The Child Specialist Using a Child Specialist to
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The Child Specialist Using a Child Specialist to Engage and Maintain Client Collaboration
Essential Tasks of the Child Specialist 1. Allow kids to retain their childhood- Be the child’s voice while keeping kids out of the divorce process 2. Give feedback and education to help parents make healthy child-centered decisions in divorce 3. Reduce conflict and anxiety and increase coping skills for parents and children 4. Maintain and strengthen child-parent relationships 5. Increase effective parenting skills during and post-divorce
Typical Process of CS Work Parent interview Child(ren) interview Summary write up for Pro-team Debrief for parents Additional support-Parents/team
How Parents Often Arrive “What about the kids? How are we going to tell them? ” “My parent’s got divorced and it was hell for us- I can’t bear that happening to our kids” “I can’t believe she is a good mother- a good mother does not leave her family”
Using Conflict to Discover Motivations Uncover motivation or need that drives the emotion Reframe with a future focus Increase hope and confidence in capability Pair challenges with solutions Reframe goals in positive/productive manner Models for clients Reinforces “as if” expectations Team communication- opportunities to reinforce/build upon
Parent interview: Planting Seeds for Collaboration “The Loving Guide”- using Storytelling Healthy Framework for divorce- Begins with “Divorce Talk” What really hurts in divorce Three C’s and one P
CS Process Parent interview Child(ren) interview Summary write up for Pro-team Debrief for parents Additional support-Parents/team
Child Interview: Gathering the Voice of the Child Gathering Appropriate, useful information only that will help parents make informed decisions Looking at children’s experience and vulnerabilities and strengths in divorce thru lens of development “Plant seeds” for parents to nurture
Birth-2: Attachment “Can I trust the world? ” “She is trying to cut me out-she won’t even know me!” (Dad) “It’s not about him, he can just wait. She’s a baby and needs mom” (Mom)
2 -4: Autonomy “Is it okay to be me? ” “His tantrums are out of control- he’s really confused” (Mom) “isn’t that pretty normal for a toddler? ” (Dad)
4 -6 : Initiative “Is it okay to explore? ” “ I think so. I need to be better so they don’t fight” (Alec 6 when asked if he thought parents would reunite) “Mom and dad are getting separate. I’m not sure what that means” (Mia 6)
6 -12: Competence “Can I make it in the world? ” “It’s not fair, dad doesn’t have as much time- it should be equal” (Brigit 10) “Dad’s always sad. I try to make him happy. I think he’s lonely without us so I want to stay with him” (Fin 8)
13 -19: Identity & Independence “Who am I & what can I be? ” “Mom tells me all this stuff and it’s weird- she’s my mom not my friend and dad has just lost it. I think both of them are behaving like kids” (Kylie 17) “Dad left us. He cheated on mom so that’s why I think I should get to decide if I go or not. ” (Jake 16)
CS Process Map Parent interview Child(ren) interview Summary write up for Pro-team Debrief for parents Additional support-Parents/team
CS Process Map Parent interview Child(ren) interview Summary write up for Pro-team Debrief for parents Additional support-Parents/team
Parent Debrief: Presetnting challenges and strategies for growth Debrief with coach and both parents present Child Specialist is neutral “messenger” Coach manages adult relationship Convey child info directly but respectfully Normalize and focus on strengths Future focus and offer positive strategies
CS Process Map Parent interview Child(ren) interview Summary write up for Pro-team Debrief for parents Additional support-Parents/team
Brick Walls and other Frustrations: What kid/parent problems that keep coming up?
What’s Missing in Addressing Problems? What resources or solutions are missing?
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