THE LEADERSHIP TRIANGLE SERVANT LEADERSHIP Authority based on

THE LEADERSHIP TRIANGLE SERVANT LEADERSHIP Authority based on influence Service and Sacrifice Love – the verb Will

LEADERSHIP Leadership - The skill of influencing people to work enthusiastically toward goals identified as being for the common good. The key to leadership is accomplishing the tasks at hand while building relationships. All of life is relational. There is an opportunity for leadership when two or more people are together. Think of a time when you have been a leader. Describe.

TRUST The most important ingredient in a successful relationship is trust. Without trust, it is difficult, if not impossible, to maintain a good relationship. Who do you trust? How was that relationship created? Describe. Why is trust important in leadership?

INFLUENCE Influence - The skill of getting people to willingly do your will because of your personal influence. Influence is about who you are as a person, your character, and the influence you've built with people. Is there someone who you willingly do something for them? How did they create influence with you?

POWER Power: The ability to force or coerce someone to do your will, even if they would choose not to, because of your position or your might. Power erodes relationships. Power erodes trust. Compare a time where you have led trough influence and a time where you have led with power. Describe. What is you natural tendency?

SERVICE AND SACRIFICE Service and Sacrifice - What you do when you have made the choice to identify and meet the legitimate needs of others, when you have made the choice to love. Service and sacrifice are what authority is built upon. It just makes sense. you reap what you sow - The Law of the Harvest. You serve me, I'll serve you. You go to the wall for me, I'll go to the wall for you. When someone does us a good turn, don't we naturally feel indebted? Describe a time where you have sacrificed in order to serve.

LOVE THE VERB Love, the verb - The act or acts of extending yourself for others by identifying and meeting their legitimate needs, not wants. Love is not how you feel toward others, but how you behave toward others. Agape - the love of behavior and deliberate choice. I cannot always control how I feel about other people, but I certainly am in control of how I behave toward other people. When we choose to love, to extend ourselves for others, we will be required to be patient, kind, humble, respectful, selfless, forgiving, honest, and committed. These behaviors will require us to serve and sacrifice for others. We may have to sacrifice our egos or even our bad moods on a particular day. We will have to sacrifice by loving and extending ourselves for people we may not even like.

LOVE THE VERB AND SACRIFICE Describe a time where you have chosen to be patient, kind , humble, respectful , selfless forgiving, honest or committed. Describe a time where you have willingly sacrificed.

WILL Will - Our unique ability as human beings to align our intentions with our actions and choose our behavior. With the proper will, we can choose to love, the verb, which is about identifying and meeting the legitimate needs, not wants, of those we lead. Will is the choices we make to align our actions with our intentions. Intentions minus Actions = Squat Actions = Will Intentions plus Describe a time where something has been successful because of your WILL. Describe a time where something has been unsuccessful because of your LACK of WILL.

SUMMARY Summary: Leadership begins with the will, which is our unique ability as human beings to align our intentions with our actions and choose our behavior. With the proper will, we can choose to love, the verb, which is about identifying and meeting legitimate needs, not wants, of those we lead. When we meet the needs of others, we will, by definition, be called upon to serve and even sacrifice. When we serve and sacrifice for others, we build authority or influence, The Law of the Harvest. And when we build influence with people, then we have earned the right to be called a leader.

WHO ARE OUR GREATEST LEADERS? The ones who have served the most! Make a list of the greatest leaders of all time. What do they have in common?

WHO ARE THE WORST LEADERS OF ALL-TIME? Make a list of the worst leaders of all time. What do they have in common?

DISCIPLINE Being a leader requires change. We can change our nature through our deliberate choices. It is human nature to be self-centered. Discipline - teaching ourselves to do what is not natural. Paradigms - our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs greatly influence behavior. Praxis - our behavior influences our thoughts and feelings. So, if I make a commitment to love and extend myself for those I serve, and align my actions and behaviors to that commitment, positive regard for those people will follow over time.

IT TAKES TIME The Four Stages of Building Character: Stage One - Unconscious and unskilled Stage Two - Conscious and unskilled Stage Three - Conscious and skilled Stage Four - Unconscious and skilled