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Romance & Intimacy Lecture 4: Biblical View of Romance & Sex www. prshockley. org
Biblical View of Romance: ¡Song of Solomon 7: 1 -8: 4: ¡The husband is the Initiator & Operator: 7: 1 -9 a. ¡The wife is the Responder & Co-Operator: 7: 9 b 8: 4.
Tom Nelson states that in order to be biblically romantic you need to … ¡ Be Righteous ¡ Be Courteous ¡ Be Vocal ¡ Be Affectionate ¡ Be Thoughtful ¡ Be Appreciative ¡ Be Honoring ¡ Be Creative ¡ Be Spontaneous ¡ Be Responsive ¡ Be Together ¡ Learn your mate
4 Purposes of Sex: ¡Procreation (Genesis 1: 27 -28); ¡Pleasure (Song of Solomon 7: 9 -8: 4; 1 Corinthians 7: 3 -5); ¡Intimacy (Genesis 2; Ephesians 5: 25 -33); ¡Portrait: Demonstration of God’s love for His people (John 13: 34 cf. Ephesians 5: 25).
A. Procreation: ¡It is through procreation that God has chosen this particular method, the union of two people, to spread or extend His image. Therefore, to “rebel” against this method is to deny further opportunities for His image to be reflected. ¡ Image of God (Genesis 1: 26 -27): ¡ Personality ¡ Stewardship ¡ Community ¡ Representation
Community Stewardship Personality Representation
B. Pleasure: 1 Corinthians 7: 3 -5 ¡ “If God created sex, and if the Bible tells us that he created it for our pleasure, then he knows how we can get the maximum benefit of it. The view of God as a cosmic killjoy is quite wrong, for every ‘No’ there is a ‘Yes. ’! It is quite true that sex outside of marriage is considered utterly sinful in the Bible. But that is only half the story: within marriage it is profoundly beautiful and utterly good. ” ~ Dr. Dan Wallace. ¡ We are transformative, continually changing and growing constantly. ¡ Everything we do is to glorify the Lord- with our utter utmost. The pleasure is worshipful when done in a way that is God-honoring, not de-valuing the inherent worth of another. ¡ Marital sex can be very beautiful. Premarital sex or extramarital affairs are ungodly and will leave you emotionally sterile; the effects are dehumanizing for they mar, scar, and sear what is beautiful, leading you downward into spiritual degeneration. ¡ Consider J. Budzizewski’s illustration of the duct tape from Ask Me Anything (1).
C. Intimacy: ¡The monogamous commitment, “till death do us part” can produce the deepest intimacy. ¡Sin, on the other hand, produces spiritual and emotional pain, numbness, and sterility
Intimacy: Marital intimacy produces extraordinary benefits. Lack of marital intimacy yields negative, hurtful, painful, & destructive consequences.
Agape: Love as Commitment (Rom. 5: 18) is most broad: John 3: 16. Phileo: Brotherly Love Eros: Physical Intimacy Scope of Intimacy
Agape Gives Direction Phileo Is Cultivated Eros Consummates Agape leads in a biblical view of Sex
When Eros Leads: Relationship is built on sand. Phileo Sentiments “As long as love shall last. ” Unbiblical view of sex leads to instability; Instability leads to fragmentation.
D. Portrait: John 13: 35 -35; Ephesians 5: 25. ¡Love for another is a demonstration of God’s love. ¡In what ways did Christ demonstrate His love to the church? ¡Consider the characteristics of biblical love: 1 John 3: 16 -17 ¡ Sacrifice ¡ Self-Surrender ¡ Meet Practical Needs ¡ Ever so Genuine
Where’s your leverage and what is your security & resource when times get tough? Male Find Female Another
Biblical Resource & Security: Abide in Christ: God Husband Wife
Procreation Portrait Pleasure Intimacy The greater the harmony, the healthier the relationship.
Bibliography: ¡“The Doctrine of Romance: Solomon 7: 1 -8: 4” by Tom Nelson. DVD Marriage 10, # 1088 1/25/2004 given at Denton Bible Church, Denton, Texas. 1 -866 -DBC TAPES or dbcmedia. org. I whole heartily recommend viewing this DVD. It is remarkable! ¡J. Budziszewski, Ask Me Anything (1) & (2); both volumes. Extraordinary dialogues. ¡“Rushdoony, Neoplatonism, and a Biblical View of Sex” by Dr. Dan Wallace.