Small Problems vs Big Problems Whats the difference

Small Problems vs. Big Problems What’s the difference?

We all have Problems!! Small Problems You can solve Big Problems You need an adult Teasing Playing with matches Cheating at four square Throwing rocks at another child Calling you silly names Stealing from the teacher’s desk Borrowing your stuff without asking Exploring a dangerous place Fist fighting Making noises while you are trying to work Writing on walls Bringing something dangerous to school Inappropriate language Inappropriate touching Cutting in line Not sharing

What is Bullying? Big or Small? ? ? • • Unfair One-sided Repeated hurting, frightening, threatening, or leaving someone out on purpose

How do I know if I am dealing with a BIG problem like Bullying? Occupies your thoughts at: Home School Outside Playing Dinner Grandma’s house, etc. Demonstration

What To Do? ? ? Report it to an adult. Teacher Mom Dad Grandma Janitor Office Principal Asst. Principal BIG problems can often start small

Nip it in the Bud Teachers notice low level misbehaviors. Calling others names. Excluding others. Rule Breaking Behaviors. Mean interactions. Disrespect. Process

So What? ? Role Play (3 students, 1 student) Bully Busters Process 1. Classroom Level (reminder) Shield Folder 2. Counselor’s Office (discussion about pattern/3 -4 times of behaviors) Copy of report to Principal 3. Committee Meeting collect all shield folders with incidents copy to principal Mom, Dad, teacher, principal, student meeting. 4. Further Consequences Suspension, Alternative Learning Environment Bystanders see more than anyone……… v Research

What To Do When You Have a Small Problem like Conflict Let’s ask Kelso - Home 4/5

Back to the Basics “I” Messages (Talking it out) 4 th and 5 th

Tattling vs. Reporting Rule #1: If it is a BIG problem, REPORT IT immediately. Rule #2: If you are telling an adult to get the person in TROUBLE it is TATTLING. Rule #3: If it is a SMALL problem you must try TWO choices from the wheel before telling an adult.