Recommendation for Sex Education to Our Wellbeing of

Recommendation for Sex Education: to Our Well-being of Mind & Body prepared by Shinken Experience This material is another community project initiated by the founder of Shinken Experience. All readers are welcome to copy and distribute this materials for the well-being of others. Please do not change the content of this material. 2011 © Shinken Experience www. shinkenxp. com 1

Shinken Experience Recommendation for Sex Education Key Objectives: • This material is prepared for the public who cares for others. • It serves to create public awareness on the pornographic influence on their mind and body. • It recommends an approach to be considered in sex education program for public. Sharpens your accuracy 2

Recommendation for Sex Education Shinken Experience Why is this material important to the community? • • • Penetration of pornographic material into all walks of life Illiterates and Literates Community – mobile devices/ Multimedia Sexually aroused message embedded in various dimensions of media Public are being lured to pursuit various means of sexual pleasure at will Limited understanding - pornographic influence on mind & body Sharpens your accuracy 3

Shinken Experience Recommendation for Sex Education From the author’s perspective: • He respects the right in pursuing sexual pleasure in our life. • He believes that we have the right to be aware of the “price” we pay for discharging our sexual liquid at will. • He trusts that we live in a common community (global village), every act we choose to perform has an implication onto others, and we need to respect others’ right and be accountable to our choice of action. Sharpens your accuracy 4

Recommendation for Sex Education Shinken Experience What is recommended for Sex Education ? • • • The Purpose of Sexual Intercourse The Relationship among Intention vs. Desire vs. Behavior vs. Result What is Sexual Desire? How to manage it? Behavior – is a choice of personal preference that will turn into habit. The Influence of Sexual Behavior on Mind & Body & protective measures Sharpens your accuracy 5

Shinken Experience Recommendation for Sex Education A wise man once said: “Sex and Food are Big Human Desire” Sharpens your accuracy 6

Shinken Experience Recommendation for Sex Education The Purpose of Sexual Intercourse: • Every action has its own natural purpose. • Sex: Reproduction vs. Sexual Pleasure • Food: Replenish Nutrients vs. Food Taste Sharpens your accuracy 7

Shinken Experience Recommendation for Sex Education Sexual Intercourse: It is an action that is carried out between a male and a female so as to create a new born baby/new life. Sexual Desire : It is an urge that motivates an individual to choose and to carry out a sexual behavior that will stimulate an individual’s physical sensors and perception in order to achieve sexual satisfactions. Sharpens your accuracy 8

Recommendation for Sex Education Shinken Experience The Smiling Diagram* – The Process between Thought & Action Intention * created by Shinken Experience Desire Behavior Result Sharpens your accuracy 9

Shinken Experience Recommendation for Sex Education What is “intention”? It is a motive that drives a person to select and to perform a behavior so as to create an expected result. Sharpens your accuracy 10

Shinken Experience Recommendation for Sex Education Characteristic of Intention: • It triggers desire. • It can be influenced by past experience from various sensory stimuli – Visual, audio, smell, touch, taste, imagination via multimedia etc. • Intention and desire are inter-reinforcing. • It becomes a habit by repeating its behavior numerous times. • There are 4 Categories of Intention: – – Selfish Transactional Considerate Ignorance Sharpens your accuracy 11

Recommendation for Sex Education Shinken Experience The Smiling Diagram* – The Process between Thought & Action creating triggering • • Selfish Transactional Considerate Ignorant Intention Sexual Desire Sexual Behavior Result selecting reinforcing * created by Shinken Experience Sharpens your accuracy 12

Shinken Experience Recommendation for Sex Education Desire - How it is formed? • It is aroused by stimuli (external and internal) & triggered by an intention • A favorable past experience from a sensual satisfaction will reinforce an “intention” to • trigger a “desire” so as to • motivate the individual to select and to perform a behavior in order to • repeat the identical or similar past favorable sensual satisfaction. Sharpens your accuracy 13

Recommendation for Sex Education Shinken Experience Desire – How is it formed? (continue) The SC&C analogy - Strawberry, Chili & Child • • • Prior to any experience from strawberry and chili, a child will not hesitate to put any one of them into its mouth. After a sweet and a spicy sensational feeling were experienced, a perception on strawberry and chili is formed within the child. When the child sees a strawberry again, a desire will be aroused to choose and to eat strawberry (instead of Chili). Sharpens your accuracy 14

Shinken Experience Recommendation for Sex Education Desire – The power of its intensity: • Intention and Desire are inter-reinforcing where • the desire can be developed into a level of intensity to an extent where whenever a desire is aroused, • the desire leads to a spontaneous habitual behavior without realizing the nature of its intention. Sharpens your accuracy 15

Shinken Experience Recommendation for Sex Education How to manage the Sexual Desire? • • • The fact: There is no right or wrong on sexual desire. It is the result where the sexual desire “leads” us to. Desire behaves like a flash flood, It cannot be suppressed and depressed. Desire can be diverted and diffused by understanding facts. With clear understanding, a person will then be able to independently make a clear choice from the influence of desire. Sharpens your accuracy 16

Shinken Experience Recommendation for Sex Education When a Sexual Desire is aroused, • it leads to a selection and implementation of a behavior in order to create a sensual satisfaction (result) to fulfill the desire. Sharpens your accuracy 17

Recommendation for Sex Education Shinken Experience Selection of sexual behaviors 1. Types of sexual behaviors – All sexual behaviors stimulate sensational reaction and secretion of body fluids and discharge of sexual liquid. 2. Two Categories of Sexual Behaviors: – Consistent to the Natural Purpose of Sex – Sexual intercourse. – Inconsistent to the Natural Purpose of Sex – Masturbation, etc. 3. Selection of Sexual Behavior is a personal preference Sharpens your accuracy 18

Recommendation for Sex Education Shinken Experience What is The Intention of Sexual Intercourse ? It is can be driven by: • Selfish – a pure personal sensual urge, • Transactional – an expectation of a favorable return • Considerate – a love-giving urge to create a new born　 • Ignorance – a blind indulgence in sexual experience. Sharpens your accuracy 19

Recommendation for Sex Education Shinken Experience Sexual Intercourse- Its Impact on Mind：　 • It is an addictive and pleasant experience. • When a behavior is repeated, a behavior will be reinforced. • This behavior will habitualize the type of intention that drive the person for this behavior. • From its natural purpose’s perspective, • The result of “sexual intercourse” is to create new life. • This is a noble deed. It is a love giving action. Sharpens your accuracy 20

Recommendation for Sex Education Shinken Experience What is The Intention Behind Masturbation ? • • 　 It is driven by a pure personal sensual urge. Its action does not benefit anyone except self. Sharpens your accuracy 21

Shinken Experience Recommendation for Sex Education Masturbation- Its Impact on Mind：　 • It is an addictive behavior driven by selfish intention. • When the selfish behavior is repeated, the behavior will be reinforced and, • The reinforced selfish behavior will habitualize the selfish thought, as a result, • It influences the daily thought and behavior of this person, Sharpens your accuracy 22

Recommendation for Sex Education Shinken Experience Sexual Intercourse & Masturbation- Its Impact on Body： • It drains away the precious life force (sexual liquid discharged) in the kidney*. • Life force in the kidney* • It the “Fuel” for Living activities & Reproduction activities • Living activities: • • • Growth Brain development Bones Immune system Visual and hearing ability *source：an oriental reference: “図説東洋医学　１９７９．１２　学研” Sharpens your accuracy 23

Recommendation for Sex Education Shinken Experience As a Result of Exposure to Porn/Erotic Materials: • Publics are lured to pursue physical sensual pleasures at will • Their Perception on The Purpose of Sex: Priority change. Creation of New Life (1 st priority) Sensual pleasure (1 st priority) Sharpens your accuracy 24

Recommendation for Sex Education Shinken Experience When the Priority of Having a Sex is switched: Creation of New Life (1 st priority) vs. Sexual pleasure (2 nd) Sexual pleasure (1 st priority) vs. Creation of New Life (2 nd). • • Weak family relationship (divorce) Abortion Deserted new born babies, Intoxication (drugs, alcoholics), Sharpens your accuracy 25

Recommendation for Sex Education Shinken Experience Publics are paying “high price” for discharging sexual liquid at will : 1. 2. 3. 4. Healthy Relationship – deteriorating Competitiveness – weaker learning/memory/comprehensive ability Health – weaker immunity Stamina – premature aging 5. Emotion management – emotional Sharpens your accuracy 26

Shinken Experience Recommendation for Sex Education Suggestion to Protect Publics from Pornographic influence: 1. 2. 3. 4. Encourage them to set 1~3 year goal that they feel meaningful. Do not suppress nor promote their sexual desire. Find suitable channel to create their awareness on the consequences of indulge self into the desire at will. Awareness on the “price” they pay in return for a short-lived pleasure. Sharpens your accuracy 27

Shinken Experience Recommendation for Sex Education Suggestion to Protect Publics from Pornographic influence: 5. Advice them to check the symptoms (before vs. after): • Feel impatient when trying to concentrate in learning/listening • Poor comprehension ability (blank minded) • Deterioration of health & stamina (cold /sports) • Stiff joints/weak knee • Unable to sleep well at night (stay awake at night) • Backache (around kidney area) • Emotional Sharpens your accuracy 28

Shinken Experience Recommendation for Sex Education Suggestion to Protect Publics from Pornographic influence: 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Avoid being alone in a room. Encourage activities: sports, martial arts, music, painting, etc. Parents’ Role - Leadership by example The purpose of Sex: Creation of New Life vs. Sensual pleasure Be Alert of the influence from media and peers. Sharpens your accuracy 29

Recommendation for Sex Education Shinken Experience Lastly, the following are quotes from the wise men: – “精力善用、自他共栄” 嘉納治五郎＜柔道百年の歴史＞ Use your energy wisely, so that we & others will prosper together – “身に楽しみをたくまず”: 宮本武蔵＜独行道＞ Do not arbitrarily indulge into physical sensual pleasures. ~ For the sake of the Sustainability of This Mankind. Sharpens your accuracy 30