Respecting Others 1 Introduction Student activity How I

Respecting Others 尊重他人 1

Introduction: 介绍 Student activity: 学生活动： How I behave reflects the kind of person I am. 我的行为举止反应我的人品。 Who I am determines how I behave. 我的人品决定我的行为举止。 2

The Story: 故事：宝物 The Treasure 3

Discuss（讨论）: • What character qualities did the sons in this story demonstrate? • 故事中的儿子表现了什么品质？ • What kind of qualities should they have demonstrated? • 他们应该有什么样的品质表现？ 4

Meaning of respect: 尊重的含义： “Respect means showing that you place a high value on another person by how you speak about them, how you treat them or by how you treat something that is an important part of their life. 尊重的意思是，通过如何与人交谈、如何 对待某人或者如何看待对某人一生来说重要的 事情等方法来给与别人以很高的位置。 5

Opposite of respect: Disrespect 尊重的反面：不尊重 Can you think of ways that people show disrespect for others? 你们能不能想出人们对他人表现出来的不 敬？ Examples(例子）: 6

I. The “Golden Rule”黄金定律 “Do to others as you would have them do to you. ” 你愿别人如何待你，你也如何待人 7

I. The “Golden Rule”黄金定律 “Do to others as you would have them do to you. ” 你愿别人如何待你，你也如何待人 “As we act responsibly and treat others with respect, they begin to trust us and give us the respect we desire. ” 我们负责地对待和尊重他人，他们 就开始信任我们和尊重我们 8

II. Defining respect in four areas 界定四个主要领域的尊重 A. Ourselves自己 1. Taking care of your personal appearance 关心自己的外貌 2. Stating your opinion even if it is different from your friends’ opinions. 即使自己的意见与别人不同也要说出来 9

B. Others其他人 1. Accepting your friends’ right to have opinions that are different from yours. 你的朋友有权发表于你不同的见解 2. Never touching someone in a way that is uncomfortable or painful to them. 不得以令人不快或痛苦的方式接触他 人 10

C. Learning学习 1. Completing assignments on time. 按时完成作业 2. Paying attention to the teacher and to other students when they are talking. 注意听老师和其他人讲话 11

D. Community社区 1. Volunteering fro projects that will help your community. 支援参加社区援助项目 2. Not littering or writing graffiti. 不乱扔杂物，不乱写乱画 12

III. Boundaries界限 A. Clear boundaries are important in all human relationships. 清楚的界线在所有交往关系中都是很重要的。 Two rules（两条原则）: 1. Respect the boundaries of others 尊重别人的界线 13

2. Take the responsibility for what is inside your own boundaries. 负责地对待自己界线内的事情。 If you have healthy boundaries, you know who you are, and you have respect for the boundaries of others. 如果你有健康的界线，你就知道自己 是谁，同时也尊重别人的界线。 14

B. “Boundaries” experiment: Understanding the concept of boundaries. 界线试验： 15

C. Analyzing our boundaries 分析我们的界线 - In which position were you most comfortable? 你们感觉最合适的姿势是什么？ - Which was the most uncomfortable? 最不合适的姿势是什么？ - Why? 为什么？ 16

1. Physical boundaries (distance, hugging, kissing) 身体界线（距离、拥抱、亲吻） 17

1. Physical boundaries (distance, hugging, kissing) 身体界线（距离、拥抱、亲吻） 2. Social boundaries (the kinds of people we like to be with) 社会界线（我们喜欢在一起的人的类型） 18

1. Physical boundaries (distance, hugging, kissing) 身体界线（距离、拥抱、亲吻） 2. Social boundaries (the kinds of people we like to be with) 社会界线（我们喜欢在一起的人的类型） 3. Speech boundaries (language we don’t like, things we dislike people to say to us) 言语界线（我们不喜欢说的话，我们不喜 欢别人跟我们说的事情） 19

4. Group boundaries (the number of people we want to be with for a long time) 团体界线（我们想要在一起长期交往 的人有多少） 20

4. Group boundaries (the number of people we want to be with for a long time) 团体界线（我们想要在一起长期交往 的人有多少） 5. Possession boundaries (what we are comfortable sharing or lending) 财产界限（适宜于分享和借出的物 品） 21

D. Boundaries: Appropriate levels of strength （界线：适当的界线水平） 1. Too weak太松散 2. Too rigid太严格 22

People with boundaries that are too weak may need to develop a greater respect for themselves. 界线过于松散的人需要增强自尊意识。 People with boundaries that are too strong may need to develop a greater respect for others. 界线过于严格的人需要增强尊重他 人的意识。 23

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宗教教育在博爱与博学上的贡献： Emphasis on religious education: “One’s education is not complete without a study of comparative religion and its relationship to the advancement of civilization…” The argument was that we cannot ignore religions as a field of academic study since they make up a large part of many people’s lives. (p. 256, Ballantine) 36

The social and individual functions of institutionalized religion (Moore, p. 101): • afford emotional release from the tensions of life; • provide motivation for men; • socialize individual; • facilitate adjustment to life and to man’s place in the Universe; • serve as a means of social control; • stabilize social relationships; • have a therapeutic value to many individuals; and • aid in integrating the experiences of individuals 38

THE STAIRWAY OF FATALISM 宿命论阶梯 DISAPPOINTMENT 失望 DISILLUSIONMENT – despair 觉醒 －绝望 DISASSOCIATION – seclusion 分离－隔离 DISORIENTATION 丧失方向 DISENGAGEMENT – rootless 脱离－无所寄托 DESTRUCTION 毁灭 45

在歌曲中学习生活学习爱： • Love changes Everything • The heart is slow to learn • Blowing in the Wind • Today • Carry on till tomorrow • The Prayer • 爱的真谛 • 和平 具 55

Love Changes Everything Love love changes everything Hands and faces Earth and sky Love love changes everything How you live and how you die Love can make the summer fly Or a night seem like a lifetime Yes, love changes everything Now I tremble at your name Nothing in the world will ever be the same Love love changes everything Days are longer Words mean more Love love changes everything Pain is deeper than before Love will turn your world around And that world will last forever Yes, Love love changes everything Brings you glory bring your shame Nothing will ever be the same Off into the world we go planning futures Shaping years Love bursts in and suddenly All our wisdom disappears Love makes fools of everyone All the rules we make are broken Yes, Love love changes everything Live or perish in its flame Love will never let you be the same Hands and faces Earth and sky The heart is slow to learn These feelings that I feel are foolish but they’re real I’m wise enough to see this love will never be And each day’s like the last when living in the past I know it’s mad and you wont’ return But, then, as I have said The heart is slow to learn I live and love as I have loved you Why is love cruel I wish I knew Say what you will It doesn’t matter Until I die there’s only you The heart is slow to learn You’d think there’d be a way to shut out yesterday Perhaps if I just thought of all the times we fought I’ve tried all that but no There’s still no letting go I know it’s mad and you wont’ return But, then, as I have said The heart is slow to learn Why is love cruel I wish I knew Say what you will It doesn’t matter Until I die there’s only you 56

The Prayer • • • • • • I pray you’ll be our eye, and watch us where we go And help us to be wise in times when we don’t know Let this be our prayer, when we lose our way Lead us to the place, guide us with your grace to a place where we’ll be safe I pray we’ll find your light, and hold it in our hearts When stars go out each night, Remind us where you are Let this be our prayer, when shadows fill our day Help us find a place, guide us with your grace Give us faith so we’ll be safe A world where pain and sorrow will be ended And every heart that’s broken will be mended And we’ll remember we are all God’s children Reaching out to touch you reaching to the sky We ask that life be kind, and watch us from above We hope each soul will find another soul to love Let this be our prayer, just like every child Who needs to find a place, guide us with your grace Give us faith so we’ll be safe Needs to find a place, guide us with your grace Give us faith so we’ll be safe 57

Today • • • • I ‘ll be a dandy and I’ll be a rover, You’ll know who I am by the song that I sing. I’ll feast at your table and I’ll sleep in your clover, who cares what the t=morrow shall bring. Today while the blossoms still cling to the vine, I’ll taste your strawberries, And I’ll drink your sweet wine. A million tomorrows shall pass away, Ere I forget all the joy that is mine, today. I can’t be contented with yesterday’s glory. I can’t live on promises winter to spring. Today is my moment and right now is my story, I’ll laugh, and I’ll cry, and I’ll sing. 58

Carry On Till Tomorrow • • • The younger days I told myself, my life would be my own, And I’d leave the place where sunshine never shone. For my life too shore for waiting when I see the rising sun , Then I know again that I must carry on, Carry on till tomorrow that’s no reason to took back. Carry on , carry on. Beyond the shadows of the clouds and onward to the sky. Carry on till I find the rainbow’s end. Drifing on the wind of freedom, leave these stormy day, And will ride till to tomorrow golden fields. 59

Blowing In The Wind • How many roads must a man walk down Before they call him a man? • How many seas must a white dove sail Before sleeps in the sand? • How many time must a cannon ball fly Before they’re forever banned? • The answer, my friend , is blowing in the wind, • The answer is blowing in the wind. • How many years must a mountain exist before it is washed to the sea • • • ? How many years can some people exist before they’re allowed to be free? How many times can a man turn his head and pretend that he just doesn’t see? How many times must a man look up before he can see the sky? How many ears must one man have before he can hear people cry? How many deaths will it take till he knows that too many people have 60 died?