Seminar Three Essentials to Successful Communication As the

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Three Essentials to Successful Communication As the blood is to the body, so is communication to the family.

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication Diagnosis Process: Communication Prescription: Conflict Resolution

Three Essentials to Successful Communication Options: No talk Blast off! Wise talk

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication “Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one. ” Colossians 4: 6

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication “I am upset… “I feel angry… “I am disappointed… “I feel like a slave…

Three Essentials to Successful Communication Christ our example expressed His feelings in His hour of supreme distress. “My soul is exceedingly sorrowful, even to death. ” Matthew 26: 38

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication Jesus continued, “Stay here and watch with Me. ” Matthew 26: 38

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication “An effective “I” statement states the problem, tells how I feel about it, and says what I want. ”

Three Essentials to Successful Communication “I am very upset waiting day after day because I need the car to do the shopping. ”

Three Essentials to Successful Communication Speaker 1. Problem 2. Feelings 3. Wants 4. “I” Statement

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication “So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath. ” James 1: 19

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication Effective or active listening hears what is said plus what’s not said. It combines words, tone and body language to interpret feelings. It grasps the total message.

Three Essentials to Successful Communication Luke 5: 8 Peter’s words were: “Depart from me” His tone and body language said: “Stay with me!”

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication What is empathy? “It is to put myself in your place and try to experience what you are feeling. ”

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication “So, you feel hurt because I kept the car each evening. ”

Three Essentials to Successful Communication God mirrored Jonah’s feelings, when He stated: "Is it right for you to be angry? “ Jonah 4: 4

Three Essentials to Successful Communication Speaker 1. Problem 2. Feelings 3. Wants 4. “I” Statement

Three Essentials to Successful Communication Listener 5. Interpreting 6. Empathizing 7. Mirroring 8. “You” Statement

Three Essentials to Successful Communication Like a coin or a bill, every story has two sides!

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication Now Bernard is the speaker (Using “I” statement)

Three Essentials to Successful Communication “Our company is down-sizing and many are losing their jobs. Each afternoon this week, when I am ready to leave, my supervisor gives me a new assignment marked ‘Urgent. ’ I stay on to finish it to keep my job. ”

Three Essentials to Successful Communication Now Alice is the listener (Using “you” statement) “What can she say? ”

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication When each understands the other’s point of view, we are ready to explore a solution together. We create a win-win plan where each loses a little, and each wins a lot!

Three Essentials to Successful Communication Bargaining 1. List all the options. 2. Decide on the best one. 3. Let it be a win-win solution.

Three Essentials to Successful Communication Together 9. Exchanging 10. Bargaining

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Three Essentials to Successful Communication Just as a healthy marital relationship requires constant communication between husband wife, so a successful spiritual relationship needs constant communication between God and me.

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication “When you pray, go into your room, and when you have shut your door, pray to your Father” Matthew 6: 6

Three Essentials to Successful Communication “Prayer is the opening of the heart to God as to a friend. ” It is talking to God, using my own words, telling Him my needs and my fears, my sorrows and joys, my facts and feelings, and the changes that I need.

Three Essentials to Successful Communication When to pray? Anytime (1 Thess. 5: 17) Special times (Psalm 55: 17) Early morning (mark 1: 25)

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication The Voice of Jesus! “You search the Scriptures, for in them you think you have eternal life; and these are they which testify of Me” John 5: 39

Three Essentials to Successful Communication “All scripture is given by inspiration of God” 2 Timothy 3: 16 “holy men of God spoke as they were moved by the Holy Spirit. ” 2 Peter 1: 21

Three Essentials to Successful Communication When to Study? “…they received the word with all readiness, and searched the Scriptures daily to find out whether these things were so. ” Acts 17: 11

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication “My meditation of Him shall be sweet; I will be glad in the LORD. ” Psalm 104: 34

Three Essentials to Successful Communication

Three Essentials to Successful Communication Every Day Talk to Jesus Listen to Jesus Meditate on Jesus Fall in Love with Jesus!

Three Essentials to Successful Communication