Sex Power Money Poli 110 J The emptiness

Sex, Power & Money Poli 110 J The emptiness of her days

• To be shut out from the possibilities of human achievement is to be shut out from being fully human – Women are shut out from these spheres of life in a systematic and mutilating fashion – The feminine mystique is a primary tool of this exclusion – As in Marcuse, Du Bois, and Malcolm X, a vision of the importance of positive liberty

• The glorification of “woman’s role, ” then, seems to be in proportion to society’s reluctance to treat women as complete human beings; for the less real that function is, the more it is decorated with meaningless details to conceal its emptiness. (340)

• Housewifery “had to become the very end of life [for women] to conceal the obvious fact that it is barely the beginning. ” – Work expands to fill time: “labor saving” devices mean only that more unnecessary tasks have to be performed – Self-identification only as “wife and mother” leads to need for children in order to give life meaning • Constant worry, micromanaging child’s life due to mother’s identification with it • “In order to be a woman, I have to have children. ” (375) – Constantly staying busy so as not to face crisis of meaning

Architecture of Power • Open layout of suburban ranch-style homes reinforces feminine mystique (348) – No doors, no privacy – Open space means that messes are continually visible, need cleaning – Never separated from children – Husband leaves, wife never does – Example: Price Center, 1993

Manipulation of the Narrative • In late 1950’s, depression & exhaustion among housewives widespread enough to be recognized by women’s magazines as ‘domestic boredom’ – ‘Always has been, always will be woman’s lot’ • Capturing history – Solution: “Honest enjoyment of some part of the job such as cooking or an incentive such as a party in the offing and, above all, male praise are good antidotes for domestic boredom” • Maintains dependence on household & husband for sense of meaning

• Surely there are many women in America who are happy at the moment as housewives, and some whose abilities are fully used in the housewife role. But happiness is not the same thing as the aliveness of being fully used. Nor is human intelligence, human ability as static thing. – Grow or die

Dehumanization • Among prisoners at Dachau, “those who ‘adjusted’ to the conditions of the camps surrendered their human identity and went almost indifferently to their deaths. ” • “Their capacity for self-determination, their ability to predict the future and to prepare for it, was systematically destroyed. ” (423)

• The world for women functions similarly (though much more safely and comfortably) • Among housewives, “the adjusted, or cured ones without conflict or anxiety in the confined world of the home have forfeited their own being; the others, the miserable, frustrated ones, still have some hope. ”

Progressive Dehumanization • Generational process of mutilating, dehumanizing women • 1. By permitting women to evade difficult “tests” of reality, the feminine mystique prevents them from becoming real adults, making them weak and dependent.

• 2. The greater a woman’s level of immaturity & weakness of self, the earlier she will seek marriage & children, living vicariously through her husband & children. This further weakens her sense of self. – “I feel so envious of my own children. I almost hate them, because they have their lives ahead, and mine is over. ”

• 3. Because humans intrinsically want to grow, a woman who evades her own growth in this way will likely suffer psychological and/or emotional problems. This infantilization means that she will raise immature, weak children who also lack a strong sense of self. – Note definition of human

• 4. Because boys are expected to be active, this weakness and immaturity will first show itself in them, though social expectations may help them overcome it. Girls, however, have this dehumanized quality encouraged, and continue it into the next generation. – Society a friend to men, enemy of women? – “Noncommitment and vicarious living are… at the very heart of our conventional definition of femininity. ” (405)

What is it to be human? • For an individual to “take his existence seriously enough to make his own commitment to life, and to the future; he forfeits his existence by failing to fulfill his entire being. (430) • The “unique mark of the human being” is “the capacity to transcend the present and to act in the light of the possible, the mysterious capacity to shape the future. ” – This is a shared quality of nearly every author in this course.

• “It is precisely this unique human capacity to transcend the present, to lives one’s life by purposes stretching into the future—to live not at the mercy of the world, but as a builder and designer of that world—that is the distinction between human and animal behavior, or between the human being and the machine. ” (432)

• “There is something less than fully human in those who have never known commitment to an idea, who have never risked an exploration of the unknown, who have never attempted the kind of creativity of which men and women are potentially capable. ” (437) • But women are neither expected nor encouraged to live to their full capacities. They are reduced from human beings to creatures of pure biology.

“The only thing that made her feel alive” • Sex brings a feeling of being wanted and needed, providing this feeling when the household no longer does – “Sex is the only frontier open to women who have always lived within the confines of the feminine mystique. ” – Identification of the individual with the body

• She boasted of the intellectual prowess, the professional distinction, of the man who, she hinted, wanted to sleep with her. “It makes you feel proud, like an achievement. You don’t want to hide it. You want everyone to know, when it’s a man of his stature. ” (364) – In search of meaning & rebellion, still only a body – Still defining identity through a man – “Sex without self, sex for lack of self. ” (387)

• “Even if a father tried to get his son to be ‘masculine, ’ to be independent, active, strong, both mother and father encouraged their daughter in that passive, weak, grasping dependence known as ‘femininity, ’ expecting her, of course, to find ‘security’ in a boy, never expecting her to live her own life. ” (391) – The problem is in the definition of genders – Men = strong, active – Women = weak, passive

What will it take to end oppression by the feminine mystique? • • • Money Organization Legal efforts Political action & protest Personal resolve

Money • Not only for the women’s movement (though that too) but for women themselves – Employment • Not just jobs, but work – Independence • No longer entirely reliant on husband for either identity or funding – Reproductive rights • Contraception • Abortion

Organization • Strong, hierarchical political organization to deploy resources and organize efforts – Vs. then-fashionable egalitarian model – Engage at all levels of politics, from Senate to the street – Core group of highly committed individuals around which to structure the greater organization

Political Action & Protest • Lawsuits to compel the enforcement of existing anti-discrimination laws • Mobilize to elect feminist-friendly candidates, create pressure for laws advancing cause of women’s rights • Mass demonstrations & protest – Pressures individuals to change their own views – Friedan sees women’s liberation as a part of same struggle as civil rights, anti-war, other movements for equality

Personal Resolve • High possible social cost – Women who still embrace feminine mystique may ostracize the woman who rejects it, neighborhoods may exclude the family • High possible personal cost – Many husbands will be glad to no longer be the only real person in their families, many others will not • What price is a woman willing to pay to be free?

Gender Issues Q: Does having a liberated mother make you gay? A: No, having a needy housewife for a mom makes you gay. – “The love of men masks his forbidden excessive love for his mother; his hatred and revulsion for all women is a reaction to the one woman who kept him from becoming a man. ” (384) • Freud here used uncritically. Why? • Homosexuals for Friedan not-men

• Friedan demonstrates same essentialism re: homosexuals that she attacks when it is applied to women – “Male homosexuals… are Peter Pans, forever childlike, afraid of age, grasping at youth in their continual search for some reassurance in sexual magic. ” (384) – “The shallow unreality, immaturity, promiscuity, lack of lasting human satisfaction that characterize the homosexual’s sex life usually characterize all his life and interests. ” (385) • If this was true of homosexuality in the 1960’s, why might that be?

Homosexuality: the Creeping Menace! • “The homosexuality that is spreading like a murky smog over the American scene is…ominous…” (385) – Though she attacks the imbalance of power between genders, Friedan does not look to challenge basic concepts of gender – This is the space in which the Third Wave of feminism launches its critique. Why can you not be gay and a man? Does attributing essential nature to men & women necessarily reflect an exercise of power?

• For Friedan, women from “the more restrictive ethnic groups (Italian or Jewish) and from “small towns in the South where women were protected and kept dependent” are at particular risk of dehumanization & mental illness (409) – What is the relationship between feminism and culture?

Okin – “Is Multiculturalism Good for Women? ” • We “have been too quick to assume that feminism and multiculturalism are both good things which are easily reconciled. I shall argue instead that there is considerable likelihood of tension between them—more precisely, between feminism and a multiculturalist commitment to group rights for minority cultures. ”

• By "feminism, " I mean the belief that women should not be disadvantaged by their sex, that they should be recognized as having human dignity equally with men, and the opportunity to live as fulfilling and as freely chosen lives as men can.

• "Multiculturalism" is… the claim, made in the context of basically liberal democracies, that minority cultures or ways of life are not sufficiently protected by ensuring the individual rights of their members and as a consequence should also be protected with special group rights or privileges.

• These groups, it is argued, have their own "societal cultures" which—as Will Kymlicka, the foremost contemporary defender of cultural group rights, says— provide "members with meaningful ways of life across the full range of human activities, including social, educational, religious, recreational, and economic life, encompassing both public and private spheres. ” Because societal cultures play so pervasive and fundamental a role in the lives of members, and because such cultures are threatened with extinction, minority cultures should be protected by special rights.

• Kymlicka argues that membership in a "rich and secure cultural structure, ” with its language and history, is essential both for the development of self-respect and for giving persons a context in which they can develop the capacity to make choices about how to lead their lives. ” – Cultural minorities need special rights because their culture may otherwise be threatened with extinction • This would undermine the self-respect and freedom of group members. – Special rights put minorities on a footing of equality with the majority.

• But: “a group that claims special rights must govern itself by recognizably liberal principles, neither infringing on the basic liberties of its own members by placing internal restrictions on them, nor discriminating among them on grounds of sex, race, or sexual preference. ” – "To inhibit people from questioning their inherited social roles can condemn them to unsatisfying, even oppressive lives. "

• For Kymlicka, cultures that discriminate overtly and formally against women by denying them education, or the right to vote or to hold office do not deserving special rights. – But what about oppression in the privacy of the home? Perpetrated by fathers & older women – What culture DOES meet Kymlicka’s standards?

• Okin: At least as important to the development of self-respect and self-esteem is our place within our culture. And at least as important to our capacity to question our social roles is whether our culture instills in and enforces particular social roles on us.

• Most cultures are suffused with practices and ideologies concerning gender. Suppose, then, that a culture endorses and facilitates the control of men over women in various ways (even if informally, in the private sphere of domestic life). – Men have unfair amount of power – Limit ability of women & girls to live w/dignity

• 1. The sphere of personal, sexual, and reproductive life provides a central focus of most cultures, a dominant theme in cultural practices and rules. Religious or cultural groups are often particularly concerned with "personal law"—the laws of marriage, divorce, child custody, division and control of family property, and inheritance – Limits women to specific, subordinate roles – These roles prohibit women from interacting w/society on an equal level w/men

• 2. Most cultures have as one of their principal aims the control of women by men. Consider, for example, the founding myths of Greek and Roman antiquity, and of Judaism, Christianity, and Islam: they are rife with attempts to justify the control and subordination of women. – Many cultures will not accept gender equality – They place reproductive & sexual control entirely in hands of men, and thus “make it virtually impossible for women to choose to live independently of men, to be celibate or lesbian, or not to have children. ”

• Cases: – Women lack equal legal protection • Cliterodectomy • Honor Marriage – Rape forgiven if rapist marries victim

• In cases of abuse, murder, kidnapping, & cliterodectomy, “expert testimony about the accused's or defendant's cultural background has resulted in dropped or reduced charges, culturally-based assessments of mens rea, or significantly reduced sentences. ”

• “Cultural defenses violate [women’s] rights to the equal protection of the laws. When a woman from a more patriarchal culture comes to the United States (or some other Western, basically liberal, state), why should she be less protected from male violence than other women are? ” – “Establishing group rights to enable some minority cultures to preserve themselves may not be in the best interests of the girls and women of the culture, even if it benefits the men. “

• “Attention to the rights of minority cultural groups… must be ultimately aimed at furthering the well-being of the members of these groups, there can be no justification for assuming that the groups' self-proclaimed leaders—invariably mainly composed of their older and their male members—represent the interests of all of the groups' members. ” – Liberal, feminist approach