The Complete Student Achieving Success in College and

The Complete Student Achieving Success in College and Beyond Copyright 2006 Thomson Delmar Learning. All Rights Reserved.

Chapter Ten: Works and Plays Well with Others • Past play habits indicate the future. Copyright 2006 Thomson Delmar Learning. All Rights Reserved.

Personality and Attitude • Introspection • Constructive Input • Interacting with others. Copyright 2006 Thomson Delmar Learning. All Rights Reserved.

Extroverts vs. Introverts • Traits of Extroverts Copyright 2006 Thomson Delmar Learning. All Rights Reserved.

Just Say “No”—Being Assertive • Enables you to speak up for yourself • Allows you to express negative emotions without anger of recrimination • Helps show positive emotions • Empowers you • Fosters ability to deal with minor irritations before they escalate Copyright 2006 Thomson Delmar Learning. All Rights Reserved.

Handling Feedback • Start out by listening. • Don’t rush to your own defense. • Join forces with the person who’s giving you the feedback. • Get a second opinion if necessary. Copyright 2006 Thomson Delmar Learning. All Rights Reserved.

Providing Feedback • Ask first. • Focus on what the person can realistically change. • Try to be specific. • Always include some positive comments. • Solicit a self-critique from the other person. Copyright 2006 Thomson Delmar Learning. All Rights Reserved.

Anger Management • • Prevention. Stop the action. Try to avoid “never” and “always. ” Take your “angry” temperature. Copyright 2006 Thomson Delmar Learning. All Rights Reserved.

Conflict Resolution • • • Don’t take it personally. Walk it off…work it off…laugh it off. Always use the “I” word, not “You. ” Try to hold on to whatever is good. Make a direct appeal for peace. Copyright 2006 Thomson Delmar Learning. All Rights Reserved.

Diversity • Approach everything as a learning opportunity. • Be proactive about your learning. • Acknowledge your own stereotypical thinking. • Seek common ground. Copyright 2006 Thomson Delmar Learning. All Rights Reserved.

Working with Teachers • Form personal connections. • Be an active participant in the classroom. • Teachers are people too. Copyright 2006 Thomson Delmar Learning. All Rights Reserved.