Positive Relationships Lesson 4 Step 3 Look for

Positive Relationships Lesson 4 Step 3: Look for Win-Wins www. otb. ie/WWB www. weavingwellbeing. com

Conflicts in Relationships • What do you think conflict is? • Conflict is a disagreement or argument about something that you feel is important • Conflict can be stressful for everyone involved. Why do you think that is? www. otb. ie/WWB www. weavingwellbeing. com 2

Differences of Opinion – Who is right? What do you see in this image? Some people will see a vase in the centre while others will see two faces looking at each other. Both are correct. www. otb. ie/WWB www. weavingwellbeing. com

Differences of Opinion – Who is right? • People can see completely different things here – but both can be right at the same time • People can disagree with each other but the more time they listen and try to understand the other person’s viewpoint the more disputes and conflicts can be reduced and even eliminated www. otb. ie/WWB www. weavingwellbeing. com

4 Possible Outcomes When there is a conflict between people, there are four possible results or outcomes. Can you guess what they might be? Let’s find out what they are! www. otb. ie/WWB www. weavingwellbeing. com

Conflicts - 4 Possible Outcomes • Win-Lose: We insist on getting our way without any regard to the other person • Lose-Win: We just give in to the other person even though we are very unhappy with outcome www. otb. ie/WWB www. weavingwellbeing. com

Conflicts - 4 Possible Outcomes • Lose-Lose: Both people are unwilling to change their position and in the end this results in an outcome that no one is happy with • Win-Win: Both people work to come up with a solution that they both feel good about www. otb. ie/WWB www. weavingwellbeing. com

Example of 4 Outcomes Win-Lose-Win We are playing by my rules I don’t care what you say!! OK we will play by your rules but I really don’t like this!! Lose-Lose Win-Win If you are going to be like that I am just not going to play today!! So we play by your rules today and my rules tomorrow – great!! In pairs, share any experiences you may have had with any of these outcomes! www. otb. ie/WWB www. weavingwellbeing. com

Consequences of each outcome No one wants Lose-Lose. Both people feel bad about what has happened and relationships can be damaged. If you always insist on Win-Lose this will result in a lot of Lose-Win or Lose-Lose outcomes in further disputes as the other person has enough and wants a little revenge!! www. otb. ie/WWB www. weavingwellbeing. com

Consequences of each outcome Lose-Win may avoid conflict in the moment but lead to future conflict if you feel upset and look for revenge. Win-Win makes you both feel good about the outcome and it can strengthen your relationship over time. www. otb. ie/WWB www. weavingwellbeing. com

Finding Win-Win Solutions • Finding the best solution can take a little more time but it is worth it • It requires us to listen to the other person to understand why there is a conflict and how their needs can be met www. otb. ie/WWB www. weavingwellbeing. com

Have a Look! http: //www. otb. ie/wwb-dr-seuss • Let’s look at a short video about a conflict that arose • Think what approach each person took and whether it was effective or not www. otb. ie/WWB www. weavingwellbeing. com

Pupil Book Time Now it’s time to do some activities in our Weaving Well-Being Pupil Books. We will also have a homework challenge to try this week to help us to create our own well-being. www. otb. ie/WWB www. weavingwellbeing. com