Personality Development Personality n Personality makes humans different

Personality Development

Personality n Personality makes humans different from each other n Everything what you are and how you do things n It is the way you dress, walk and talk n Smart or not

Good Personality n Pleasing n Pleasant n Persuasive n V 01

Good Personality n Easy to move with n Fun to be with n Interesting n Appraised by the others n Self motivated n Value for every moment

Definition of Personality - A relatively stable set of characteristics that influences an individual’s behavior

Personality – the principles Mental Physical Personality Behavior Social

What is Personality? n n Mental – the thinking – temperament Physical – the look – good looking Behavior – the act – etiquette Social – the perception – character

A. Mental The thinking Temperament Genetics Environment

Personality Types n n n Carl Jung, Swiss psychiatrist believed that we are one of two personality types: Introvert: Shy, self-centered person whose attention is focused inward Extrovert: Bold, outgoing person whose attention is directed outward

How to have relaxed mind n n n Hobbies Sports Meditation Others Religious activities Lets measure your personality later

Openness to experience: n (inventive/curious vs. consistent/cautious). Appreciation for art, emotion, adventure, unusual ideas, curiosity, and variety of experience. Openness reflects the degree of intellectual curiosity, creativity and a preference for novelty and variety a person has. It is also described as the extent to which a person is imaginative or independent, and depicts a personal preference for a variety of activities over a strict routine. Some disagreement remains about how to interpret the openness factor, which is sometimes called "intellect" rather than openness to experience.

Extraversion: n (outgoing/energetic vs. solitary/reserved). Energy, positive emotions, surgency, assertiveness, sociability and the tendency to seek stimulation in the company of others, and talkativeness.

Conscientiousness: n (efficient/organized vs. easygoing/careless). A tendency to show self -discipline, act dutifully, and aim for achievement; planned rather than spontaneous behavior; organized, and dependable.

Agreeableness: n (friendly/compassionate vs. cold/unkind). A tendency to be compassionate and cooperative rather than suspicious and antagonistic towards others. It is also a measure of one's trusting and helpful nature, and whether a person is generally well tempered or not.

Neuroticism: n n (sensitive/nervous vs. secure/confident). The tendency to experience unpleasant emotions easily, such as anger, anxiety, depression, or vulnerability. Neuroticism also refers to the degree of emotional stability and impulse control and is sometimes referred to by its low pole, "emotional stability".

B. The body the look – good looking

Personality – the look 1. Posture 2. Clothing 3. Figure /shape 4. Artifacts

1. Posture n Actions speak louder than the words n Your body speaks on behalf of you n Act like at Unique Person n The method n Hold your head and chest high n Keep your spine straight n Legs straight, together n Arms, hands either side n Sit on the 45 degree, legs together n No scratching , break dance n How to sneeze, cough n Walk straight , arm movement

2. Clothing n Appropriate n Color n Suitability n Clean n Ironed n Attractive

4. Artifacts n n Ear rings Bangles Bags Others

3. Body n n n Height Weight Face Hair Nails Smell

C. Behavior the act – etiquette Self confidence Well mannered

Outcome of Behaviour n n Positive n Aggressive n Slow, takes time Negative n Aggressive n Slow and Boring

C. Behavior - Self Confidence n Knowing what and when to do n Getting along without feeling superior or inferior n Knowing your abilities and limitations – n Actions – etiquette n n How to greet n Hand shake - n Thanking n Conclusion n Dining etiquette Smiling & Communication

Smiling

What is it ? n Human is the only animal who can smile n We are born with a smile, babies can smile as much as 02 days n Need not to train to smile because it is the programmed behavior

What is it ? . . n Our faces are made to smile n 18 different types of smiling and all represent n n Happiness, enjoyment and pleasure It is easier to smile than frown, since it uses 06 muscles instead 18 n It never hurts to smile, than frowning -try your self !

How will it help you? n Helps to feel lighter n Makes you healthier n Makes you an approachable person n Gain more friends n Only enjoyment in the world wont cost you a cent.

What to do when you can not smile? n Get out of the sadness immediately n Find the silver lining quickly n Associate positive, smiling people n Think about toady , now …the present moment ! Past is an experience & future is a challenge.

How to get more to smile? n Explain the brighter side of smiling n Smiling is the best infection in the world so spread it fast n Continue to smile with frowning people they will give up fast since it hurts them

How to get more to smile? n Put up sign boards n Beware! “You are now entering in to a highly infectious area of smiling” n Human is the only living thing in the whole world that can smile. “ Are you human” n “Live long without an additional cost , smile throughout the life time”

Foot note n “A smile costs nothing, but gives so much in return, it enriches those who give it. It only take a moment , but the memory of it lingers for ever……No one else in the world, rich or poor can get along without it, . So go ahead and smile! - Dr Kithsiri Edirisinghe -

Now stop sleeping, …. smile now!

Communication Dr. Kithsiri Edirisinghe MBBS MSc. MD (Medical Administration)

The Donkey

What is Communication ? n Process of transmitting an information form one person to another

What is Effective communication ? n “Sending a message that is wellunderstood by the receiver, as intended by the sender”

Communication Process Sender Message Feed Back Channel Receiver

Functions of Communication 1. Emotional expression 2. Information 3. Motivation 4. Control

Interpersonal Communication n n Written Oral

Principles in oral Communication 1. Active listening 2. Words 3. Tone 4. Non Verbal activities

1. Active Listing n You have two ears but one mouth n Don’t disturb the flow n n n Show interest with appropriate facial movements Paraphrase; make sounds of understanding & encouragement Eye contact

Eye Communication n n Monitor feedback Secure attention and interest Regulate or control conversation Signal nature of relationship Compensate for physical distance

Eye Contact • • Average length of gaze in US 2. 95 seconds Mutual Gaze 1. 18 seconds Staring Contest Civil inattention – averting your eyes Signal lack of interest

2. Words n Language n Clear n Simple n Suitable n Humble words

3. Tone n “Full option” n Caring n Confident n Authoritative n Suitable n Breathing

4. Non-Verbal Communication “The body says what words cannot. ” - Martha Graham, Choreographer-

4. Non Verbal n Presentation n Space n Posture n Eye contact n Associated movements

Non-Verbal Communication “The body says what words cannot. ” - Martha Graham, Choreographer-

Non-Verbal Communication 1. Kinetics Body 2. Haptics Touch 3. Paralanguage 4. Spatial Non-Verbal elements of speech Space 5. Artifactual Objects 6. Olfactory Smells

1. Kinetics Body Gestures

Body Gestures (Kinetics) I. Emblems – signs II. Illustrators III. Affect Displays IV. Regulators V. Adaptors VI. Eye communication

I. Emblems n n n Substitute for words and have rather specific verbal translations. Okay sign Hitchhiker’s sign Wave Other signs – foreign

II. Illustrators n n n Accompany and literally illustrate verbal messages. Fish Tales: Hands far apart when talking about something large Public speaking

III. Affect Displays n n Movements of the face that convey emotional meaning. Happiness, surprise, fear, anger, sadness, disgust, etc.

IV. Regulators n n n Monitor, maintain, or control the speaking of another individual. Facial expressions and hand gestures “Keep going” “Slow down” “what else happened? ”

V. Adaptors n n 1. 2. 3. Satisfy some need Three kinds: Self Adaptors – physical need Alter Adaptors – response to interactions Object Adaptors – manipulation of an object

VI. Eye Communication n n Monitor feedback Secure attention and interest Regulate or control conversation Signal nature of relationship Compensate for physical distance

VII. Eye Contact • • Average length of gaze in US 2. 95 seconds Mutual Gaze 1. 18 seconds Staring Contest Civil inattention – averting your eyes Signal lack of interest

2. Touch Haptics

Touch Communication 1. Positive Emotions 2. Playfulness 3. Control – higher status person initiates touch 4. Ritualistic – hello and goodbye 5. Task-Related – fever, helping out of a

Touch Avoidance n n n More likely with people who have communication apprehension. High among low self disclosers Influenced by age and gender

3. Paralanguage n n n Vocal, but nonverbal dimension of speech. Rate Volume Rhyth Pitch

Functions of Silence n Time to Think n Hurt Others n Response to Anxiety n Communicate Emotional Responses n Achieve Specific Effects n Nothing to Say

4. Space Spatial Messages

Spatial Messages— approximate Distances n n n Intimate Distance Personal Distance Social Distance 0 -18 in-4 ft – 12 ft – 25+ ft n Public Distance

Spatial Messages— Theories About Space n n n Protection Theory Equilibrium Theory Expectancy Violations Theory

Protection Theory n Establish a buffer zone around your body as protection against unwanted touching or attack

Equilibrium Theory n The greater the intimacy the closer the distance.

Expectancy Violations Theory n n Explains what happens when you increase or decrease distances Cultural expectation Small violations Fixed ideas

Spatial Messages—Territoriality n n Possessive reaction to an area or particular object Primary – your room, desk Secondary – neighborhood, favorite table Public – shopping mall, city park

5. Artifactual Communication n Space Decoration n Color Communication n Clothing and Body decoration

6. Olfactory Communication n 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. Smell communication Attraction messages Humans emit sexual attractions Odors to feel better Taste impaired without smell Memory messages Identification Messages

Communication is the success factor in today's world Thank you!

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