The Grieving Adult Child SUPPORT USING DOTERRA ESSENTIAL

The Grieving Adult & Child SUPPORT USING DOTERRA ESSENTIAL OILS

Disclaimer I am not a doctor or nurse and in no way claim to be. I will be sharing my family’s and my personal experiences using do. TERRA Essential Oils. I am not treating or diagnosing anyone in this presentation.

WHAT IS AN ESSENTIAL OIL? S Natural aromatic compounds found in plants S Steam-distilled or cold-pressed extraction S Powerful, safe benefits without side effects (Oil sacs on peppermint leaf)

ESSENTIAL OIL USES S AROMATIC—Diffuse in a room to purify the air or to change emotion S TOPICAL—Apply directly to skin during massage or for topical therapy S INTERNAL—Consume as a dietary supplement for targeted wellness

ESSENTIAL OIL SAFETY S Very safe and gentle without side effects S Keep out of eyes, ears, and nose S Dilute with vegetable oil, not water S Skin sensitivity primary safety issue S Follow all label directions

Why choose dōTERRA essential oils?

CPTG CERTIFIED PURE THERAPEUTIC GRADE® S PURE—natural, no artificial ingredients, fragrances, or fillers S SAFE—Certified to be free of pesticides and other chemical residues S POTENT—Standardized active compounds

What is Grief? Grief is a natural response to loss. It’s the emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is taken away. The more significant the loss, the more intense the grief will be. You may associate grief with the death of a loved one—which is often the cause of the most intense type of grief—but any loss can cause grief, including: • • • Divorce or relationship breakup Loss of health Losing a job Loss of financial stability A miscarriage Death of a pet A loved one’s serious illness Loss of a friendship Loss of safety after a trauma

Denial: “This can’t be happening to me. ” Anger: “Why is this happening? Who is to blame? ” Bargaining: “Make this not happen, and in return I will ____. ” Depression: “I’m too sad to do anything. ” Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what happened. ”

With loss you lose hope or what is familiar and must embark on a new life in the unknown. It can take time to grieve for what you have lost especially if it was someone, thing or place that was deeply loved. Losing your sense of self can also take time to process and heal as you mourn the loss. All life is transition and change and it is how you deal with these losses that shape your life. Some you can pass through very quickly but others will take more time to process. Each person experiences loss and grief in their own way and must be given the time and space to express themselves. Grief expresses itself in many different ways including but not limited to anxiety, fear, sadness, despondency, tears, guilt, anger, frustration, numbness, remorse, blame, regret, withdrawal, worthlessness, stress and depression. The following essential oils can help ease you through the grieving process allowing you to move on with your life. It is important when choosing which oils you will work with to keep in mind that aromas can be associated with a particular memory and to perhaps not choose a blend that you will use in the future which could be associated with your present loss and its painful memories especially in the case of the death of a loved one.

According to Daniel Mc. Donald, there are 5 stages of healing which take place in just about every circumstance: 1. Physical healing 2. Healing the heart 3. Releasing limiting beliefs 4. Increase spiritual awareness and connection 5. Inspire the fulfillment of our life's purpose As we use essential oils to heal our physical bodies and ailments, an emotional and spiritual healing can occur as well. Our bodies are being allowed to completely heal from the inside out, which differs from the medical healing that only addresses symptoms and doesn't always cure the real problem.

Serenity: The Oil of Forgiveness Nurture and Forgiveness Serenity reminds you to take time to nurture yourself physically, emotionally and spiritually during this time. It allows you to forgive yourself for things left unsaid or undone. It has a powerful effect on the heart. It calms feelings of hostility, anger, jealousy, rage, and resentment. Serenity can support an individual who struggles to forgive others for their blunders and behaviors. The need to blame others stems from unhappiness and pain in one’s own life. Serenity encourages individuals to look within themselves when they feel like blaming someone else. It assists the heart in remaining whole by practicing principles of forgiveness.

Citrus Bliss: The Oil of Creativity Powerful Motivator Citrus Bliss acts as a powerful fire starter. It returns motivation and drive when it is lacking. When the soul has lost its connection to the magic in life, this blend helps restore the spark. Citrus Bliss also inspires creativity. It can encourage individuals to use their creative power by letting go of old limitations and insecurities. Citrus Bliss rekindles the fire of the personality and fills the heart with creativity and joy.

Elevation: The Oil of Joy Inspires Courage & Happiness Elevation can assist individuals in letting go of lower vibrations. Old habits lose their appeal as an individual shifts into higher levels of consciousness. It can inspire feelings of cheerfulness, brightness, humor, playfulness and fun. By inspiring these feelings, Elevation transforms depression into sunshine and happiness. It teaches that worry and fear are not productive, but faith, hope and determination are. Elevation supports individuals in flowing with life while remaining in peace and light.

Balance: The Oil of Grounding Live in the Now Balances soft energy is excellent for calming the mind. It teaches that we need to live in the present moment and not be in a hurry. It also teaches stability when the world around us is chaotic. Balance is especially suited for personalities who seek to escape life through disconnection or disassociation. Balance reminds individuals that to realize their true dreams and goals, they must stay focused on the goal until it is actualized in the physical world. Balance teaches true perseverance by assisting an individual in staying present with a specific plan rather than drifting in the wind. Providing inner strength and fortitude, Balance teaches individuals they need to ground their energy and manifest their healing with the patience of a tree.

Bergamot: The Oil of Self-Acceptance Fosters: Joy Bergamot helps to soothe your feelings of anger, frustration and blame and release grief. It helps you see the light at the end of the tunnel and bring a sense of joy back into your life. It awakens the soul to hope and offers courage to share the inner-self. Bergamot teaches individuals to let go of selfjudgment by learning to love themselves unconditionally.

Roman Chamomile: The Oil of Spiritual Purpose Brings Peace Roman Chamomile helps you to feel at peace with the way you are feeling and soothes your feelings of being abandoned by the one you loved. It supports an individual in discovering and living their true life purpose. Like a guardian angel, R. Chamomile leads the soul to where it needs to be and what it needs to be doing.

Cypress: The Oil of Motion & Flow Supports Transition Cypress teaches the soul how to let go of the past by moving with the flow of life. Cypress is calming at times of transition and when difficult changes need to be made. Cypress shows how to have perfect trust in the flow of life.

Frankincense: The Oil of Truth Helps Calm and Centre Frankincense helps to calm and centre you when your mind seems to be overwhelmed with thoughts of what must be done or should have been done. It slows and deepens your breath so you can think more clearly. It invites individuals to let go of lower vibrations, lies, deceptions and negativity. This oil helps create new prospectives based on light and truth. It can help you break free of the past. Like a loving father who nurtures, guides and protects frankincense reminds individuals that they are loved and protected.

Geranium: The Oil of Love & Trust All emotional healer Geranium helps to even out the emotional rollercoaster you seem to be on. It brings a feeling of calm strength, security and balance and soothes feelings of anger, frustration and irritability. It facilitates trust, especially when an individual has lost trust in others due to difficult life circumstances. The individual who has a difficult time accessing their emotions can be supported by Geranium. At it’s root, Geranium heals the heart, instills unconditional love and fosters trust.

Lemon: The Oil of Focus Instills Clarity Lemon dispels confusion and bestows clarity. It teaches individuals to be mentally present by focusing on one thing at a time. Often a grieving adult o child will be feeling confused or unable to think clearly. Lemon restores energy, mental flexibility and drive. It calms fears and insecurities while restoring confidence in the self. It assists in releasing feelings of depression by restoring feelings of joy and happiness.

Marjoram: The Oil of Connection Brings Comfort Marjoram aides those who are unable to trust others or form meaningful relationships. This inability to trust may stem from harsh life experiences. They tend to protect themselves by putting up barriers or distancing oneself from those who deeply want to help them. Marjoram can bring a sense of comfort and stop those anxious and what if thoughts that seem to be going on in their mind on a non-stop loop. Marjoram teaches that trust is the basis for all human relationships. Marjoram softens the heart and heals past wounds. When an individual feels safe and loved, they express their authenticity more freely.

Myrrh: The Oil of Mother Earth True Healing Myrrh brings a sense of inner stillness and peace that helps to ease your sorrow and grief and your feelings of loss and rejection. Myrrh assists individuals in feeling safe and secure. Feelings of fear are replaced with feelings of trust and safety. Myrrh rekindles trust within the soul. As the individual learns to once again live in trust, confidence in the goodness of life returns and the soul feels safe to express their authenticity.

Sandalwood: The Oil of Sacred Devotion Instills Stillness Sandalwood can help you cut your ties with the past and move through your feelings of loss and isolation. It can bring a sense of clarity and moments of stillness. Sandalwood is known for its incredible ability to calm the mind, still the heart and prepare the spirit. Is assists individuals in reaching beyond their current confines and belief systems. Sandalwood teaches true humility, devotion and love for the self and the divine.

Ylang Ylang: The Oil of the Inner Child Brings Tranquillity Ylang helps calm feelings of anger and frustration and brings a sense of tranquillity.

White Fir: The Oil of Generational Healing Breaking Patterns and traditions are passed down from generation to generation. While some of these patterns can be positive some can also be negative and destructive. Examples of negative patterns: addiction, abuse, alcoholism, anger, codependency, eating disorders, pride, the need to be right, etc. White fir assists the individual in unearthing these negative patterns from the hidden recesses of the body and soul. The individual can choose not to participate in these destructive family patterns. White fir assists the individual in this; it offers a refuge of spiritual protection and helps individuals stay true to their path of healing.

Breathe: The Oil of Breath Let Go and Receive Breathe addresses the inability to let go of grief and pain. The individual in need of Breathe struggles to breathe and literally feels suffocated by sadness. The root of this condition is feeling unloved. They often shut down due to fear, not knowing whether the love they need will be there. Breathe encourages individuals to release grief and sadness, and to receive genuine love and healing. It invites individuals to let go (breathe out) and receive (breathe in). In this way this blend teaches individuals to embrace life through breath.

Lime: The Oil of Zest for Life Imbues the Zest for Living Lime imbues the soul with a zest for life. When an individual has been weighed down by discouragement and grief, lime elevates them above the mire. It instills courage and cheer in the heart and reminds them to be grateful for the gift of life. Lime encourages emotional honesty and revitalizes the heart space, giving room for light and joy. This oil encourages balance between the heart and mind. Lime instills hope, joy, courage and determination to face all life’s challenges.

Get Support • Turn to friends and family members – Now is the time to lean on the people who care about you, even if you take pride in being strong and self-sufficient. Draw loved ones close, rather than avoiding them, and accept the assistance that’s offered. Oftentimes, people want to help but don’t know how, so tell them what you need—whether it’s a shoulder to cry on or help with funeral arrangements. • Draw comfort from your faith – If you follow a religious tradition, embrace the comfort its mourning rituals can provide. Spiritual activities that are meaningful to you—such as praying, meditating, or going to church—can offer solace. If you’re questioning your faith in the wake of the loss, talk to a clergy member or others in your religious community. • Join a support group – Grief can feel very lonely, even when you have loved ones around. Sharing your sorrow with others who have experienced similar losses can help. To find a bereavement support group in your area, contact local hospitals, hospices, funeral homes, and counseling centers. • Talk to a therapist or grief counselor – If your grief feels like too much to bear, call a mental health professional with experience in grief counseling. An experienced therapist can help you work through intense emotions and overcome obstacles to your grieving.

Take Care of Yourself • Face your feelings. You can try to suppress your grief, but you can’t avoid it forever. In order to heal, you have to acknowledge the pain. Trying to avoid feelings of sadness and loss only prolongs the grieving process. Unresolved grief can also lead to complications such as depression, anxiety, substance abuse, and health problems. • Express your feelings in a tangible or creative way. Write about your loss in a journal. If you’ve lost a loved one, write a letter saying the things you never got to say; make a scrapbook or photo album celebrating the person’s life; or get involved in a cause or organization that was important to him or her. • Look after your physical health. The mind and body are connected. When you feel good physically, you’ll also feel better emotionally. Combat stress and fatigue by getting enough sleep, eating right, and exercising. Don’t use alcohol or drugs to numb the pain of grief or lift your mood artificially. • Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel, and don’t tell yourself how to feel either. Your grief is your own, and no one else can tell you when it’s time to “move on” or “get over it. ” Let yourself feel whatever you feel without embarrassment or judgment. It’s okay to be angry, to yell at the heavens, to cry or not to cry. It’s also okay to laugh, to find moments of joy, and to let go when you’re ready. • Plan ahead for grief “triggers. ” Anniversaries, holidays, and milestones can reawaken memories and feelings. Be prepared for an emotional wallop, and know that it’s completely normal. If you’re sharing a holiday or lifecycle event with other relatives, talk to them ahead of time about their expectations and agree on strategies to honor the person you loved.