Privileged and Perspective Taking Do you really see

Privileged and Perspective Taking Do you really see what others see?

Perspectives

CONFLICT STYLE? This Photo by Unknown Author is licensed under CC BY-SA-NC This Photo by Unknown Author is licensed under CC BY-SA -NC

Strong, Healthy, and Effective Relationships Working with Others Social Awareness Self-Management Self-Awareness “EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE … AND PURPOSE”

A Factual Historical Perspective….

White Privilege

Understanding My Privilege | Sue Borrego | TEDx. Pasadena. Women

Privilege/Class/Social Inequalities Explained in a $100 Race - Please Watch to the End. Thanks.

That Moment I Understood White Privilege

Your Privilege Is Showing | Lillian Medville | TEDx. Beacon. Street

PART THREE: PRACTICAL APPLICATIONS AT HOME … AND HEALING What should Privilege and Equality at Home look like? This Photo by Unknown Author is licensed under CC BY-NC

ANGER AND BLAMERS… WHO’S FAULT IS IT?

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE …WITH ISSUES OF: DISCRIMINATION, PERSPECTIVE, PRIVILEGE AND ABUSE This Photo by Unknown Author is licensed under CC BY-ND

What are some ways that we come to “know stuff”? Is your experiences truly the same as anyone else's? Gender? Race? Health? Financial status?

The Invisible package of unearned benefits 1. What are some areas of benefits that a person cannot, or does not earn? 2. Is it possible that we are blind to how our privilege benefits us when it is all we have ever known?

The antidote to Shame is EMPATHY Can I see the race through the other runners’ eyes? The runners in the race: Empathy does not say that the runners at the front did not work hard too, it just says that their hard work may not yield equal results at their fellow runners’ hard work.

EQUALITY AT HOME LOOKS LIKE…? (From the Duluth Model) Negotiating and Fairness? Non-Threatening Behavior? • Seeking mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict “Talking and acting so that the other feels safe and comfortable in sharing one’s true self and in doing things. • Accepting change • Being willing to compromise Respect? • Listening nonjudgmentally • Being emotionally affirming and understanding • Valuing opinions This Photo by Unknown Author is licensed under CC BY

EQUALITY AT HOME… From the Duluth Model (Cont. ) Trust and Support? Honesty and Accountability? Responsible Parenting? • Support their goals in life • Accepting responsibility for self • Acknowledging past use of mistreatment • Admitting being wrong • Communicating openly and truthfully • Sharing parental responsibilities • Respecting their right to their own feelings, friends, activities and opinions • Being a positive no-violent role model for the children

EQUALITY AT HOME… From the Duluth Model (Cont. ) Shared Responsibility? Economic Partnership? • Mutually agreeing on a fair distribution of work • Making money decisions together • Making family decisions together This Photo by Unknown Author is licensed under CC BY-NC-ND • Making sure both partners benefit from financial arrangements

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND ISSUES OF DISCRIMINATION 1. Is yelling actually a way to solve or avoid? 2. Aren’t issues of discrimination similar to DV? 3. Has avoiding worked in issues of discrimination? 4. Does avoiding or blame really work well at home? This Photo by Unknown Author is licensed under CC BY-ND

IF YOU HAVE EQUALITY AT HOME, WILL THERE BE POWER AND CONTROL ISSUES? ? This Photo by Unknown Author is licensed under CC BY-ND