The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens Book

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens Book by Steven Covey

Do Now Answer the following question: What is a habit? *Be prepared to share with the class.

Define - Habit Things you do repeatedly, but you are often unaware that you do them A constant, often unconscious inclination to perform an act, acquired through its frequent repetition

Habits can make you or break you Good habits can help you be successful Do homework- get good grades- go to college of choice Bad habits can detract from your success Don’t do homework, get bad grades, don’t go to college of choice Some habits just are These don’t help you or hurt you. Always tie right shoe first

Changing a Habit It’s not always easy to change a habit, but it’s always possible Cross your arms Now cross them the other way. How does it feel? If you fold them the opposite way for 30 days, it would become a new habit

7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens By Sean Covey

The 7 Habits Leadership … Habit 1: Be Proactive Habit 2: Begin with the End in mind Habit 3: Put 1 st things 1 st Habit 4: Think Win-Win Habit 5: Seek first to understand, Then to be understood Habit 6: Synergize Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

How can these habits help you? Get control of your life Improve your relationships Make smarter decisions Get along with your parents Overcome addiction Define your values Get more done in less time Increase your self confidence Be happy Find balance among school, work, friends and everything else

Exit Slip 1. 2. 3. What is a habit? How can a habit help you? How can a habit hurt you?

Perceptions about the way things are l The way you see something, your point of view, frame of reference or belief l PARADIGMS

Do Now What is a paradigms and give an example?

Top All-Time Stupid Quotes: 1. “[Man will never reach the moon] regardless of all future scientific advances. ”DR. LEE DE FOREST, INVENTOR OF THE AUDION TUBE AND FATHER OF RADIO, ON FEBRUARY 25, 1967 2. “[Television] won’t be able to hold on to any market it captures after the first six months. People will soon get tired of staring at a plywood box every night. ” DARRYL F. ZANUCK, HEAD OF 20 TH CENTURY-FOX, IN 1946 3. “We don’t like their sound. Groups of guitars are on the way out. ” DECCA RECORDS REJECTING THE BEATLES, IN 1962

Paradigms Perceptions about the way things are The way you see something, your point of view, frame of reference or belief *People have paradigms about themselves, other people and about life in general.

Paradigms We have paradigms of ourselves We have paradigms of others We have paradigms of life: Ø School-Centered Ø Parent-Centered Ø Friend-Centered Write some paradigms that others (parents, teachers, peers, strangers) might have about you. Discuss with a neighbor.

Paradigms of Self Does your self-paradigm help you or hurt you? Low perception of self puts limitations on ourselves Good self perception-helps bring out the best

Paradigms of Others Seeing things from a different point of view can help us understand why other people act the way they do.

Paradigms of Life Friend centered Stuff centered Boyfriend/Girlfriend centered School centered Parent centered Work centered Enemy centered Hero centered Self centered Sport/Hobby centered

Paradigms of Life con’t Move to the corner of the room that represents your paradigms. What does your paradigms mean?

Paradigms of Life con’t Friend centered -your whole life revolves around them now, but…. things change Stuff centered -possessions are great to have but not a good way to judge ourselves or others based on what they have or don’t have

Paradigms of Life con’t School-centered-get too obsessed with grades and don’t enjoy other aspects of school Sport/hobby centered-so focused on the activity that if the activity is gone, they have nothing else

Paradigms of Life con’t Boyfriend/girlfriend centered- stop doing things with other friends then boy/girl is gone who is left? Work centered-workaholic might be a sign of wanting more stuff Self-centered-thinking the world revolves around you and you become oblivious of others

PRINCIPLE-CENTERED THE REAL THING

Do Now What is a principle? Ø A principle is a belief you have about whatever is valuable to you. Exp: Honesty, Hard Work… *If you live by them, you will excel and if you break them you will fail

Examples of Principles Honesty Respect Love Integrity Responsibility Loyalty Moderation And many more What do you value? What is important to you? Write 3 principles by which you live.

Principles Never Fail If you apply your principles to the paradigms we talked about last class, you will always have basic tools to help you with any paradigm problem Boyfriend/girlfriend paradigm How can loyalty solve a problem with this paradigm? School paradigm How can moderation solve a problem with this paradigm.

Example of Breaking Principles and Fail Calling in sick to work when not sick Breaking a traffic law and getting caught Others

Examples of Principles That Help You Excel You find an IPOD in the cafeteria on the floor You don’t know who it belongs to, so you can pocket it or give it to an adult in charge. You choose to give it to an adult and a student comes back looking for it-the teacher tells him who turned it in and he thanks you by buying you something in the snack bar

Examples of Principles That Help You Fail You find an IPOD in the cafeteria on the floor You don’t know who it belongs to, so you can pocket it or give it to an adult in charge. You decide to keep it. Finders keepers, losers weepers. Your friends ask you when you got a new IPOD and you tell them you found in the cafeteria. This info gets back to administration and you get caught.

Exit Slip-Discovering Your Values Step One: In a word or phrase, identify your values: What do you care about? In your notebook, list EVERYTHING that you think is important. Step Three: Step Two: Now think about the following values. Include any that matter to you: Honesty, Loyalty, Hard Work, Patience, Trust, Truth, Love, Service, Respect, Integrity, Responsibility, Caring, Understanding, Gratitude, Moderation, Fairness, Success, Excellence, Achievement, Creativity, etc. Now identify (circle) your TOP TEN most important values. What values do you think should be most important to you? Step Four: For your top 3, think of an image that represents that value. Write or draw each image onto the page provided to you.

PERSONAL BANK ACCOUNT

Personal Bank Account Like a checking or savings account, you can make deposits or withdrawals. Personal-How you feel about yourself. (Amount of trust and confidence in yourself. )

Do Now 1. 2. List some people or things that have helped improve your self esteem. List some people or thinks that have lowered your self esteem.

What is a Personal Bank Account? Definition: The sum total of all of the feelings you have about yourself. “Just like a checking or savings account at a bank, you can make deposits into and take withdrawals from your PBA by the things you think, say, and do. ” Sean Covey, Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens, Page 34 So how do you create a positive PBA balance? Simple. Deposit more than you

PBA Deposits & Withdrawals PBA WITHDRAWALS PBA DEPOSITS Keep promises Be considerate Forgive yourself Be honest Renew yourself Develop your talents Break promises Be selfish Punish yourself Be dishonest Wear yourself out Neglect your talents

How to Build a Bank Account In groups, discuss the 6 main areas of the Personal Bank Account (PBA) deposits. Complete the sheet, “Build a Bank Account”.

Exit Slip 1. 2. Write down two ways you will make deposits into your personal bank account (PBA). Write down two people and two ways you can make deposits into their personal bank accounts (PBA).

HABIT 1 Be Proactive

Do Now What is the difference between being reactive and proactive?

Proactive vs Reactive people make choices based on emotions, feelings, their moods and on impulse Proactive people make choices based on principles/values

Examples of Reactive and Proactive choices What are the consequences of the Reactive choices? What are the consequences of the Proactive choices?

Let’s Move As I read the phrases, determine if they’re reactive or proactive. Move to the side of the room that matches the phrase. I’ll try I’ll do it I can do better than that That’s just the way I am I choose to There’s gotta better way I can’t

Reactive people feel like Victims Are easily offended Blame others Get angry and say things they regret Whine and complain Wait for things to happen to them Change only when they have to

Proactive people feel like They are NOT easily offended Take responsibility for their choices Think before they act Bounce back when something bad happens Always find a way to make it happen Focus on things they can do something about and not about the things they can’t

Strengthening Your Proactive Muscles Complete the “Strengthening Your Proactive Muscles Sheet”.

What can we control? We can’t control everything Our skin color Who our parents are How others might treat us Weather We can control our how we respond to what happens to us

Responding to setbacks We can turn our thinking around to respond to a negative by making it a positive An accident Abuse Our home life

How to become more Proactive Take responsibility for your life Have a CAN-DO attitude

Just Push Pause When you have a situation you want to respond in some way think… Just Push Pause Use your 4 tools in your toolbox Self- awareness-stand apart from myself and look objectively Conscience-I listen to my inner voice to know what is right and wrong Imagination-I can envision new possibilities I have the power to choose

Human tools in action Use your principles to help make choices Use your proactive language Turn negatives into positives Have a can-do attitude Use the tools to respond Complete Habit 1: Be Proactive Sheet

Exit Slip 1. 2. Write your two week goal on the S. M. A. R. T goal sheet. Fill in Habit 1 on your Habit Tree.