The Compassion Continuum Holistic selfcare for the caregiver
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The Compassion Continuum: Holistic selfcare for the care-giver Glenn A. Robitaille, D. Min. , RPC, MPCP Director of Spiritual and Religious Care
Who will benefit from this presentation? • Professional care-providers 2/23/2021 2
Who will benefit from this presentation? • Professional care-providers • Those who are thrust into care provision 2/23/2021 3
Who will benefit from this presentation? • Professional care-providers • Those who are thrust into care provision • Those looking to improve their self-care toolbox 2/23/2021 4
Who Becomes a Care-giver? • Some through unavoidable circumstances: – Accidents – Births – Life transitions
Who Becomes a Care-giver? • Some through personal choice: – The caring professions – Volunteers
Who Becomes a Care-giver? • People who are compassionate
Who Becomes a Care-giver? Compassion: A feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering » Dictionary. com
Compassion: A double edged sword! It takes a chunk out of you!
The Role of Stress • General Stress: Ø Both eustress and distress Ø Ongoing Ø Can increase sugar levels, anxiety, etc. o Example: Going on a date; being late to an appointment General Stress Relaxed 2/23/2021 10
The Role of Stress • Extreme Stress: Ø Both eustress and distress Ø Less frequent Ø Elevated autonomic response (rapid heart beat, perspiration, etc. ) o Example: Having to speak in front of a crowd; being yelled at by an agitated person Extreme Stress 2/23/2021 11
The Role of Stress • Trauma/Acute Stress Reaction: Ø “Trauma refers to experiences or events that by definition are out of the ordinary in terms of their overwhelming nature. They are more than merely stressful – they are also shocking, terrifying, and devastating to the victim, resulting in profoundly upsetting feelings of terror, shame, helplessness, and powerlessness. ” (Courtois, 1999) 2/23/2021 12
The Role of Stress • Trauma/Acute Stress Reaction: Ø Overwhelming stress Ø Exceptional Ø Accelerated autonomic response (rapid heart beat, perspiration, etc. ); coping capacities overwhelmed; concentration impaired; general effect on the sphincters of the body; tunnel vision, etc. o Example: Extreme violence, injury, death Trauma Extreme Stress 2/23/2021 13
The Role of Stress • Vicarious Trauma: Ø Taking on the effects of trauma to another Ø Ongoing Ø Any of the preceding… Trauma Vicarious Trauma Person #1 Person #2 Extreme Stress Relaxed 14
The Role of Stress • Cumulative Stress: Ø Residual stress compiling from stressful events, circumstances Ø Ongoing Ø Anxiety, depression, anhedonia Taxed coping capacities Stress Relaxed 2/23/2021 15
The Role of Stress • Post-traumatic Stress: Ø Delayed stress response to trauma Ø Ongoing Ø Anxiety, panic, hypervigilence 2/23/2021 16
Stress Graph Traumatic Stress Extreme Stress General Stress Post-traumatic Stress Cumulative Stress Relaxed Static Level of Stress Glenn A. Robitaille 2/23/2021 17
The Compassion Continuum Sympathy Empathy Glenn A. Robitaille
The Compassion Continuum Sympathy Empathy A relationship between persons in which the condition of one induces a parallel or reciprocal condition in another. -- Dictionary. com
The Compassion Continuum Sympathy Empathy Identification with and understanding of another's situation, feelings, and motives. -- dictionary. com
The Compassion Continuum Sympathy Empathy The ideal zone Caring Understanding
When Compassion Overloads • Compassion Fatigue • Burn-out
Establishing a Baseline Wellness -----Compassion Fatigue-----Burnout
When Compassion Overloads • COMPASSION FATIGUE – Cumulative stress stemming from long term exposure to the suffering and/or trauma of others • Early warning sign of potential burn-out • Normal relationships and duties rob us of energy • Performance is decreased – (anhedonia)
When Compassion Overloads • BURN-OUT – A state of physical, emotional and mental exhaustion caused by unchecked cumulative stress resulting in significant coping impairment • Symptoms occur at the physical, emotional and spiritual levels • Performance is impaired at all levels—relationally, vocationally, sexually, socially
Compassion Fatigue A condition that must not be ignored
Watershed Moments • • Encounters with death Experiences of violence Irreconcilable realities The introduction of suffering
What is Suffering? • To feel pain or distress; sustain loss, injury, harm, or punishment • To tolerate or endure evil, injury, pain, or death • To appear at a disadvantage: comparative - dictionary. com
So the question is…
So the question is… • …how does it affect you to experience pain or distress, loss, injury, harm, or the active animosity of those for whom you provide care? • In the moment • In the hours that follow • In the next week or month You are the instrument…
Creating Self-Awareness “Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakens. ” Carl Jung
Three things we can expect
Three things we can expect • Pain/discomfort • Confusion • Challenges (positive and negative)
Essentials for Working with the Suffering • Self-awareness in the sense of having started to come to grips with one’s own vulnerability – one can never be fully self-aware, but the issue of our vulnerability needs to be on the table
Essentials for Working with the Suffering • An understanding of the grief process and an holistic appreciation of suffering – Empathy, rather than sympathy
Adapted from: Hammers/Thomas Ellis, M. A. , L. M. F. T. Author of This Thing Called Grief Loop What do I have left? Loss • Decreased Socialization • No new friendships • Bland expression • Absent spontaneity • Urge to recover what was lost Integration Detachment Apathy Indifference Loss of interest Desire to withdraw/ give up Shock Confusion Denial Anger at Self/others Lowered Selfesteem Agony Grief Anguish Depression Despair Protest • Crying • Pain • Weakness • Nausea • Loss of Appetite • Sleep Disruption • Other trauma related symptoms due to increased cortisol and adrenalin • Slowed thinking and actions • Continuing physical symptoms
Essentials for Working with the Suffering • Effective listening skills and the ability to respond appropriately – Sometimes, the appropriate response is silence – Validation techniques
Essentials for Working with the Suffering • A commitment to openness/receptiveness to the suffering person and to working with families, if appropriate – The suffering need people who care around them, not detached professionals
Essentials for Working with the Suffering • A knowledge of one’s own personal limits, limits knowing when there is a need to get away from (suffering) and how to avoid burn-out Adapted from: Rando, Therese. Grief, Dying and Death, Champaign: Research Press Company, 1984, p. 271. (revised GR)
Other Factors:
Other Factors: • Personality: • i. e. , Are you more of an “F” or a “T? ” • “F’s may over identify; “T’s” may be too detached and rational
Other Factors: • Personality • Experience with pain and suffering • Have you been around suffering in the past? • What was that like for you?
Other Factors: • Personality • Experience with pain and suffering • Spiritual beliefs • Why do people suffer? • How does suffering impact your view of life?
Other Factors: • • Personality Experience with pain and suffering Spiritual beliefs Relationship to the person who is suffering • Has this been a positive or a negative relationship?
Our own attitudes will largely determine how we experience care of the suffering
Strategies for Effective Self-Care Self-care is both a subjective and an objective process
Dealing With the Subjective: (Stuff specific to you)
Dealing With the Subjective: • Where are you likely to be most challenged? • (Personality issues, past experiences of suffering/death, spiritual beliefs, feelings for the suffering person? )
Dealing With the Subjective: • Where are you likely to be most challenged? • What is your “go to” coping strategy? • (How do you most often comfort yourself in times of stress and conflict? • Distraction, dissociation, talking people’s ears off? )
Dealing With the Subjective: • Where are you likely to be most challenged? • What is your “go to” coping strategy? • What are your projections? • (What ideas, beliefs or attitudes are you most likely to impose on the sufferer? )
Objective Practices (Stuff that is true for everyone)
Objective Practices • Talking about our experience****
Objective Practices • Talking about our experience • Hearing internal feedback – know when to step back and take a breather
Objective Practices • Talking about our experience • Hearing internal feedback • Demarcation ritual – leave care giving at the bedside - i. e. , keys
Objective Practices • • Talking about our experience Hearing internal feedback Demarcation ritual Care of the soul – Walking, gardening, taking a hot bath, listening to good music, playing a game of golf, making a good meal, prayer
Objective Practices • • • Talking about our experience Hearing internal feedback Demarcation ritual Care of the soul Shake the bones § http: //vimeo. com/80806939
Objective Practices • • • Talking about our experience Hearing internal feedback Demarcation ritual Care of the soul Shake the bones Positive self-talk all day long*** o We speak reality into our lives (CBT)
Objective Practices • • Talking about our experience Hearing internal feedback Demarcation ritual Care of the soul Shake the bones Positive self-talk all day long Accountability partner
Objective Practices • • Talking about our experience Hearing internal feedback Demarcation ritual Care of the soul Shake the bones Positive self-talk all day long Accountability partner The power of “no”
Objective Practices • • • Talking about our experience Hearing internal feedback Demarcation ritual Care of the soul Shake the bones Positive self-talk all day long Accountability partner The power of “no” Mindfulness
What is Mindfulness? • Mindfulness is an emphasis on nonjudgmental awareness and a radical acceptance of things as they are. – Dimeff and Koerner, DBT in Clinical Practice
What is Mindfulness? • Mindfulness is an emphasis on nonjudgmental awareness and a radical acceptance of things as they are. Ø Validate the pain Ø Avoid catastrophizing (the second layer) Ø Focus your attention on one thing
Mindfulness Practices… – Smooth stone – Breathing – Affirmations – Objectifying/ Observing
The Art of Emotional Demarcation
The Art of Emotional Demarcation • Define your role - What does the person need from you? - What is your actual responsibility? - What are you not prepared/trained to do?
The Art of Emotional Demarcation • Define your role • Assume your role - Be present in the moment - Focus on the needs of the person - Be affirming and warm - Do what you have committed to doing
The Art of Emotional Demarcation • Define your role • Assume your role • Leave the role - Intentionally mark the transition - Acknowledge ambivalence/heroic feelings - Be intentionally present in the new moment - Balance the energy (self-care)
The Three Questions that Matter 1. Were we “there” for the suffering? • You can’t be there without good self-care
The Three Questions that Matter 1. 2. Were we “there” for the suffering? Did we do what we committed to doing? • There’s nowhere to hide if the jerk in my life is me…
The Three Questions that Matter 1. 2. 3. Were we “there” for the suffering? Did we do what we committed to doing? Did we value the person in the way we related to them? Our answers to these questions will determine how we feel about the care we provided
Glenn A. Robitaille Director of Spiritual and Religious Care Waypoint Centre for Mental Health Care Advancing Understanding, Changing Lives 500 Church St. , Penetanguishene, ON L 9 M 1 G 3 (705) 549 -3181/2216 grobitaille@waypointcentre. ca
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