Sexuality Counseling By Dr Steven Williams Sexuality Counseling

Sexuality Counseling By Dr. Steven Williams

Sexuality Counseling From: Sexuality Insights and Issues, Wm. C. Brown Publishers Dubuque, Iowa. Second Edition. Greenberg, Bruess, Mullen, Sands

Консультирование по вопросам сексуальности From: Sexuality Insights and Issues, Wm. C. Brown Publishers Dubuque, Iowa. Second Edition. Greenberg, Bruess, Mullen, Sands

Sexuality in the Scriptures From: Sex for Christians by Lewis B. Smedes, Wm. B. Eerdmans Publishing Co. Grand Rapids, MI.

Сексуальность в Писании From: Sex for Christians by Lewis B. Smedes, Wm. B. Eerdmans Publishing Co. Grand Rapids, MI.

Personal sexuality Gen. 1: 27 Lev. 15: 16 -33 I Cor. 11: 14 -15 From: Our Sexuality, Third Edition, Crooks and Baur, The Benjamin/Cummins Publishing Co. Inc. Menlo Park, CA.

Cексуальность личности Быт 1: 27 Лев 15: 16 -33 I Кор 11: 14 -15 From: Our Sexuality, Third Edition, Crooks and Baur, The Benjamin/Cummins Publishing Co. Inc. Menlo Park, CA.

Gender roles Gen. 3: 20 -25 I Cor. 11: 1 -16 Eph. 5: 22 -33 From: Our Sexuality, Third Edition, Crooks and Baur, The Benjamin/Cummins Publishing Co. Inc. Menlo Park, CA.

Роли полов Быт 3: 20 -25 I Кор. 11: 1 -16 Еф 5: 22 -33 From: Our Sexuality, Third Edition, Crooks and Baur, The Benjamin/Cummins Publishing Co. Inc. Menlo Park, CA.

Interpersonal sexuality Lev. 18 Song of Sol. 3: 5 Rom. 1: 26 -28 I Cor. 7: 3 -5 From: Our Sexuality, Third Edition, Crooks and Baur, The Benjamin/Cummins Publishing Co. Inc. Menlo Park, CA. Copywrite by Jerry Marcus. Reprinted by permission of Jerry Marcus and The Ladies Home Journal.

Межличностные сексуальные отношения Лев 18 Песнь Песней 3: 5 Рим 1: 26 -28 I Кор 7: 3 -5 From: Our Sexuality, Third Edition, Crooks and Baur, The Benjamin/Cummins Publishing Co. Inc. Menlo Park, CA. Copywrite by Jerry Marcus. Reprinted by permission of Jerry Marcus and The Ladies Home Journal.

Sexuality in Marriage Context: From Sexual Understanding Before Marrage. By; Herbert J. Miles, Zondervan Books, Grand Rapids, MI.

Сексуальность в браке Контекст: From Sexual Understanding Before Marrage. By; Herbert J. Miles, Zondervan Books, Grand Rapids, MI.

Average of marriage (24 women; 26 men) From: Pure Pleasure, by Bill & Pam Farrel and Jim & Sally Conway. Inter. Varsity Press, Downers Grove, IL.

Средний возраст вступления в брак (24 года женщины; 26 лет мужчины) From: Pure Pleasure, by Bill & Pam Farrel and Jim & Sally Conway. Inter. Varsity Press, Downers Grove, IL.

Marriage is the only social context in society where heterosexual activity is totally approved (usually required) From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA.

"Permanent" nature of marriage (not easy to move in and out of) From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA.

«Постоянство» как сущность брака (нелегко заключить и нелегко разорвать) From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA.

Traditional "place" of first sexual experience (you learned with one partner) Only place that reproduction is totally approved From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA.

Encouraged in Scripture Gen. 1: 23 -25 Prov. 5: 18 -19 Song of Solomon I Cor. 7: 11 -6 From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA.

Писание одобряет брак Быт 1: 23 -25 Притчи 5: 18 -19 Песнь Песней I Кор 7: 11 -6 From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA.

Differences between husband wives on relationship of sexual satisfaction to marital satisfaction From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA.

Happily married couples have intercourse six times more frequently than they argue From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA.

Счастливые пары занимаются сексом а шесть раз чаще, чем ссорятся From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA.

while unhappily married couples argue three times more often than they engage in intercourse. From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA

А несчастливые супруги ссорятся в три раза чаще, чем занимаются сексом From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA

Good communication is the Key From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA

Ключевой момент – умение и стремление общаться From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA

Health Benefits of Regular Sexual Release: • Helps relieve stress • Slows the aging process/beauty aid • Helps relieve depression • Burns calories (30 minutes of rigorous sex burns 350 calories - as good as 40 minutes of jogging) • Aids immune system • Possibly helps relieve PMS symptoms in women and maintains prostate health in men From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA

Sexuality and Aging: - Physiological factors - Gender differences - Perception of one's partner - Perception of self - Attitudes and behavior From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA

Causes of Sexual Problems: - Poor communication - Fear of rejection - Low self-esteem - Negative body image - Fear of failure - Spectatoring From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA

- Repression - Unrealistic expectations - Resistance to change - Relational causes From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA partner rejection; marital conflict; sexual sabotage; gender role problems **Differences in response, frequency and variety

Health, Sexuality and Treatment: Sexuality and Chronic Illness From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA

Здоровье, Сексуальность и Лечение: Сексуальность и хроническая болезнь From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA

- mastectomy and sexuality - female breast cancer treatment From: Our Sexuality, Third Edition, Crooks and Baur, The Benjamin/Cummins Publishing Co. Inc. Menlo Park, CA.

- мастектомия и сексуальность - лечение рака груди From: Our Sexuality, Third Edition, Crooks and Baur, The Benjamin/Cummins Publishing Co. Inc. Menlo Park, CA.

- hysterectomy and sexuality From: Our Sexuality, Third Edition, Crooks and Baur, The Benjamin/Cummins Publishing Co. Inc. Menlo Park, CA.

- гистеректомия (удаление матки) и сексуальность From: Our Sexuality, Third Edition, Crooks and Baur, The Benjamin/Cummins Publishing Co. Inc. Menlo Park, CA.

-testicular cancer; prostate cancer From: Our Sexuality, Third Edition, Crooks and Baur, The Benjamin/Cummins Publishing Co. Inc. Menlo Park, CA.

Рак яичек; рак простаты From: Our Sexuality, Third Edition, Crooks and Baur, The Benjamin/Cummins Publishing Co. Inc. Menlo Park, CA.

-diabetes; spinal cord injury From: Our Sexuality, Third Edition, Crooks and Baur, The Benjamin/Cummins Publishing Co. Inc. Menlo Park, CA.

-диабет; повреждение спинного мозга From: Our Sexuality, Third Edition, Crooks and Baur, The Benjamin/Cummins Publishing Co. Inc. Menlo Park, CA.

-cardiovascular disease; stroke From: Our Sexuality, Third Edition, Crooks and Baur, The Benjamin/Cummins Publishing Co. Inc. Menlo Park, CA.

-Сердечно-сосудистые заболевания; инсульт From: Our Sexuality, Third Edition, Crooks and Baur, The Benjamin/Cummins Publishing Co. Inc. Menlo Park, CA.

Common sexual dysfunctions and treatment: Triphasic concept: (Kaplan) Sexual response cycle: (Desire, Arousal, Orgasm, Satisfaction)

Desire HSD; ISD; Desire Discrepancy: Phobic avoidance

Excitement (Arousal) Inhibited sexual excitement (frigidity; impotency)

Orgasm Premature ejaculation; Retarded ejaculation; orgasmic inhibition

Other problems Vaginismus; dyspareunia

“Non-medical” treatments usually involve a combination of education, redirection of sexual attention from self to partner, and graded sexual exposure in order to reduce anxiety – systematic desensitization; non-demand pleasuring and self genital pleasuring training; Kegel exercises From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA

Contraception and Family Planning: From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA

Средства предупреждения беременности (контрацепция) и планирование семьи: From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA

Natural contraception: Calendar method Basal body temperature Cervical mucous Sympto-thermal method Coitus interruptus From: Marriages and Families. By Lamanna & Riedmann Wadsworth Publishing Co. Belmont, CA

Techno-chemical contraception: Condom Spermicides Douche Diaphragm Cervical cap Pills IUD Surgical sterilization RU 486 (abortion pill) Possible future methods: Hormone injections and implants

Artificial reproduction: AIH AID Surrogate mother In vitro fertilization Possible future directions: Artificial womb Asexual reproduction (cloning) Eugenics

Nonmarital Sexuality:

Premarital Sex:

Traditionally premarital sex for males was status raising; for females, status lowering

Overall, begins earlier for males

More religious, less experience

Increases as the extensiveness of relationship increases

Association between sexual liberalism and liberalism in other areas

Some engage in homosexual before heterosexual

Prevalence of heterosexual experience before marriage in Western societies before age 20: 86 -95% males; 60 -80% females

Extramarital Sex:

Co-marital and extramarital sex: 86% believe ES to be always or almost always wrong

Types of ES: Flirtation One-time affairs Casual affairs Intense affairs *(can also include cybersex)

Prevalence: 1940's - 50% male and 26% female reported ES by age 40. Since 1940's, some increase in men (50 -75%) but large increase in women (26 -70%) (Penn, Hernandez, & Bermudez, 1997) (Shackelford & Buss, 1997)

However, other statistics: University of Washington - 94% of married couples had only one sex partner during previous year

Chicago's National Opinion Research Center - only 4% of married people had cheated on spouses in previous year and 21% of men and 13% of women have ever cheated on spouse (PCA Messenger; February 1994)

In an earlier survey, only 47% men and 37% women found ES pleasurable – women reported more difficulty in reaching orgasm

Common reasons given for ES: To compensate for problems in marriage To meet needs of intimacy during periods of geographical separation To enjoy "sexual freedom" on equal basis ES given as the most important reason for marital breakup (the other party, but not their own ES)

“Virtual Sex”:

Erotic Imagery: images (real or imaged) of a sexual nature (e. g. Kamasutra – India) Pornography: images of real people engaging in sexually stimulating activity - purpose to arouse others In 1973 Americans spent $10 million on pornography as compared to $8 billion in 1997 (porn takes in more money than rock/country music combined) – porn film industry: 1, 000 films in 1993 to 10, 000 in year 2000 “Netporn” on increase – Zogby Poll found 20% of Americans patronized porn sites (no difference for Christians and non-Christians)(Focus on the Family)

Online Sex: l l l Cyber-sex: using computerized text, images, or sound files for sexual stimulation Cyber infidelity: when a partner of a committed relationship uses a computer to violate agreements of sexual exclusivity Internet affair: using interactive computer chat to create exchanges for the purpose of sexually arousing oneself or others, and creating shared excitement often culminating in simultaneous mutual masturbation MSNBC. com (Cooper, et. al, 2000): over 9 million users of adult websites – 23% females & 50% males surfed web for visual erotica Another MSNBC survey of 7000 people found 60% did not consider cyber-sex with another person to be infidelity (compared it more to pornography)

Single Life and Sex:

People remaining single longer: 1 out of 3 adults are single

Those people who had an unhappy family life as children were 2 -3 times more likely to be single (esp. for men)

U. S. cohabitation on the increase 1985: 2. 0 million 1990: 2. 9 million 1997: 4. 1 million 2000: 5. 5 million in many Western countries seen as a normal step in courtship

"Solo" sexually, heterosexuality, homosexuality as a single

Sexually Transmitted Diseases: Gonorrhea; syphilis; herpes; chlamydia; AIDS; genital warts; "crabs"; scabies; vaginitis