The habits of highly effective people Habits have

The habits of highly effective people

Habits have a tremendous gravity pull 2

Lift off takes a lot of effort, but once we break out of the gravity pull, our freedom takes on a whole new dimension 3

Ready for take off ? 4

Habit 1: Be proactive “You are respons-able: able to choose your respons!” 5

Circle of Concern We have a wide range of concerns, but not all of them fall into our circle of influence Circle of influence 6

“Proactive people focus their efforts in their circle of influence, causing the circle of influence to increase Reactive people focus their effort in the circle of concern. The negative energy generated by that focus causes the circle of influence to shrink” 7

“Anytime we think the problem is out there, that thought is the problem” 8

You can choose your language Reactive: Proactive: I must I prefer If only I will They made me I choose If I had I can be 9

Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind 10

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The key to the ability to change is a changeless sense of who you are, what you are about and what you value 12

Is the script you are living in harmony with your values? 13

Habit 3: Put first things first 14

The key to time management is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule but to schedule your priorities 15

It’s almost impossible to say NO to the popularity of urgent, non important matters, if you don’t have a bigger YES burning inside 16

“Things which matter most should never be at the mercy of things which matter least” Goethe 17

Habit 4: Think Win/win 18

“You can only achieve win/win solutions with win/win processes” 19

It’s not your way or my way, it’s a better way 20

Habit 5: Seek first to understand, then to be understood 21

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“We have such a tendency to fix things up with good advice, but often we fail to take the time to diagnose, to really deeply understand another human being first” 23

Reading your own autobiography into other people’s lives is nót (even close to) listening 24

Habit 6: Synergize “The whole is greater than the sum of its parts” 25

“When we are left to our own experiences, we constantly suffer from a shortage of data” 26

“The person who is truly effective has the humility to recognize his own perceptual limitations and to appreciate the rich resources available through interaction with the hearts and minds of other human beings” 27

In order to have influence, you have to open yourself up to bé influenced 28

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw 29

Read, write, relax, exercise, play, love, get involved, meditate … 30

“Sometimes when I consider what tremendous consequences come from little things … I am tempted to think … there are no little things” Bruce Barton 31

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Be a Champion of Change with the 7 Habits Are you able to change important areas of your life? Are you just living day to day, or toward a hope? Do you prioritize your time and energy well? How often do you feel bullied by others? Do you understand others. . . and vice versa? What are your unique talents? Are they important? Does your life often feel “out of balance”? What does “success” mean to you? (family, friends, community, hobby, career, faith) What is required to obtain that success? 33

Are you willing to change course? Two battleships assigned to the training squadron had been at sea on maneuvers in heavy weather for several days. I was serving on the lead battleship and was on watch on the bridge as night fell. The visibility was poor with patchy fog, so the captain remained on the bridge keeping an eye on all activities. Shortly after dark, the lookout on the wing of the bridge reported, “Light, bearing on the starboard bow. ” “Is it steady or moving astern? ” the captain called out. Lookout replied, “Steady, captain, ” which meant we were on a dangerous collision course with that ship. The captain then called to the signalman, “Signal that ship: We are on a collision course, advise you to change course 20 degrees. ” Back came a signal, “Advisable for you to change course 20 degrees. ” The captain said, “Send, I’m a captain, change course 20 degrees. ” “I’m a navy officer second class, ” came the reply. “You had better change course 20 degrees. ” By that time the captain was furious. He spat out, “Send, I’m a battleship. Change course 20 degrees. ” Back came the flashing light, “I’m a lighthouse. ” We changed course. Will you crash against the principles. . . or change course? 34

The 7 Habits. . . an overview. 7 Sharpen saw Interdependence Understand Synergize 5 6 PUBLIC VICTORY Think win-win 4 Independence 1 st 3 things 1 st PRIVATE VICTORY 1 2 Be Proactive End in mind habit = knowledge + skill + desire Dependence 35

1. Be Proactive: Principles Embodied in Responsibility/Initiative the 7 Habits 2. Begin with the End in Mind: 3. Put First Things First: 4. Think Win-Win: 5. Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood: 6. Synergize: 7. Sharpen the Saw: Vision/Values Integrity/Execution Mutual Respect/Benefit Mutual Understanding Creative Cooperation Renewal Behavior is governed by values. Consequences are governed by principles. Therefore, value principles. 36

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Sharpen the Saw Interdependence Seek First to Understand, Then be Understood Public Victory Synergize Think Win-Win Independence Put First Things First Be Proactive Private Victory Begin with the Dependence End in Mind 37

Stimulus and Response Proactive Stimulus Response Freedom to Choose Self-Awareness Imagination Conscience Independent Will (Heart) (Mind) (Spirit) (Body) Reactive Stimulus Response 38

Stimulus and Response Freedom to Choose Stimulus Response Personal Level (Muscle Development) Stimulus Response Relationship Level (Skill Development) Stimulus Response Organizational Level (Team / System Development) Stimulus Human Need Level Response (Competitive Play) (Home Place/Work Place/Marketplace/Community/etc. ) 39

r u o Y Job Circle of Influence 40

Reactive Focus Circle of Influence r u o Y Job Wait Until Told (Co-dependent) 41

Proactive Focus r ub o Y Jo Circle of Influence 42

e a tion k a M enda m m o Rec r u o Y Job Wait Until Told Do it and report periodically Do it and report immediately “I intend to” Ask 43

Quadrant II Time ™ Management Not Urgent Important Urgent I u u u Crises Pressing problems Deadline-driven projects, meetings, preparations u u u Planning, Prevention PC activities Recognizing new opportunities Relationship Building Renewal, Recreation II Not Important Habits 1 -7 u u Needless interruptions Unnecessary reports Unimportant meetings, phone calls, mail Other people’s minor issues III u u u Trivia, busywork Some phone calls Time wasters “Escape” activities Irrelevant mail Excessive TV IV 44

The Level 5 Hierarchy LEVEL 5 Level 5 Executive Jim Collins Good to Great Builds enduring greatness through a paradoxical combination of personal humility plus professional will. Effective Leader commitment to and vigorous pursuit of LEVEL 4 Catalyzes a clear and compelling vision; stimulates the group to high performance standards. Competent Manager LEVEL 3 Organizes people and resources toward effective and efficient pursuit of predetermined objectives. Contributing Team Member LEVEL 2 Contributes to the achievement of group objectives; works effectively with others in a group setting. LEVEL 1 Highly Capable Individual Makes productive contributions through talent, knowledge, skills, and good work habits. 45

Four Areas of Choice Mind THE FIRE WITHIN Spirit Heart Body Make and Keep Promises Respect, Balance, Integrate, Develop Educate and Obey your Conscience 46

Four Needs of People Mind/ To Learn THE FIRE WITHIN Spirit To Leave a Legacy Heart/ To Love Body To Live 47

Four Needs of Organizations Mind/ To Learn Mental Use of Talents THE FIRE WITHIN Spirit To Leave a Legacy Spiritual Integrity Heart To Love Emotional Respect Body To Live Economic Security 48

Four Needs of People Four Needs of Organizations Mind/ To Learn Spirit To Leave a Legacy Heart Body To Love. Co-missioning. To Live Blending Voices 49

Four Intelligences of People Mental Intelligence (IQ) N THE FIRE WITHIN Spiritual Intelligence (SQ) Emotional Physical Intelligence Make and Keep Promises (EQ) (PQ) Educate and Obey your Conscience 50

Leading a Balanced, Integrated, Powerful Life Mind/ Vision N THE FIRE WITHIN Spirit Conscience Make and Keep Promises Vision, Heart. Discipline, and Passion Body governed by Conscience. Discipline change the Passion (your) world for good (lifts and lasts). Educate and Obey your Conscience 51

Four Roles of Leadership H: 7 Mind/ Pathfinding H: 2 THE FIRE WITHIN Spirit H: 4, 5, 6 Heart Empowering Modeling H: 1 -7 H: 3 Body Aligning Leadership is a Choice Manage Things; Lead People 52

Whole Person in a Whole Job Mind/ Use me creatively THE FIRE WITHIN Spirit/ In serving human needs in principled ways Heart/ Body/ Treat me kindly Pay me fairly 53

The High Cost of Low Trust Four Chronic Problems Mind/ No Shared Vision/Values DEAD ASHES Spirit/ Low Trust Heart/ Disempowerment Body/ Misalignment 54

Habit 1: Be proactive. the gap = our choice stimulus proactive (forward acting, opportunity-focused, clear) I will do my work before I watch TV I will exercise and pray each day. I will clean my room every week response circle of no concern Victor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning Not until you can say I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday. . can you say I choose otherwise. circle of influence concern reactive (reverse acting, problem-bound, vague) I am not as smart as others at this school. People think I’m too passive. I wish it was Friday! Examples of your reactive statements. . . and your “proactive” counterparts. What to do when frustrated? Discouraged? Imposter? What is your “fix routine”? Why not be proactive? What is the risk? Are you willing to risk failure? 55

Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind. The law of the farm: You reap what you sow. translated “sacrifice” vision = what you want to see mission = immediate next step(s) Both tend to focus priorities. Specifically … write what you want to reap. What do you HOPE for? A prestigious job? A girlfriend or boyfriend? Money? Write what you are willing to sow. Time? Personal energy? Money? Your friends? Any books or movies or models that guide you? 56

Christian Leadership’s vision and mission VISION A “shining city on a hill” … human dignity and virtue. You have a purpose. You have value as a human. hope and freedom. You can change the world. MISSION Inspiring NDCL students to change their world. . . and apprenticing them to champion their hope through • • character. Inspiring trust by establishing and practicing values with courage. ownership. Championing hopes with responsibility and tenacity. risk. Innovating or revolutionizing despite possible failure or adversity. engineering method. Making technical decisions soundly. 57

Habit 3: Put first things first. urgent important not urgent I: necessity crises deadlines “maintaining” II: opportunity PC activities planning & prevention commitment (25 - 25) (65 -15) III not important interruptions some meetings some reports (5 -55) IV trivia busy work time wasters (5 -5) • We want Quadrant II > Quadrant I. • Quadrant II comes from Quadrants III and IV. Estimate how much time you spend in Quadrant II (and what IS Quad IV? ). . . How do you plan your day? Datebook? Palm Pilot? How much is your time worth to you, in dollars/hour? 58

The P/PC balance Aesop’s fable “The Goose and the Golden Egg” “A man and his wife had the good fortune to possess a goose that laid a golden egg every day. Lucky though they were, they soon began to think they were not getting rich fast enough, and, imagining the bird must be made of gold inside, they decided to kill it in order to secure the whole store of precious metal at once. But when they cut it open they found it was just like any other goose. Thus, they neither got rich all at once, as they had hoped, nor enjoyed any longer the daily addition to their wealth. ” Production (things you are “paid” for) Production Capability (no “pay”!) designing a school event Running a school/ parish activity doing a dance enjoying a healthy body having great friends Going to a school event alone Missing out at a school/ parish activity Who has time for dance? Missing exercise routines Not calling friends back 59

Habit 3. . . a demonstration. 1 Identify big rocks (q 2). 2 Schedule these FIRST! 3 Surround with other. What is the lesson? 60

The 7 Habits. . . moving to interdependence 7 Sharpen saw Interdependence Understand Synergize 5 6 PUBLIC VICTORY Think win-win 4 Independence 1 st 3 things 1 st PRIVATE VICTORY 1 2 Be Proactive End in mind Dependence 61

consideration Habit 4: Think win-win. lose-win win-win or no deal (you get hard feelings) (abundance mentality; get P and PC) lose-lose win-lose (never pays) (other person gets hard feeling) courage Are there times when paradigms others than “win-win” are appropriate? How do you develop “courage”? “Consideration”? Emotional bank account? What causes conflict? Tools for conflict resolution? Your “boundaries”? 62

Habit 5: First understand. . . then be understood. win-win area = L x h h = “understand” L = “be understood” 4 tips for dealing with people Do not criticize, condemn, or complain. Express sincere appreciation. Give them “emotional air” and learn their story. Focus on their interests (know your best alternative coming in). Dale Carnegie How to Win Friends and Influence People Fisher & Ury, Getting to Yes What are some “stranglers” for emotional air? What are some ways we can express sincere appreciation? How often do you ask someone to a professional lunch? How do you meet a person? How do you greet a person? 63

Habit 6: Synergize. “Animal school” Once upon a time, the animals decided they must do something heroic to meet the problems of a “New World”, so they organized a school. They adopted an activity curriculum consisting of running, climbing, swimming, and flying. To make it easier to administer, all animals took all the subjects. In the end, the duck’s web feet were so badly worn that he couldn’t swim, the rabbit had a nervous breakdown and couldn’t run, the eagle was disciplined severely for getting to the top of the tree without climbing, and an abnormal eel ended up doing best overall and winning valedictorian. What are your unique gifts? What talents do you need from others? What qualities often seem like a disadvantage, but are necessary? How do you contact or talk with people, if you are shy? 64

The 7 Habits. . . one more step 7 Sharpen saw Interdependence Understand Synergize 5 6 PUBLIC VICTORY Think win-win 4 Independence 1 st 3 things 1 st PRIVATE VICTORY 1 2 Be Proactive End in mind Dependence 65

Habit 7: Sharpen the saw. Spiritual battle of good versus evil (Buddhism, Christianity, Hinduism, Islam, Judaism) Social Mental family, friends, service (notes, phone calls, emails, visits) reading, journaling, discussing, seminars, meetings Physical endurance, strength, flexibility, sleep, eating When will YOU sharpen your saw? What measures will you use in each category? 66