wet/dry/squishy/sli my/dirty. " "It's too far/high/deep/big/steep. " "I'm fat/ugly/slow. " "I had a bad day—I need chocolate”

Social Courage Social courage is standing up tall, being able to greet the world with your head held high, and feeling comfortable in your own skin. Social courage means not conforming to the expectations of others, being willing to show your true self even if it means risking social disapproval or punishment.

Social Courage looks like: allowing others to shine, succeed, win, and even be right! � being on time � helping play host/hostess at a party � admitting mistakes � running for class/school/public office � standing up to peer pressure � apologizing � keeping your word � asking for help � shaking hands and introducing yourself � � � � � having a personal style and sticking to it, regardless of fashion trends performing in a play or concert delivering an oral report with confidence inviting the kid who often gets left out to your birthday party organizing a charity event finding role models who reflect our own values stepping away from a clique that has become unhealthy resisting the temptation to lie or cheat, even if a close friend or family member asks you to

Social Courage does not look like: � � � � � chasing fashion trends allowing others to make your decisions standing at the back of a group photo or presentation gossiping being a bully or a passive bystander � � � always sitting at the back of the class refusing or "forgetting" to vote refusing to sign up for an after-school or extracurricular activity refusing to make new friendships and avoiding situations where you don't know anyone waiting to see what others do first not raising your hand running away from a mistake or accident breaking appointments when something "better" comes up texting or Facebooking bad news to a friend instead of doing it in person

Social Courage SOUNDS LIKE � � � � “Hello, my name is __. ” "So what if they don't like it? I do. " "Yes, I can help you fund-raise. " "I know it takes time to make friends. I just have to keep trying. " "I wasn't invited to her party, but that's okay. " "I'm trying out for the team/the play/the competition. " "Stop picking on her. " "Here's why I want you to vote for me. " DOES NOT SOUND LIKE: � � � "But everyone's wearing them!" "Can't you be more like the other moms? " "I don't like meeting new people. " "You're embarrassing me!" "I don't like people like that. " "If I do/don't do _______ people won't like me. " "People like that scare me. " "I didn't do it!" "You can't wear that!" "They'll all stare at me!" "If I can't go to this party I'll be a loser!"

Intellectual Courage being willing to grapple with difficult or confusing concepts and ask questions; being willing to struggle to gain understanding and risk making mistakes

Intellectual Courage Looks Like: � � � asking questions listening to questions working on puzzles and thought problems studying music or a foreign language applying for and using a library card disagreeing with your own mind seeking out opposing points of view deciding you'd rather have peace of mind than be right curiosity taking as long as necessary to learn something, rather than being satisfied with a superficial understanding offering opinions listening to others' opinions

� � � � � Intellectual Courage Does not Look Like: not asking questions not listening to questions -- or the answers giving up quickly on new material or new ideas not admitting that you don't know repeating "facts" without questioning them superstition inability to recognize connections between ideas lack of curiosity about other people, other ideas pretending you don't know what you really do know, like not opening the bills or test results accepting the first answer

Intellectual Courage SOUNDS LIKE � � � � "Can you explain that to me again? " "I've changed my mind. " "How do you know that's true? " "Where can I find more information? " "I get it!" "Wow, that's really interesting!" "Show me how you did that. " "I never thought of it that way. " "What do you think? " "I wonder if. . . " "Hmm, that didn't work out. Let's try that problem again. " "Are we even asking the right questions about this issue? " "What questions would you ask if you were in my shoes? " "I've got a great idea!" DOES NOT SOUND LIKE � � � � "Don't ask so many questions!" "Don't be ridiculous!" "I hate tests. " "I hate school. " "I'm terrible at math/spelling/languages/reading/etc. " "We're just supposed to solve the problem this way. " "Keep your opinions to yourself. " "Why do we have to learn this? " "I'm so stupid. " "Nobody's interested in what you have to say. " "That's how we've always done it. " "How should I know? " "Reading is a waste of time. "

Emotional Courage being open to feeling the full spectrum of feelings and emotional experiences, both positive and negative

Emotional Courage Looks Like � � � helping friends grieve a loss confronting a family member when you have been hurt making friends at sleep away camp, even when you know you might never see them again taking in an injured animal forgiving someone you love laughing so hard the tears come expressing gratitude crying without embarrassment helping a stranger who is in distress public displays of affection maintaining eye contact and smiling working as a social worker, counselor or emergency medical personnel

Emotional Courage does not look like � � � looking away, avoiding eye contact walking away from an "emotional" situation covering up or suppressing an emotional response, such as crying laughing off, mocking, or otherwise dismissing someone else's emotional response begrudging someone else's success or happiness embracing the victim role losing your temper and lashing out at others blaming others for faults or failures that you are covering up in yourself avoiding self-reflection, even after a loved one expresses heartfelt concern kicking the dog never being willing to be alone checking out of your life through obsessive behaviors like excessive t. v. watching, shopping,

Emotional Courage SOUNDS LIKE � � � � "I can do it!" "I can't do it -- yet!" "Congratulations! I am so happy for your success!" "I love _______ about you. " "Thank you!" "I'm angry right now but I know it won't last forever!" "I can see you're angry at me right now and that's okay. " "I'm good at ______. " “I need some help. " "I feel______. " "I'm worthy of love. " "I love you“ “I like being me. ” DOES NOT SOUND LIKE � � � "I don't like talking about my feelings. " "Boys don't cry. “ “m’m too big to cry. ” "I never get angry!" "I'm bored. " "Don't be sad, I hate it when you're sad!" "Get over it!" "It'll just make me feel worse if I talk about it, and I don't want to feel that. " “I’m fine. " "Oh, grow up!" "I can't. " "Why do good things always happen to other people? "