Separation and Divorce Michael Itagaki Sociology 275 Marriage

Separation and Divorce Michael Itagaki Sociology 275, Marriage and Family

America and Divorce n Do we like/not like marriage? u One of the highest marriage rates u One of highest divorce rates u One of highest remarriage rates

America and Divorce n Discussion u What are some reasons you personally might consider a divorce? u Is falling out of love an appropriate reason for wanting a divorce? u What were you taught growing up about the acceptability of divorce?

America and Divorce n n n Idealization of marriage By 1974, more marriages ended by divorce than by death. Divorce = deviance vs. part of family life cycle

Measuring Divorce n Divorce rate = 50%. . . correct? u u u 2. 2 million marriages annually 1. 1 million divorces annually Question: Divorced couples not from same group that got married in that same year?

Measuring Divorce n All marriages and all divorces u u 60 million married couples in U. S. 1. 25 million divorces annually Divorce rate = 2% Figure 12. 11

Measuring Divorce n Crude Divorce Rate u Number of divorces in a given year for every 1, 000 people in the population. u In 2002, there were 4. 0 divorces for every 1, 000 Americans.

Measuring Divorce n Refined divorce rate. u Measures the number of divorces that occur in a given year for every 1, 000 marriages. u In 1998, the refined rate was 19 to 20 divorces per 1, 000 married women, meaning 2% of marriages ended in divorce.

Divorce Trends in the U. S. n n n Both marriage and divorce rates have declined The marriage rate is at its lowest point since the 1930 s. In more recent years the rate has declined.

Divorce Through the 20 th Century and Beyond Year Number 1900 1920 1940 1960 1980 1995 2001 55, 751 170, 506 264, 000 393, 000 1, 189, 000 1, 169, 000 NA Rate Per 1, 000 Married women 3 8 9 9. 2 22. 6 19. 8 NA

Factors Affecting Divorce n n n Shift from agricultural to industrial society Social integration Individualistic American culture

Factors Affecting Divorce n Demographic factors: u Employment status u Income u Educational u Ethnicity u Religion. level

Factors Affecting Divorce n Life Course Factors: u Age u Premarital pregnancy u Remarriage

Factors Affecting Divorce n Life Course Factors: u Intergenerational « Parental transmission (Amato, 1996) divorce increases chance of child’s marriage ending within first five years by as much as 70%. « Increased risk of divorce is especially great if both spouses experienced parental divorce. « Effects are strongest when parents divorce early in child’s life (age 12 or younger)

Factors Affecting Divorce n Family Processes u Marital happiness u Children u Marital Problems n No Fault Divorce

Stations of Divorce n (Bohannan) As people divorce, they undergo these “divorces” simultaneously. u Emotional u Legal u Economic u Co-parental u Community u Psychic

Marital Separation n Uncoupling—The process by which couples drift apart in predictable stages. u The initiator voices complaints. u Eventually, the initiator ends the relationship. u Uncoupling ends when both partners acknowledge the relationship cannot be saved.

Marital Separation n Separation Distress u Ultimately, negative aspects of separation are balanced with the positive aspects u Almost all attention centered on missing partner u Euphoria can follow, but fall back into separation anxiety. u Separation distress slowly gives way to loneliness.

Marital Separation n Postdivorce Identity u Two phases of establishing new identity: « Transition « Recovery

Marital Separation n Dating Again u Important for separated or divorced people. u Formal statement of the end of a marriage u Permits individuals to enhance their selfesteem.

Consequences of Divorce n n No-Fault Divorce: Putting women and children at a disadvantage Economic consequences include: Impoverishment of women u Changed female employment patterns u Very limited child support and alimony u

Consequences of Divorce n Non-economic consequences include: u More psychological distress, lower levels of happiness, more social isolation, more health problems. u Divorced people are three times as likely to commit suicide. u Some divorced people experience higher levels of personal growth and greater autonomy.

Children and Divorce n n n Children in happy two-parent families are the best adjusted Children in conflict-ridden two-parent families are the worst adjusted. Children from single-parent families are in the middle.

Children and Divorce n n Key to child’s adjustment: lack of conflict Telling children about separation: u It’s very difficult u Relief or not, guilt accompanies feeling

Children and Divorce n Three-Stage Process of divorce for children: u Initial stage—Turmoil is greatest. u Transition stage—Adjusting to new family. u Restabilization stage—Integration of changes.

Children and Divorce n Developmental tasks of divorce: u Acknowledging parental separation u Disengaging from parental conflicts u Resolving loss u Resolving anger and self-blame u Accepting the finality of divorce u Achieving realistic expectations for later relationship success

Children and Divorce n Children’s responses to divorce: u Varies by age « Younger children « Adolescents

Children and Divorce n Adjustment to divorce: u Open discussion prior to divorce u Continued involvement with noncustodial parent u Lack of hostility between divorced parents

Children and Divorce n Adjustment to divorce: u Good psychological adjustment to divorce by custodial parent u Stable living situation and good parenting skills. u Continued involvement with the children by both parents

Children and Divorce n Adjustment to divorce: u Children of divorce suffer: « Reduction of income « Weakening ties with fathers « Loss of “residential stability” « Problems in school « Greater likelihood of becoming teen parents.

Children and Divorce n Adjustment to divorce: u Not all children suffer negative consequences. u 90% of children with divorced parents achieve same level well-being as children of continuously married parents (Amato, 2003).

Child Custody n Generally based on one of 2 standards: u The best interests of the child u The least detrimental of the available alternatives. n The major types of custody are sole, joint, and split.

Child Custody n Sole custody u Accounts for 85% of all U. S. divorce cases u Women traditionally have been responsible for child rearing u Many men do not feel competent

Child Custody n Joint custody u Accounts for 10% of cases. u Joint legal custody « Children live primarily with one parent « Both parents share in decisions regarding the children. u Joint physical custody « Requires parents to work out practical logistics « …as well as feelings about each other.

Child Custody n Split custody u Splits the children between the parents u Usually girls live with mother, boys with father

Custody Disputes n n As a result of custody disputes, as many as 350, 000 children are stolen from custodial parents each year. Most are returned home within a week.

What to Do About Divorce n n n Is divorce the problem or is it a solution to other problems? Cultural idea of divorce Legal matters of divorce u n Covenant marriages New family forms emerging