Talking problems out helps solve a disagreement or

� Talking problems out helps solve a disagreement or problem between yourself and another person. � Talking it out is hard – but can help the situation get better. � You need to stay calm and be patient.

� Starting out with the word “you” creates blame. The other person will often not listen to you if they feel blamed for something.

� Each person needs to explain their side while the other person listens, then SWITCH.

�I Messages are a powerful when you have good eye contact and use the other person’s name to get their attention.

� There are 4 easy steps students can let others know how they are feeling and what behavior is bothering them. � These steps use good manners to solve the problem. � It gives everyone a chance to tell what they want to happen.

� Wrong Way to talk it out: "You interrupted me! You never let me talk!“ � Correct Way to talk it out: "I feel frustrated when you interrupt me because I want to share what I'm thinking. Can you please stop? "

� Talking it out will only work if both people are willing to listen to each other.

� someone is throwing eraser pieces at you � there's a pencil found on the floor and 2 people go to pick it up at once � someone keeps chasing you at recess and yelling out your name � a classmates is whispering to you when the teacher is giving instructions � someone keeps kicking your desk when you're trying to work � someone cuts in front of you in line

� the person in front of you is fooling around at the pencil sharpener and won't let you have a turn � a student is following you around at recess copying what you do � a friend won't let you play with them at recess � a friend takes your scissors and won't give it back � a classmate cuts in front of you in line.

� Go to a quiet spot � Use good manners � Use the other person’s name � Have eye contact � Take turns talking and listening, each telling how they feel and what they want to have happen � Respect how the other person feels � Good Job!!