Stuart Saves His Family Stuart Saves His Family

Stuart Saves His Family

Stuart Saves His Family STEVE FRANKLIN, M. S. W. , L. C. S. W. 6829 Gravois Ave. St. Louis, MO 63116 www. Steve. Franklin. MSW. com 314 -517 -8383 FAX 203 -738 -4036 Steve. Franklin@JUNO. com

Stuart Saves His Family • Introduction: Steve Franklin, MSW, LCSW • Movie • Chris Clark, Artistic Director Cinema Saint Louis ( Cinema. St. Louis. org ) • Dan Duncan, NCADA ( ncada-stl. org/ ) • Steve Franklin, moderating Q&A and audience comments

Stuart Saves His Family Based on Saturday Night Live character Created and Performed by (Senator) Al Franken Adapted from his book:

Stuart Saves His Family I'm Good Enough, I'm Smart Enough, and Doggone It, People Like Me! Daily Affirmations With Stuart Smalley.

Stuart Saves His Family Stuart is a member of several “ 12 -Step Groups”

Stuart Saves His Family Programs designed to help people recover from addiction, compulsion, or other behavioral problems… Based on the principles of Alcoholics Anonymous

• • • Step 1 - Powerless 2 - Greater Power 3 – Decide to turn over problems 4 - Searching and fearless moral inventory 5 - Admit to our wrongs 6 –Ready to have God remove defects

• Step 7 - Ask God to remove shortcomings • 8 - List of persons we harmed, willing to make amends • 9 - Made amends wherever possible • 10 - Promptly admitted new wrongs • 11 - Conscious contact with God as we understood God • 12 - Carry this message to other addicts

12 -Step Groups • AA - Alcoholics Anonymous STL: http: //www. aastl. org/index. php http: //www. aastl. org/search_bb. php • ACA - Adult Children of Alcoholics http: //www. adultchildren. org/ http: //allone. com/12/aca/ • Al-Anon/Alateen, friends/family of alcoholics http: //www. missouri-al-anon. org/where&when. html

• CA - Cocaine Anonymous http: //www. ca. org/ http: //www. camissouri. org/meetings 3. php • • CLA - Clutterers Anonymous CMA - Crystal Meth Anonymous http: //www. crystalmeth. org/find-a-cma-meeting/cma-meeting-search. html • • Co-Anon, for friends and family of addicts Co. DA - Co-Dependents Anonymous, for people working to end patterns of dysfunctional relationships and develop functional and healthy relationships http: //www. coda. org/ajax_control. php? action=load_translation&language=1

• COSA - formerly Codependents of Sex Addicts • COSLAA - Co. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous • DA - Debtors Anonymous http: //www. debtorsanonymous. org/admin/index. php/find • DRA – Dual Recovery Anonymous http: //draonline. org/meetings. html • EA - Emotions Anonymous; mental and emotional illness http: //www. emotionsanonymous. org/ http: //allone. com/12/ea/

• EHA - Emotional Health Anonymous • FA - Families Anonymous-relatives/friends of addicts http: //familiesanonymous. org/ • FA - Food Addicts in Recovery Anonymous http: //www. foodaddicts. org/ http: //foodaddicts. org/meetings. php • FAA - Food Addicts Anonymous • GA - Gamblers Anonymous http: //www. gamblersanonymous. org/ga/locations • Gam-Anon/Gam-A-Teen—friends/family members of problem gamblers

• HA - Heroin Anonymous http: //www. heroin-anonymous. org/HApage 2. html • MA - Marijuana Anonymous http: //www. marijuana-anonymous. org/meetings • NA - Narcotics Anonymous http: //www. na. org/? ID=home-content-fm • Nar-Anon-friends/family members of addicts http: //nar-anon. org/Nar-Anon_Home. html http: //nar-anon. org/Nar-Anon/Meetings. html

• Nic. A - Nicotine Anonymous http: //www. nicotine-anonymous. org/meetings. php • OA - Overeaters Anonymous http: //www. oa. org/membersgroups/find-a-meeting/ • • • OLGA - Online Gamers Anonymous PA - Pills Anonymous-prescription pill addiction. SA - Sexaholics Anonymous http: //sa. org/ http: //www. orgsites. com/mo/sa-of-st-louis/

• SCA - Sexual Compulsives Anonymous • SIA - Survivors of Incest Anonymous http: //www. siawso. org/Default. aspx? page. Id=7166 • SLAA - Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous http: //www. slaafws. org/meetings • • UA – Under-earners Anonymous WA - Workaholics Anonymous

I go to Al-Anon, a 12 -step program for family members and friends of alcoholics. ----Al Franken

Franni Franken: Campaign Ad When I was struggling with my recovery, Al stood right by my side and he stood up for me. After what we went through, Al wrote two beautiful movies. And he wrote them because he wanted to help people…. “

The other movie: “When A Man Loves A Woman”, 1994

Al Franken: One valuable thing I learned in Al-Anon is that you can learn stuff from people who aren't necessarily smarter than you. Which is kind of an obvious thing, but I didn't understand that.

Al Franken: I'd be in an Al-Anon meeting and I'd hear somebody say something and I'd be very judgmental and say, "Oh, that person's an idiot, " and a month later that same person would say something that would touch me very deeply.

Al Franken: I was brought up to do well in school, and you learn from people who know more than you, and that's about it. So Stuart is kind of a character that people can learn stuff from, even though he's an idiot. For every hundred steps forward, he takes 99 backward, but he does end up one step ahead.

Al Franken: There's a part of me that's definitely Stuart … that's very lame, that worries I'll never live up to my expectations for myself and that I'm a lousy father. I worry about all sorts of stupid things I don't need to worry about. I have a real love for Stuart… And I think what's funny about him is just externalizing all this lameness I have inside me. "

Questions to Ponder • How much is Stuart’s family realistic or an exaggeration? • Does it feel OK to laugh at the dysfunction? • Does Stuart have a clinical psychological disorder? (Personality Disorder? PTSD/Trauma? Anxiety Disorder? …? ? ? )

Melody Beattie In all his struggles and innocence and sincerity, and dedication, Stuart made me laugh. He helped me see myself in a new light. He gave me hope. He helped me appreciate the Stuart in me. And that’s okay.

Stuart Saves His Family "You'll laugh because it's not your family,

Stuart Saves His Family "You'll laugh because it's not your family, you'll cry because it is.