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The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Topics of Discussion Foundational Principals Ø Ø Ø Ø Habit 1: Be Proactive Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind Habit 3: Put first things first Habit 4: Think win-win Habit 5: Seek first to understand, then to be understood Habit 6: Synergize Habit 7: Sharpen the saw

How Do We Get There from Here?

Build each step and Grow the stage Build each step and grow the stage A. From Dependence to Independence 1. Be Proactive 2. Begin with the End in Mind 3. Put First Things First B. From Independence to Interdependence 4. Think Win/Win 5. Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood 6. Synergize C. Continuous Improvement 7. Sharpen the Saw

The First Stage Dependence – “YOU” - You take care of me. You come through for me. I blame you for the results. Dependent people need others to get what they want. How do I go about growing interdependence?

Private Victories Ø Habit 1: Be Proactive Be responsible, don’t blame others Ø Habit 2: Begin With The End In Mind Start with a clear mental image of your destination Ø Habit 3: Put First Things First Focus on preserving and enhancing relationships and on accomplishing results

The Second Stage Independence – “I” I I can do it. am responsible. am self reliant. can choose. Independent people will strive to get what they want through their own efforts. Growing interdependence depends upon building trust in relationships.

Public Victories Ø Habit 4: Think Win-Win Ø Habit 5: Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood Ø Habit 6: Synergize Interdependent people combine their own efforts with the efforts of others to achieve their greatest success.

The Third Stage Interdependence – “WE” Ø Ø We can do it. We can co-operate. We can combine our talents and abilities We create something greater together. As an interdependent person, I have the opportunity to share myself and meaningfully with others, and have access to the vast resources and potential of other human beings.

Developing Personal Potential Continuous Improvement Ø Habit 7: Sharpen The Saw Process of using and continuously renewing the physical, mental, spiritual, and social aspects of life

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Habit 1 -- Be Proactive Personal Vision Ø Self-awareness Stand apart and examine the way we see ourselves Ø Take the initiative and the responsibility to make things happen Ø Recognize reactive tendencies and develop proactive responses

Habit 1 -- Be Proactive Ø Increase their Circle of Concern and Influence Ø Become a transition figure to benefit yourself and others Ø Exercise the human endowments through conscious choice in decision making

Habit 2 -- Begin with the End in Mind Personal Leadership Start with a clear destination to understand Ø where you are now Ø where you're going Ø what you value most

Habit 2 -- Begin with the End in Mind Ø Create and apply personal and organizational mission statements for daily living Ø Envision the desired results and important values to guide activities

Habit 3 -- Put First Things First Personal Management 1. Prioritize sort your tasks 2. Organize around the priorities 3. Discipline yourself to accomplish 4. Learn how to live an effective life and balance a) important relationships b) roles c) activities

Habit 3 -- Put First Things First Ø Focus on the truly important and say no to the unimportant Ø Focus on the activities Ø Plan weekly and implement daily based on their mission, roles, goals, and priorities using the Six-Step Process

Habit 3 -- Put First Things First The Six-Step Process 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Connect to Mission Review Roles Identify Goals Organize Weekly Exercise Integrity in the Moment of Choice 6. Evaluate

Habit 4 -- Think Win/Win Interpersonal Leadership 1. See life as a cooperative 2. Balance courage and consideration in seeking mutual benefit 3. Persist in looking for win-win outcomes

Habit 4 -- Think Win/Win Human Interaction 1. Win/Win – “Cooperative” Seek mutual benefit in all human interactions 2. Win/Lose – “Competitive” If I win, you lose. The leadership style is authoritarian.

Habit 4 -- Think Win/Win 3. Lose/Win - "Doormat” Seek strength from popularity based on acceptance 4. Lose/Lose – “Angry” Become obsessed with making the other person lose, even at their own expense

Habit 4 -- Think Win/Win 5. Win – “Selfish ? ? ? ” Focusing solely on getting what one wants, regardless of the needs of others. 6. Win/Win or No Deal – “Sad ? ? ? ” If we can't find a mutually beneficial solution, we agree to disagree - no deal.

Habit 4 -- Think Win/Win The 5 dimensions of win/win 1. Character * Integrity * Maturity * Abundance mentality 2. Relationships 3. Agreements 4. Supportive systems 5. Processes

Habit 5 -- Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood Empathic Communication Ø Understand build the skills of empathetic listening Ø Inspire openness and trust Ø Listen effectively Ø Understand better before solving the problem or offering advice

Habit 5 -- Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood How do we communicate? 10% 30% Words We Use Body Language 60% How We Say It and Sounds We Make

Habit 5 -- Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood The levels of listening 1. Ignoring – not really listening at all 2. Pretending – “yeah, “uh-huh”, “right” 3. Selective listening – hearing only parts 4. Attentive listening – focusing and paying attention to the words 5. Empathic listening – intending to understand what the other is trying to communicate

Habit 5 -- Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood What you should NOT do: 1. Evaluate: do not immediately let the other know whether you agree or disagree; 2. Probe: do not keep asking questions and investigating; 3. Advise: do not counsel purely based on your personal experiences; 4. Interpret: do not try to define the motives of the behavior based on your personal experience

Habit 5 -- Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood If it is going wrong, how about "I'm not really trying to understand, can we start again? " The 4 developmental stages or empathic listening 1. Mimic content 2. Rephrase the content 3. Reflect feeling 4. Rephrase the content and reflect the feeling

Habit 5 -- Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood To best be understood, you must possess: * Ethos: personal credibility, integrity, competence. Much of this comes from a character ethic and your personal mission statement * Pathos: the feeling, the empathic side, the emotional alignment with the other person’s communication * Logos: the logic, the reasoning part of the presentation

Habit 6 – Synergize Creative Cooperation Ø Win-win thinking (Habit 4) Ø Empathic communication (Habit 5) to seek synergistic outcomes Ø Create third Alternative (Habit 6) Synergy requires trust, openness, a Win/Win attitude, and the ability to value the differences

Habit 7 -- Sharpen the Saw It’s renewing the 4 dimensions of your nature: 1. Physical – eat the right food, get good rest and relaxation, and exercise 2. Mental - keep your mind sharp by reading, writing, organizing and planning 3. Spiritual - your core, your center, your commitment to your value system 4. Social/Emotional - meet our needs to strength the habits of Public Victory

Habit 7 -- Sharpen the Saw It’s preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have – you! Spiritual Social battle of good versus evil (atheism, Christianity, Hinduism, Islam, Judaism) Mental family, friends, service (notes, phone calls, emails, visits) Physical endurance, strength, flexibility, sleep, eating reading, journaling, discussing, seminars, meetings

The Maturity Continuum Renewal Habit #7 Public Victory Habit #6 Habit #5 Habit #4 Sharpen the Saw Synergize Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood Think Win-Win Private Victory Habit #3 Habit #2 Habit #1 Put First Things First Begin with the End in Mind Be Proactive

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

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An additional dimension to the 7 Habits that takes us beyond effectiveness and puts us onto the pathway leading to greatness The 8 th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness Your opportunity to visit Steve Covey’s website http: //www. stephencovey. com/index. html